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Approach:
So I was doing daygame with my wing 2 weeks ago. I see this blonde girl walking past me, she gives me the slightest of the looks (might have even been a random look) so I just say fuck it and approach her from behind, shouting "Hey girl with the red scarf!". She stops and turns to me, I tell her I like her scarf and then compare it to mine in a playful manner. Her eyes can't hide her interest. I do some basic, usual, quick rapport building. Learned she's doing her Master's in Sociology. Turns out we have an acquaintance in common. She asks "what happened to your friend, did you shoo him away?" I said he went to the Irish pub to use the restroom, so she jumps in saying that place is really nice and cozy. So of course I use this escalation window: "How about we grab a drink there some time?". She's like "Sure!" So I say let's trade contact info, but then she gets really anxious for a second realizing she forgot her phone at the uni, I just give her a quick laugh and put my phone in her hand. After she puts her number in my phone I'm about to say farewell, she looks into my eyes and asks "Wait, how old are you?" So I tell her my age (early twenties), and she says "Well I'm 27" so I just shrug my shoulders and tell her it's nice to talk to someone who knows what they're talking about. And she says "don't be sure
" so I squeze her hand goodbye (used to do hugging, but it's a tension breaker and a bit odd in daygame).
Date:
She gives me some shittests over text but otherwise it's relatively straightforward to set up date in the Irish pub. I arrive and order my drink (bitter lemon), she comes to my left side by the bar in a tight black dress. Now I greet her and hug her. Then I say "Aren't you going to grab something to drink" in a very casual tone (lol, this was over my comfort zone because she was assuming I was gonna buy her drinks) so she gets a glass of red wine and I lead her to a corner where there are comfy leather seats. So we sit together and I deep dive her, usual stuff. She tried to put the spotlight on me a fair bit, but I turned it around and explored her desires. Turns out she used to live in a small town close to this city for most of her life and is sick of the small place and its people. Doing the 2.3 kids and marriage stuff. So it seems she's pretty independent and non-idealistic about sex and dating, also not having too much of a drive, rather enjoying her time with friends and other stuff like that. She mentions that she really admired my courage to talk to her and complains that Dutch men are pussified and don't have any manners. She also responded nicely to light touching and she initiated touching my arms herself. I think I'm starting to finally get a feel for eliciting values and what girls respond to, so of course from that point on I highlight some behaviors that would mesh with her values.
After 45 mins to an hour of talking I say the pub is getting really rowdy and I suggest we get some fresh air and walk outside. She happily agrees. It's raining outside so I take over the umbrella and non-verbally get her to snuggle up to my arm as we walk to the city station where our bikes are parked. After some light banter, she says "I wonder if anything is open in the city at this time?" I reply "probably not" (she's probably thinking I missed her escalation window at this point so i say "let's drink some tea" and she says "Sure but where?" so I say "I can brew some". She then looks at my with a sexy smile and says "Smooth . . . but I'm not going home with you tonight." So I am completely unreactive so this. only perhaps a slight grin on my face, and I keep walking and leading her as I listen to the calm sound of the rain. She crumbles under pressure and says "Wait, aren't you like upset or something?", so I lightly shrug my shoulders and say "Nope, why would I be?". And after walking a bit more I stop under a shop and the conversation turns really sexual from this point on. She starts telling me (in summary) how "she's over the hookup scene". And that random flings don't give joy to her anymore and that she could simply come over to my place to have sex otherwise. I keep my cool and just listen to her. She mentions "yeah, my clock is ticking too" so I say "So what, you're looking to find a man to put a bun in that, pointing at her belly" and she doesn't know what to respond, saying "No, actually.. Yeah I don't know." I know that this conversation has dragged on too much in the middle of the street and that I need to take action, so I give her a manhandle kiss and she goes in the softest voice "nah . . . nope . . . nope..." and after we kiss it turns into a soft relief from her "hmmmm". And we both laugh at her weird reaction, then she says sorry and that she shouldn't be doing this while smiling. I ignore that too, talk more and lead her to the parking lot.
