Socializing Dating Stories - Vibbing With Other Guys

[BarryS1]

My dating stories freak people out so I have a hard time conversing with other guys about the subject. I have been in a lot of social circles lately and there reaches a point in the friendship with other guys where we talk about past relationships. However, the only girls I've dated are those I see 1-2 times and bang in my car/public place.

I don't have anything normal to relate to other guys about when swapping girls stories. I am selective who I share these stories with, only guys who love showboating about their exploits (typical though seeing a girl for a couple months from a bar bullcrap). I've told 2-3 guys that I don't believe in relationships and would rather "toot it and boot it", but get a typical reaction:

-That's rapist shit
-No good girl would do that
-That's horrible get your life together
-You'll end up lonely one day

Nowadays, I completely avoid the topic of dating, even if it disturbs the bonding process.

Anyone else dealing with this problem?

 

[Franco]

BarryS1,

It sounds like you've been hanging out with some nerds there, Barry!

While I do have plenty of nerdy friends myself, the guys who actually go out with me are much closer to "assholes" when it comes to women than they are "nice guys." My roommate has even earned the nickname "homewrecker" by a few of my friends because of all of the girls he's slept with that have boyfriends!

A few of my guy friends usually just fist bump me when they see me the next time after picking up some chick at a bar and banging her. They don't really ask me if I saw her again or not either, but they might comment on the fact that she was hot (if she was).

I have all types of friends, and some of them I discuss my dating life with, and some of them I don't. It's important to quickly identify which people in your social circle will want to hear the stories you have to tell and which ones are judgmental and will be disgusted by it. It doesn't make them bad people -- it just makes them ill-informed and ill-experienced. Nothing to harp on there; just make sure you understand that there are lots of guys who are still brainwashed by the media and don't really understand what women want.

Hope that helps.

- Franco

 

[BarryS1]

Yup now that I am in social circles, all my guy friends are nerds. Some may dress well and be put together career-wise, but that doesn't hide it all the way. To be honest, my perspective is skewed b/c I quit socializing from when I was 17 to a few months ago. I have no idea what's common among different types of guys.

These are guys who I spend time with at hackathons, conferences, training events, and even my self-defense class. I'd never hit a bar with these guys in a million years haha! The only time I meet girls are with female friends or by myself.

I need to branch out in my areas, but befriend more assholes! Where have all the good guys gone