Dating apps: window shoppers/go silent when meet up proposed

[LearningMan]

Got one great pic and a couple good ones. I'm getting more hits on tinder. Also on POFand OKCupid.

Witty banter, loling, smiley faces(both of us).......then the "hey let grab a drink, Whats your schedule?"


And they either go unresponsive or give me some excuse. What gives?
Really difficult to remain optimistic when this is becoming the norm.
A few of them I can definitely pinpoint where I flubbed, but the others are just WTF?

Oh except the girl 7 hours away that randomly visited my OKCupid profile....had some good convo, she called me "foxy" and said she would show me around Miami if I made it down that way.

Did go on one tinder lunch date....but she told me at the last minute her daughter would be with us...yay

 

[ProblemSolving]

This is to be expected. With each compliance step you're going to screen some girls out. What that means is, when you send an opener to a girl, not everyone will respond, of those that respond, some will be lost when you propose a meet up, of those that respond, some will be lost when you go for the number, of those that respond, some will be lost when you call them. You just have to keep hammering away.

Having said that, I personally never ask for her schedule unless she's busy for the days that I propose to meet up. Most girls are terrible planners, so don't leave it up to them to figure out their schedule. When you get her number, give her a call, and set a date on the phone. It's far easier and quicker to figure out logistics and schedules on the phone and calling them will screen out the flakes.

 

[NotRealFakeDude]

Hey man,
Recently I just reached 500 tinder matches after using it for about two years. Ive gotten somewhere between 50-100 phone numbers. Idk the exact number. And off of that I've gotten between 15-20 actual dates. And off of that I've hooked up with 9 of those girls. And most of those girls aren't very attractive, they are almost always less attractive than their profile pic. So basically the odds are not in your favor. Basically it's a 1/50 chance that you'll get with a match on tinder. I'm also college age and on a college campus so there is an abundance of girls on tinder that are receptive. I'm also fairly attractive and I rarely Left swipe so I get a lot of matches.

 

[Estate]

Online and especially something like Tinder... it's flakey. People are weird. It's more of a game or something to pass the time than anything.

I've met a few girls from it in person and really only 1 of then was actually hot and fun.

I think guys get this weird impression that they wont approach a girl in the street and get to know her but they'll send some chat up lines to the same girl over Tinder and she'll come right over for sex. It doesn't add up. It's not really going to happen... or well, it CAN but it's rarely the sort of girl you'd really want.

I think you've just got to stop taking it so seriously. It's just a time passing game. Occasionally you'll click with a girl and actually strike up some rapport but it's more the exception than the rule. Hot girls get laid without trawling these apps... if she is... somethings not right.