Here we talk for another 30 mins, but I give her DEEP eye contact, more like eye fucking. And she's saying "Uhm, if only we met 2 years ago, I was such a slut then, but I'm trying to change this behavior" so I also share some of my past experiences with girls (relatability + preselection + sex talk). And I tell her to not worry about the ordeal, saying she doesn't have to feel bad and that she should enjoy the moment. Then I tell her not to flirt with me so much and she says "I'm not flirting??". I say "stop biting your lips" and push her away, adding "stop being so kissable" and she goes pretty crazy at this point, she blurts out: "you're so fucking attractive". I pull her into me and we kiss 2 or 3 times. Then I hug her, and she says I smell really good. I try to pull her again when the conversation thread is right, mentioning I have wine at home, but she says she can't but she's standing there not getting enough of me. I tell her to relax and just consider it. But I specifically told her "not to think too much tonight . . . in bed . . . not to . . . imagine things . . ." and see her eyes sparkle. And she implies that she'll be playing with herself thinking about me. So I close the conversation threads and start to leave, and she's now saying "well this feels different, are you really that young?" and I just nod at her and smile. Then I grab her hand for a second before we part ways riding our bikes in the rain. (tried to make it a bit over the top passionate and romantic, but it comes naturally to me) 5 mins later she texts me saying "it was great to meet you oh great Alchemist".
Result:
I texted her the following morning, then set up a date for next Friday at my place. Telling her "I'll cook a delicious chicken meal for you, if you promise to behave" and after some banter she agrees to come over in the evening. I'll post here the updates of what happens next
Lessons learned:
Comments and criticism welcome!
So I was doing daygame with my wing 2 weeks ago. I see this blonde girl walking past me, she gives me the slightest of the looks (might have even been a random look) so I just say fuck it and approach her from behind, shouting "Hey girl with the red scarf!". She stops and turns to me, I tell her I like her scarf and then compare it to mine in a playful manner. Her eyes can't hide her interest. I do some basic, usual, quick rapport building. Learned she's doing her Master's in Sociology. Turns out we have an acquaintance in common. She asks "what happened to your friend, did you shoo him away?" I said he went to the Irish pub to use the restroom, so she jumps in saying that place is really nice and cozy. So of course I use this escalation window: "How about we grab a drink there some time?". She's like "Sure!" So I say let's trade contact info, but then she gets really anxious for a second realizing she forgot her phone at the uni, I just give her a quick laugh and put my phone in her hand. After she puts her number in my phone I'm about to say farewell, she looks into my eyes and asks "Wait, how old are you?" So I tell her my age (early twenties), and she says "Well I'm 27" so I just shrug my shoulders and tell her it's nice to talk to someone who knows what they're talking about. And she says "don't be sure
" so I squeze her hand goodbye (used to do hugging, but it's a tension breaker and a bit odd in daygame).Date:
She gives me some shittests over text but otherwise it's relatively straightforward to set up date in the Irish pub. I arrive and order my drink (bitter lemon), she comes to my left side by the bar in a tight black dress. Now I greet her and hug her. Then I say "Aren't you going to grab something to drink" in a very casual tone (lol, this was over my comfort zone because she was assuming I was gonna buy her drinks) so she gets a glass of red wine and I lead her to a corner where there are comfy leather seats. So we sit together and I deep dive her, usual stuff. She tried to put the spotlight on me a fair bit, but I turned it around and explored her desires. Turns out she used to live in a small town close to this city for most of her life and is sick of the small place and its people. Doing the 2.3 kids and marriage stuff. So it seems she's pretty independent and non-idealistic about sex and dating, also not having too much of a drive, rather enjoying her time with friends and other stuff like that. She mentions that she really admired my courage to talk to her and complains that Dutch men are pussified and don't have any manners. She also responded nicely to light touching and she initiated touching my arms herself. I think I'm starting to finally get a feel for eliciting values and what girls respond to, so of course from that point on I highlight some behaviors that would mesh with her values.
