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Today, Saturday, me and my buddy went to town to do some cold approaching during the day. We decided to pick a town we don't live in to practice for the first dozens of approaches, to shake off most of approach anxiety, that gives you a bad vibe.
We went to town. Weather was mediocre, but alot of people in the shopping streets. I'm a beginner, so usually the first hour or so i just walk around and visualize in real time, how i would go about approaching girls in certain situations like, if i see three girls on the corner over there or two girls walking past us or a girl cashier etc. This means skipping alot of sets from lack of balls, but usually what happens is, that the regret bottles up and eventually outweighs the fear of approaching, and you just go for it.
Me and my buddy went into the shopping center. He's even newer to it than me but i started talking game and cold approaching with him and he wanted to tag along. We walked around the shopping centre, skipping sets, until we walked past a store with almost no customers and a really hot cashier. When we passed the store i said "(Friend) i have to go in there and approach her", so we took another tour around the center and he walked past the store, but i was heading straight for the cutie. It went like this:
First set:
Me: *Walk towards her, keeping eye contact, good posture, good walk and smiling with mouth closed*
Me: "Hi, me and my friend walked passed here and i noticed you and i thought you looked really sweet (sød=sweet/cute/nice) and it came into my mind that i would like to invite you out some time."
Her: *looking very happy and smiling* "Thank you very much but i don't give my number out while i am working"
Me: "Ah, no problem. (pause) Just take it as a compliment. Have a nice weekend!"
Her: "Thank you it is very kind of you, have a nice weekend!"
And then we parted ways. When i walked from there i thought about ways how you could tackle this situation. One thing i thought, was that i could instead of saying "No problem" Could have said "I see. Listen, what's your name?" And then she would have given me her name, and then i could have said "Okay, (name) do you have something i can write with" and then she would have given me a pen and i could have written her my number down and told her, if she wanted to get together some time, she could contact me on that number and then part ways. Let me know if you agree or disagree!
Second set:
Me and my buddy walk out on the street again. We walk for a while and i feel so fucking amazing for having approached. I see two girls walk into a store and i told my friend we had to go in there, because i just saw two hotties go in. We go inside the shop and i spot them. He walk over to some shelves and i walk over to the two girls. Spoiler: I fucked this one up hard!:
Me: *Walk over to the two girls, get in front of the girl i like, they are both checking something out on the shelves. My brain is totally turned off, like right before you go into an exam and even tho you studied and planned it out all night, as soon as you enter the exam, your brain shuts off. I have no idea what to say. My vibe is bad and my positioning is bad*
Me: "Hello, what's your name?" (Completely forgot what her name was i wasnt even thinking)
Her: "Oh uhm (name)"
Me: I think i said "Oh nice to meet you (name) i am (name)"
Me: "I would like to invite you out some time"
Her: "Oh, maybe yes maybe no yeah no maybe yes" (She looked very shy and she didnt know what to say, i projected my bad vibe onto her and it clearly shown)
Me: *eject*
Bruhh dont get me started! This set burned hard as fuck and my ego took a hit. But! I reminded myself it was a great experience because you gotta throw yourself in there until your brain stop shutting off and you can think clearly. I think the sets you burn the hardest are also the ones you learn the most from. My take away from this set is that i need to slow the fuck down, take a deep breath and just be normal. It was crazy, it was over before it ended, shit went sooo fast.
Conclusion:
I have been hesitant to go out and approach girls during covid-19, but society is slowly re-opening it seems and since the young chicks are all out with their friends it probably means it's because they can't fucking stand sitting inside all day in isolation and have to get out, so i took my chances and teamed up with my buddy. Only 2 sets? Yes, but it is better than nothing. We are gonna go out every weekend from now on and do daygame. It has been fucking with my brain to keep studying pick up theory without getting out there and practice in the field. It becomes mental masturbation where you keep reading article after article on this or that while all you need to do is lay it down and go out and approach.
I think cold approach is lovely because not only is it great as personal challenge to face your fears and talk to girls, but the girls get happy as fuck too! What girl doesn't wanna hear she's cute?? I'm doing them a favour too by acting like a man and flattering them, and i feel on top of the world.
