Day game in Helsinki?

[lanseri]

Hey! Any Finlanders out there?

29yr old dude here, been perusing the PUA-scene since 2008 with various successes here and there. Ever since I found GC though, it's kinda taken a new turn for me. I can really focus on bettering my own self, and not create some fake persona around me. While I love having fun and fooling around, I'm a huge proponent of honesty and being true to oneself. Not trying to make this sound like an online dating profile, but if you find yourself chill and relaxed company, please. Drop a message.

Thing is, I'm through with nightclubs and nighttime gaming. So I need to get my day game going. So basically I'm looking for some company to go chat people up with. I've been having a lot of trouble getting over my initial approach anxiety, and I think it'd help to have someone there telling me to man up.

Even if you're not currently interested in the day game thing, it'd help to have a local social dynamics-minded contact.

 

[Oskar]

Hey there, though I'm not in Helsinki, I wanted to remark that Helsinki is a fantastic city for meeting women. Though others have had different experiences than me, when I came through for a few weeks last year I had a date just about every night, and all from day game. Admittedly, I had just come from a yearlong stint in Russia, so my ability to deal with bullshit and be aggressive to get what I wanted was rather high, but still, Finns seem to especially appreciate people who are uninhibited (yet who still can maintain a degree of social grace), probably because many are plagued by high degrees of social anxiety. So if you're able to get past that anxiety you'll probably be living like a rock star. I probably doubled the numbers I had in my phone over those few weeks. And talk about beautiful people... both inside and out. I just about married one girl, and we'd only known one another for three days! I'm definitely coming back

-Oskar

P.S. For me the best place to meet people was public transportation around dawn. Where do you like to go?

 

[lanseri]

So if you're able to get past that anxiety you'll probably be living like a rock star. I probably doubled the numbers I had in my phone over those few weeks. And talk about beautiful people... both inside and out. I just about married one girl, and we'd only known one another for three days! I'm definitely coming back

-Oskar

P.S. For me the best place to meet people was public transportation around dawn. Where do you like to go?

Hehee that's cool to hear. Welcome back any time!

I hear what you're saying, and I kinda realize that. Every time I've managed to muster up the balls and actually open my mouth, people open up very quickly. And not least of all because people rarely talk to strangers around here if they're not drunk or crazy. People from more outgoing cultures say Finns are grumpy and never smile, but that's really just half the truth. It seems a lot of people love to smile and chat, but only if there's a legitimate reason for it.

Personally I'd find myself comfortable in engaging conversation if it's a music shop, one of those cd-boutiques, a bookstore.. anything with a relaxed ambience and a flavour of creativity, I guess. But I do find a certain allure in the hustle and energy of a shopping mall or train station lobby.

Tomorrow a friend of mine agreed to help me go make a fool of myself. My aim is to chat up at least 3 people and make them smile. So that'll be interesting. I've turned this approach thing into a huge Mount Everest type challenge, and I need to get past it.

 

[lanseri]

Well, I had a friend over for the weekend, and he pushed me to be social and find my limits in approaches. A few mental notes I made -

People are interesting! Heard some cool stuff. Not like earth-shatteringly new stuff, but the way women (and the men around them) react to a sexual-minded approach is always something worth experiencing.

I have a LOT to learn on persistance. There were at least three conversations with women that could've lead to something interesting if I would've persisted on. I think I'm still looking for a failure, a way out.

It's bloody effective to start with "are you single". I'm so through wasting my time with girls with exes or whatever. That question cuts through all the bullshit, makes my intentions clear and also marks me as a guy who gets things done. I'm curious to how much it leads to an auto-response of "no I have a boyfriend.", but at least the people I spoke to seemed surprisingly honest about it. I'd like to think a friendly and positive person, who I generally like to approach, are the ones who respect my honest question with an honest answer.

Got one phone number from a girl I think I should've just taken away on the spot. She hasn't answered to my two text messages, so I'm not exactly counting it as a victory. =)

But hell, this is fun. =D