I'm slowly, but surely, starting to move onto landing dates with girls. I have a date coming up this weekend with a girl and I was wondering if anyone could give some advice and key points to follow while on the date. My intentions are to date this girl, not just bag then leave her. I don't have much experience on dates because I actually haven't been consistent with dates. Thanks for the advice in advance!
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This is coming from someone who is also relatively inexperienced. So take what I say with a grain of salt.
Anyways, if this is your first date in a long time, I recommend you just go on autopilot. In other words, do whatever comes naturally. Obviously, there's no guarantee you will be successful, and that's not even the point. The point is to figure out what you're naturally doing right and wrong.
After the date, whether it goes well or not, reflect on it. Figure out in which areas you're solid and in which ones you need work. Pick the top three things you're bad at, and try to work on them for and on your next date. I like to keep a journal of this stuff, There's also a field report section of this website which you can write them on if you want to be held accountable.
If you've been on dates recently, then instead of going on autopilot, I would figure out the top three things which need work based on those past dates, and work on them in this upcoming one.
If you don't know what these "things" you should be looking for are, look over Chase's articles. He has more information than you could possibly want/need.
In terms of what you should "do" get the girl this particular girl, I feel like if you've read the material on this blog, there isn't much I can really tell you. You're either naturally an attractive enough man to get her or you're not.
So try to relax, and have fun!
Hope this helps.
Anyways, if this is your first date in a long time, I recommend you just go on autopilot. In other words, do whatever comes naturally. Obviously, there's no guarantee you will be successful, and that's not even the point. The point is to figure out what you're naturally doing right and wrong.
After the date, whether it goes well or not, reflect on it. Figure out in which areas you're solid and in which ones you need work. Pick the top three things you're bad at, and try to work on them for and on your next date. I like to keep a journal of this stuff, There's also a field report section of this website which you can write them on if you want to be held accountable.
If you've been on dates recently, then instead of going on autopilot, I would figure out the top three things which need work based on those past dates, and work on them in this upcoming one.
If you don't know what these "things" you should be looking for are, look over Chase's articles. He has more information than you could possibly want/need.
In terms of what you should "do" get the girl this particular girl, I feel like if you've read the material on this blog, there isn't much I can really tell you. You're either naturally an attractive enough man to get her or you're not.
So try to relax, and have fun!
Hope this helps.
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Good advice from Bboy100, yes, it's definitely important to be yourself (but your "best" self... which is your natural self minus all social filters plus all game you've learned) and to reflect on / analyze the interaction afterwards. But I also have some more specific advice, I would have liked to get in first with this and actually I typed out the following post on the train earlier today, but for some reason it didn't post. So from memory:
It would be helpful to know what kind of date you've set up, ideally it would be a Starbucks or similar near your home... something pretty casual, however, nearly any kind of date is fine and can be accommodated if you have the right date plan.
Your date plan is essentially your logistics, the sequence of events, and how you will escalate.
Example: Meet at university for a coffee -> suggest sitting by the river -> get close and escalate touch -> suggest going to Botanical Gardens to watch the sunset -> drive there, getting her used to sitting in your car -> walk around the gardens, kiss her somewhere secluded (new guys should skip this step and wait until you have her isolated) -> suggest making some dinner -> drive her home to your house via the supermarket (a 30 min drive) -> start to prepare food, kiss her within 10 minutes.
This is an actual date plan I have used with success several times, the reason I did it this way was because of my poor logistics and the fact I'd have to build a lot of comfort to firstly get her in my car and secondly get her comfortable with coming to the outer suburbs with me. So basically you need to consider what will be the problems you'll encounter (housemates/parents... lack of transport/money... etc) and have a date plan that will accommodate them.
The other most important thing (in my opinion) is your vibe / conversation. Remember, a date is not a friendly hangout with a buddy! Yet, this is how it often goes for me, because of my naturally friendly yet neutral vibe. If you don't do something to address this, she'll have a fun time with you chatting about all kinds of topics, then thank you for a wonderful time, and disappear, never to be seen again. So you need to be taking it sexual from the outset, indirectly referencing sex (but not directly referencing sex between the two of you) and getting her thinking about sex and hoping and anticipating that you'll be making a move very soon.
I'm happy to help with either of these things by providing specific examples, etc, especially if you can give a little context, but there's plenty on the site also.
-Ray
Edit: And, very importantly, if you have any Girlschase tabs open on your phone etc then close them all and clear the browsing history and do same on your PCs.
It would be helpful to know what kind of date you've set up, ideally it would be a Starbucks or similar near your home... something pretty casual, however, nearly any kind of date is fine and can be accommodated if you have the right date plan.
Your date plan is essentially your logistics, the sequence of events, and how you will escalate.
Example: Meet at university for a coffee -> suggest sitting by the river -> get close and escalate touch -> suggest going to Botanical Gardens to watch the sunset -> drive there, getting her used to sitting in your car -> walk around the gardens, kiss her somewhere secluded (new guys should skip this step and wait until you have her isolated) -> suggest making some dinner -> drive her home to your house via the supermarket (a 30 min drive) -> start to prepare food, kiss her within 10 minutes.
This is an actual date plan I have used with success several times, the reason I did it this way was because of my poor logistics and the fact I'd have to build a lot of comfort to firstly get her in my car and secondly get her comfortable with coming to the outer suburbs with me. So basically you need to consider what will be the problems you'll encounter (housemates/parents... lack of transport/money... etc) and have a date plan that will accommodate them.
The other most important thing (in my opinion) is your vibe / conversation. Remember, a date is not a friendly hangout with a buddy! Yet, this is how it often goes for me, because of my naturally friendly yet neutral vibe. If you don't do something to address this, she'll have a fun time with you chatting about all kinds of topics, then thank you for a wonderful time, and disappear, never to be seen again. So you need to be taking it sexual from the outset, indirectly referencing sex (but not directly referencing sex between the two of you) and getting her thinking about sex and hoping and anticipating that you'll be making a move very soon.
I'm happy to help with either of these things by providing specific examples, etc, especially if you can give a little context, but there's plenty on the site also.
-Ray
Edit: And, very importantly, if you have any Girlschase tabs open on your phone etc then close them all and clear the browsing history and do same on your PCs.