Today, Saturday, me and my buddy went to town to do some cold approaching during the day. We decided to pick a town we don't live in to practice for the first dozens of approaches, to shake off most of approach anxiety, that gives you a bad vibe.
We went to town. Weather was mediocre, but alot of people in the shopping streets. I'm a beginner, so usually the first hour or so i just walk around and visualize in real time, how i would go about approaching girls in certain situations like, if i see three girls on the corner over there or two girls walking past us or a girl cashier etc. This means skipping alot of sets from lack of balls, but usually what happens is, that the regret bottles up and eventually outweighs the fear of approaching, and you just go for it.
Me and my buddy went into the shopping center. He's even newer to it than me but i started talking game and cold approaching with him and he wanted to tag along. We walked around the shopping centre, skipping sets, until we walked past a store with almost no customers and a really hot cashier. When we passed the store i said "(Friend) i have to go in there and approach her", so we took another tour around the center and he walked past the store, but i was heading straight for the cutie. It went like this:
First set:
Me: *Walk towards her, keeping eye contact, good posture, good walk and smiling with mouth closed*
Me: "Hi, me and my friend walked passed here and i noticed you and i thought you looked really sweet (sød=sweet/cute/nice) and it came into my mind that i would like to invite you out some time."
Her: *looking very happy and smiling* "Thank you very much but i don't give my number out while i am working"
Me: "Ah, no problem. (pause) Just take it as a compliment. Have a nice weekend!"
Her: "Thank you it is very kind of you, have a nice weekend!"
And then we parted ways. When i walked from there i thought about ways how you could tackle this situation. One thing i thought, was that i could instead of saying "No problem" Could have said "I see. Listen, what's your name?" And then she would have given me her name, and then i could have said "Okay, (name) do you have something i can write with" and then she would have given me a pen and i could have written her my number down and told her, if she wanted to get together some time, she could contact me on that number and then part ways. Let me know if you agree or disagree!
Second set:
Me and my buddy walk out on the street again. We walk for a while and i feel so fucking amazing for having approached. I see two girls walk into a store and i told my friend we had to go in there, because i just saw two hotties go in. We go inside the shop and i spot them. He walk over to some shelves and i walk over to the two girls. Spoiler: I fucked this one up hard!:
Me: *Walk over to the two girls, get in front of the girl i like, they are both checking something out on the shelves. My brain is totally turned off, like right before you go into an exam and even tho you studied and planned it out all night, as soon as you enter the exam, your brain shuts off. I have no idea what to say. My vibe is bad and my positioning is bad*
Me: "Hello, what's your name?" (Completely forgot what her name was i wasnt even thinking)
Her: "Oh uhm (name)"
Me: I think i said "Oh nice to meet you (name) i am (name)"
Me: "I would like to invite you out some time"
Her: "Oh, maybe yes maybe no yeah no maybe yes" (She looked very shy and she didnt know what to say, i projected my bad vibe onto her and it clearly shown)
Me: *eject*
Bruhh dont get me started! This set burned hard as fuck and my ego took a hit. But! I reminded myself it was a great experience because you gotta throw yourself in there until your brain stop shutting off and you can think clearly. I think the sets you burn the hardest are also the ones you learn the most from. My take away from this set is that i need to slow the fuck down, take a deep breath and just be normal. It was crazy, it was over before it ended, shit went sooo fast.
Conclusion:
I have been hesitant to go out and approach girls during covid-19, but society is slowly re-opening it seems and since the young chicks are all out with their friends it probably means it's because they can't fucking stand sitting inside all day in isolation and have to get out, so i took my chances and teamed up with my buddy. Only 2 sets? Yes, but it is better than nothing. We are gonna go out every weekend from now on and do daygame. It has been fucking with my brain to keep studying pick up theory without getting out there and practice in the field. It becomes mental masturbation where you keep reading article after article on this or that while all you need to do is lay it down and go out and approach.
I think cold approach is lovely because not only is it great as personal challenge to face your fears and talk to girls, but the girls get happy as fuck too! What girl doesn't wanna hear she's cute?? I'm doing them a favour too by acting like a man and flattering them, and i feel on top of the world.