After 45 mins to an hour of talking I say the pub is getting really rowdy and I suggest we get some fresh air and walk outside. She happily agrees. It's raining outside so I take over the umbrella and non-verbally get her to snuggle up to my arm as we walk to the city station where our bikes are parked. After some light banter, she says "I wonder if anything is open in the city at this time?" I reply "probably not" (she's probably thinking I missed her escalation window at this point
so i say "let's drink some tea" and she says "Sure but where?" so I say "I can brew some". She then looks at my with a sexy smile and says "Smooth . . . but I'm not going home with you tonight." So I am completely unreactive so this. only perhaps a slight grin on my face, and I keep walking and leading her as I listen to the calm sound of the rain. She crumbles under pressure and says "Wait, aren't you like upset or something?", so I lightly shrug my shoulders and say "Nope, why would I be?". And after walking a bit more I stop under a shop and the conversation turns really sexual from this point on. She starts telling me (in summary) how "she's over the hookup scene". And that random flings don't give joy to her anymore and that she could simply come over to my place to have sex otherwise. I keep my cool and just listen to her. She mentions "yeah, my clock is ticking too" so I say "So what, you're looking to find a man to put a bun in that, pointing at her belly" and she doesn't know what to respond, saying "No, actually.. Yeah I don't know." I know that this conversation has dragged on too much in the middle of the street and that I need to take action, so I give her a manhandle kiss and she goes in the softest voice "nah . . . nope . . . nope..." and after we kiss it turns into a soft relief from her "hmmmm". And we both laugh at her weird reaction, then she says sorry and that she shouldn't be doing this while smiling. I ignore that too, talk more and lead her to the parking lot.Here we talk for another 30 mins, but I give her DEEP eye contact, more like eye fucking. And she's saying "Uhm, if only we met 2 years ago, I was such a slut then, but I'm trying to change this behavior" so I also share some of my past experiences with girls (relatability + preselection + sex talk). And I tell her to not worry about the ordeal, saying she doesn't have to feel bad and that she should enjoy the moment. Then I tell her not to flirt with me so much and she says "I'm not flirting??". I say "stop biting your lips" and push her away, adding "stop being so kissable" and she goes pretty crazy at this point, she blurts out: "you're so fucking attractive". I pull her into me and we kiss 2 or 3 times. Then I hug her, and she says I smell really good. I try to pull her again when the conversation thread is right, mentioning I have wine at home, but she says she can't but she's standing there not getting enough of me. I tell her to relax and just consider it. But I specifically told her "not to think too much tonight . . . in bed . . . not to . . . imagine things . . ." and see her eyes sparkle. And she implies that she'll be playing with herself thinking about me. So I close the conversation threads and start to leave, and she's now saying "well this feels different, are you really that young?" and I just nod at her and smile. Then I grab her hand for a second before we part ways riding our bikes in the rain. (tried to make it a bit over the top passionate and romantic, but it comes naturally to me) 5 mins later she texts me saying "it was great to meet you oh great Alchemist".
Result:
I texted her the following morning, then set up a date for next Friday at my place. Telling her "I'll cook a delicious chicken meal for you, if you promise to behave" and after some banter she agrees to come over in the evening. I'll post here the updates of what happens next
Lessons learned:
- Elicite values well/deep dive.
- Be unreactive; you act, she reacts.
- When you feel like the interaction should be moving somewhere, so is she, so act boldy (take a step back if needed, and try again later)
- Gauge the girl, increase tension with physicality and sex talk depending on her character.
- Persist in your insistence(?), I have bad precedent with rushing girls and looking needy when leading to sex, even in my bed so now I'm trying to go as fast as they're comfortable, but still leading in the process.
Comments and criticism welcome!
