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Recently moved to Europe, starting fresh. I'll be journaling my progress.
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Approach #1.
I am in East Europe currently. I got an Air BnB and surprisingly met a great neighbor. Long story short, we go out and I find out he has great game. We go out to explore and he's just chatting up everyone.
I see a girl by herself taking pictures of the place. So I approach her from the side and just start talking to her. I asked her if she wanted a photo and she is receptive.
We talk about what we're doing here. I tell her I'm passing by and traveling and she's also visiting town just for a night before she goes back to town.
She asks me what I do and I tell her that I'm a student and studying X. We get to talking about our majors and why we did. I 'qualified' her saying I love her energy and she says thank you.
When she mentions that she's going back to the capital, I tell her ah I'm visiting there in a few days and that she should show me around.
I think this was way too early and she kind of side-stepped saying she has finals this week and probably can't. I say no problem. (Which kind of surprised me since we had a good vibe going)
We exchanged social media (I don't have a local phone number) and she's been watching all of my stories.
I recently hit her up, so we'll see what happens.
Few mistakes:
1. Being too eager and asking her to show me around. I think it was too fast and she rebuffed it. It could've been avoided by being more focused and being more subtle to see how she would respond to my invitation.
2. I was too high energy. Whether it was because i was excited for my travels and overall energy, I should match her energy.
Overall, I'm proud of the progress and will be doing it so far.
I am in East Europe currently. I got an Air BnB and surprisingly met a great neighbor. Long story short, we go out and I find out he has great game. We go out to explore and he's just chatting up everyone.
I see a girl by herself taking pictures of the place. So I approach her from the side and just start talking to her. I asked her if she wanted a photo and she is receptive.
We talk about what we're doing here. I tell her I'm passing by and traveling and she's also visiting town just for a night before she goes back to town.
She asks me what I do and I tell her that I'm a student and studying X. We get to talking about our majors and why we did. I 'qualified' her saying I love her energy and she says thank you.
When she mentions that she's going back to the capital, I tell her ah I'm visiting there in a few days and that she should show me around.
I think this was way too early and she kind of side-stepped saying she has finals this week and probably can't. I say no problem. (Which kind of surprised me since we had a good vibe going)
We exchanged social media (I don't have a local phone number) and she's been watching all of my stories.
I recently hit her up, so we'll see what happens.
Few mistakes:
1. Being too eager and asking her to show me around. I think it was too fast and she rebuffed it. It could've been avoided by being more focused and being more subtle to see how she would respond to my invitation.
2. I was too high energy. Whether it was because i was excited for my travels and overall energy, I should match her energy.
Overall, I'm proud of the progress and will be doing it so far.
Interesting entry,
tell me more about why you feel the need to match her energy ?
also, how do you know she's not at your energy level, what gave it away from her ?
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Matching energy
- Imagine like you're studying for an exam but your roommate comeback from a party drunk and really high energy. It's a bit annoying for you and him because he wants to have fun while you want to be quiet and study. So when you meet a girl, you see where she's at (relaxed/partying/etc) and match her energy so that it feels like you two are on a similar vibe.
- What gives it away is more of an intuition. You can tell by how she responds to you. Does she look to be enjoying herself or little bit uncomfortable?
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I totally forgot about this journal and just updating my general mentality.
So I stated that I'm starting fresh in Europe. I do a lot of things solo and just go out alone. I think at first I was extremely uncomfortable. But I made it my mission to get comfortable with the uncomfortable. I purposely put myself in countries where I would stick out like a sore thumb. (My race doesn't frequent in certain countries or cities I'm visiting so people stare at me when they see me) This was extremely uncomfortable at first. But after awhile, that insecurity turned into confidence.
I forced myself to go ride a boat by myself even though there were people there, visit tourist sites, eat alone. Whatever. People who's reading this might feel like it's weird, but the more I do it, the more I'm starting to not give a fuck. Because I realized in the end, when people judge me for doing things alone, behind the judgement, those same people would be scared to do things alone.
How did I realize this? I would be in a touristy spot and people are so scared to even ask a stranger to take a picture for them even if theyre with friends or family. Their eyes light up when I ask em if they need a picture like yes omg, please.
