I decided as of today that I am going to start keeping a journal online about my daily learning experiences, encounters, and successes. I have been growing tremendously since finding Girls Chase in November 2014, but I still have a long way to go. I'm going to write this in a "talking out loud" kind of way to make sense of all of the thoughts that I have throughout the day... So I guess I'll start with my story on who I am, where I'm coming from, and my past in seduction.
I'm DC, I live in a small town in California, and I recently turned 21 years old this past weekend! I'm an ambitious, open-minded person who is always trying to improve in one way or another and I love learning new things. I truly believe that all the books have been written, there just aren't enough readers...
Anyways, in high school I had a very short list of girls I had been sexual with (could pretty much count them on one hand). I was pretty picky and chose not to date girls unless I liked just about everything about them. I lost my virginity the end of my junior year to a girl I ended up dating until I was 20 years old. She had the body of a fitness model and damn does she look great naked. However, I knew from the start of dating her that she had a shady past of ex boyfriends/lovers, but I guess I thought I could save her or something. lol I was the stereotypical "nice guy/white knight" who let her pretty much walk all over me. It wasn't all bad of course; she was a really cool person and we had a ton of fun together. She was super hot AND she was my best friend, BUT she was untrustworthy. She actually lied to me multiple times about talking to her exes and cheated on me one time that I know of during the course of our 2 and half year relationship, and I STILL took her back! We finally broke it off after "losing the spark" and didn't talk for about 6 months. now we still have sex every now and then (I just don't deal with the drama anymore)
Once that relationship ended, I was working 80-90 hours per week as a 20 year old kid in the financial services industry and didn't have any time to be single or have fun. I started in that business straight out of high school and went full time at it after about a year. My days started at 9am and ended at 10pm, 7 days a week. I was chasing the American Dream... I wanted to be the 25 year old with a Lamborghini, house on the beach, freedom of time, and financial freedom. During the course of 2 years in that business I learned a TON of communication skills, body language reading skills, negotiation skills, and gained a huge amount of confidence in myself. Here's the thing though, in the particular business I was in, balance in my life was nonexistent and had to stay that way in order to succeed. My mantras were "Pay now and play later, or play now and pay later," and "you have to give up, to go up" (sacrifice). I had no patience for anything that wasn't business related and people always told me I was too serious. I'm ashamed to say it, but I actually burnt a lot of bridges with people I was very close to. I started feeling really empty inside; I was missing out on experiences, relationships, feelings, and memories I'd probably never get the chance to make again. All for the possibility of a dream that I wasn't even passionate about! Although I learned a lot from that business, I ultimately decided it wasn't what I wanted to do for the rest of my life.
As far as my intimate life went when I was in that business, I did manage to sleep with one girl who I reconnected with on Facebook. In high school she was kind of like the ugly duckling (braces, acne, flat body, the whole nine yards) but 3 years later she had a very nice smile, C cup boobs, round bubble butt and a really sexy voice. Only thing is, she was in a 2 year relationship in high school as well but hers made her a pretty bitter person. She was really negative and cynical actually (lol) totally opposite of my positive, ambitious attitude ESPECIALLY at that time. So she hooked on to me like an energy vampire. If she didn't have a bangin' ass body I would have never talked to her. And she was a FREAK; the girl moaned like a pornstar and fucked like one too. My ex never rode me like that before. BUT, then she started getting clingy and thought it was okay to tell me how much her life sucked every time I hungout with her; she even did it DURING foreplay to sex. I tried reframing, setting boundaries but none of it got through to her so I had to cut her off. That fling lasted about a month in October of 2014. During November, I chose to change careers and thought about the possibility of going back to school AND I also found Girls Chase!
I had found different things about pick up on youtube around September 2014 and started dabbling in it. I never knew there was a community of guys who studied how to attract women and could help you do the same. I listened to The Game on audiobook and started checking the forums. I became incredibly intrigued by it; I finally found a way to achieve success with women even though I wasn't naturally born with it! The thing with the pick up community that I didn't like is that most of it seemed pretty in-genuine and scripted. I thought there had to be a natural way to pick up women that wasn't a bunch of games and routines. So I looked up "Natural pua" on Google and the 2nd link that popped up was a Girls Chase link. I clicked on it and started reading; and everything Chase said made sense! All of his statements were backed up with facts, it was logical, easy to read, and most important is that I could tell he just knew what he was talking about through experience. I actually got a little obsessed with learning everything; this stuff was like candy and I couldn't get enough. Since then I have read dozens of articles, purchased "The Mastery Pickup Package," and have had an okay amount of success with women.