And then I'm going around by myself asking people to take a picture for me. This type of shit gives me confidence levels that I haven't thought possible. I recently got a date after getting comfortable going around by myself.
They might think why doesn't he have friends with him? But I think about the end goal. Where I become so socially intelligent that I don't have enough time for all the friends or girls or whatever. This is just part of the process.
I'm excited about where this is going.
So I stated that I'm starting fresh in Europe. I do a lot of things solo and just go out alone. I think at first I was extremely uncomfortable. But I made it my mission to get comfortable with the uncomfortable. I purposely put myself in countries where I would stick out like a sore thumb. (My race doesn't frequent in certain countries or cities I'm visiting so people stare at me when they see me) This was extremely uncomfortable at first. But after awhile, that insecurity turned into confidence.
I forced myself to go ride a boat by myself even though there were people there, visit tourist sites, eat alone. Whatever. People who's reading this might feel like it's weird, but the more I do it, the more I'm starting to not give a fuck. Because I realized in the end, when people judge me for doing things alone, behind the judgement, those same people would be scared to do things alone.
How did I realize this? I would be in a touristy spot and people are so scared to even ask a stranger to take a picture for them even if theyre with friends or family. Their eyes light up when I ask em if they need a picture like yes omg, please.
And then I'm going around by myself asking people to take a picture for me. This type of shit gives me confidence levels that I haven't thought possible. I recently got a date after getting comfortable going around by myself.
They might think why doesn't he have friends with him? But I think about the end goal. Where I become so socially intelligent that I don't have enough time for all the friends or girls or whatever. This is just part of the process.
I'm excited about where this is going.
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I was at the airport and did 2 random approaches.
Approach #1 - Getting the covid test in Europe
While we were waiting to be called, a beautiful hispanic girl sits right next to me. I just start a conversation by asking her if we need to take a PCR test for every country we go to cause I plan on going to other countries. She doesn't know the answer so she proceeds to look it up on her phone vigorously. (She was really emanant about finding the answers for me). After awhile i just said don't worry about it, I'll ask them later.
But she continues to look it up and finds an answer.
After this I took this as a good sign to just continue the convo.
Me: Yeah I guess it depends on where you go. It's confusing cause my friend took a train in Europe and noone even checked.
Her: Yeah. I think it just depends on where you go.
Me: Where you headed?
Her: Oh I'm headed to X.
Me: Visiting? or
Her: It's my sister's wedding.
Me: Ah! Congratulations!
Her: Thank you!
Me: Older or younger?
Her: Younger.
People start getting called names for the test and she just says "We should get going!"
We get the test and I was thinking maybe she's around. But she had left.
From this brief interaction, I learned a bit.
A. Become aware of how much time you have for a conversation. Make it quick or slower depending on the time.
B. Instead of questions, go straight into attractive stories or get into quicker methods of conversation bits.
On the other hand, I wonder if she was so interested in helping me, that's a good sign that she's into me or she's just being helpful.
Approach #1 - Getting the covid test in Europe
While we were waiting to be called, a beautiful hispanic girl sits right next to me. I just start a conversation by asking her if we need to take a PCR test for every country we go to cause I plan on going to other countries. She doesn't know the answer so she proceeds to look it up on her phone vigorously. (She was really emanant about finding the answers for me). After awhile i just said don't worry about it, I'll ask them later.
But she continues to look it up and finds an answer.
After this I took this as a good sign to just continue the convo.
Me: Yeah I guess it depends on where you go. It's confusing cause my friend took a train in Europe and noone even checked.
Her: Yeah. I think it just depends on where you go.
Me: Where you headed?
Her: Oh I'm headed to X.
Me: Visiting? or
Her: It's my sister's wedding.
Me: Ah! Congratulations!
Her: Thank you!
Me: Older or younger?
Her: Younger.
People start getting called names for the test and she just says "We should get going!"
We get the test and I was thinking maybe she's around. But she had left.
From this brief interaction, I learned a bit.
A. Become aware of how much time you have for a conversation. Make it quick or slower depending on the time.
B. Instead of questions, go straight into attractive stories or get into quicker methods of conversation bits.
On the other hand, I wonder if she was so interested in helping me, that's a good sign that she's into me or she's just being helpful.
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New goal starting end of August: Make 10k approaches.