My new job is as a sales counselor at a gym in town and now I am going back to school to become a health coach. While 3 months ago I was all about business, now I am all about balance. I try to go out at least 2 nights per week now, regularly have dates with new women, have rebuilt some of those burnt bridges, and I am rebuilding my social circle/social proof. All of this I am taking day by day, and I am continually seeing improvements. I am also working in an environment and field that I enjoy, am passionate about, and have opportunities every day to grow socially in. I see reaching 21 years old as a great milestone in my social/romantic life because now there is virtually no boundaries on venues that I can go to, people I can meet, and opportunities to improve that I will have. I feel like at this point my fundamentals are decently tight, I know what I want as a person, and I'm ready to move from a Journeyman to a Technician. I'm in a position where every day I am meeting new women and more often than not getting their numbers and a lot of attraction coming from them. It's time to capitalize on that and learn much quicker; I think keeping this journal will help me do that..
Ultimately, 5+ years down the road I want to have a family and be happy with only one special person. My goal this year though is to sleep with 12 new women (1 per month) and learn how to give girls the right expectations of an uncommitted relationship where we both have a great experience and there's nothing but good feelings taken away from it. I guarantee this will be the best, most fun, and most rewarding year of my life.
Damn that was a long post.!! next one will be a lot shorter. lol
If you've taken the time to read all of this I want to say thank you, I hope you'll follow my journey, and I hope we can help each other grow and learn.
Till next time!
-DC
I'm DC, I live in a small town in California, and I recently turned 21 years old this past weekend! I'm an ambitious, open-minded person who is always trying to improve in one way or another and I love learning new things. I truly believe that all the books have been written, there just aren't enough readers...
Anyways, in high school I had a very short list of girls I had been sexual with (could pretty much count them on one hand). I was pretty picky and chose not to date girls unless I liked just about everything about them. I lost my virginity the end of my junior year to a girl I ended up dating until I was 20 years old. She had the body of a fitness model and damn does she look great naked. However, I knew from the start of dating her that she had a shady past of ex boyfriends/lovers, but I guess I thought I could save her or something. lol I was the stereotypical "nice guy/white knight" who let her pretty much walk all over me. It wasn't all bad of course; she was a really cool person and we had a ton of fun together. She was super hot AND she was my best friend, BUT she was untrustworthy. She actually lied to me multiple times about talking to her exes and cheated on me one time that I know of during the course of our 2 and half year relationship, and I STILL took her back! We finally broke it off after "losing the spark" and didn't talk for about 6 months. now we still have sex every now and then (I just don't deal with the drama anymore)
Once that relationship ended, I was working 80-90 hours per week as a 20 year old kid in the financial services industry and didn't have any time to be single or have fun. I started in that business straight out of high school and went full time at it after about a year. My days started at 9am and ended at 10pm, 7 days a week. I was chasing the American Dream... I wanted to be the 25 year old with a Lamborghini, house on the beach, freedom of time, and financial freedom. During the course of 2 years in that business I learned a TON of communication skills, body language reading skills, negotiation skills, and gained a huge amount of confidence in myself. Here's the thing though, in the particular business I was in, balance in my life was nonexistent and had to stay that way in order to succeed. My mantras were "Pay now and play later, or play now and pay later," and "you have to give up, to go up" (sacrifice). I had no patience for anything that wasn't business related and people always told me I was too serious. I'm ashamed to say it, but I actually burnt a lot of bridges with people I was very close to. I started feeling really empty inside; I was missing out on experiences, relationships, feelings, and memories I'd probably never get the chance to make again. All for the possibility of a dream that I wasn't even passionate about! Although I learned a lot from that business, I ultimately decided it wasn't what I wanted to do for the rest of my life.
As far as my intimate life went when I was in that business, I did manage to sleep with one girl who I reconnected with on Facebook. In high school she was kind of like the ugly duckling (braces, acne, flat body, the whole nine yards) but 3 years later she had a very nice smile, C cup boobs, round bubble butt and a really sexy voice. Only thing is, she was in a 2 year relationship in high school as well but hers made her a pretty bitter person. She was really negative and cynical actually (lol) totally opposite of my positive, ambitious attitude ESPECIALLY at that time. So she hooked on to me like an energy vampire. If she didn't have a bangin' ass body I would have never talked to her. And she was a FREAK; the girl moaned like a pornstar and fucked like one too. My ex never rode me like that before. BUT, then she started getting clingy and thought it was okay to tell me how much her life sucked every time I hungout with her; she even did it DURING foreplay to sex. I tried reframing, setting boundaries but none of it got through to her so I had to cut her off. That fling lasted about a month in October of 2014. During November, I chose to change careers and thought about the possibility of going back to school AND I also found Girls Chase!
I had found different things about pick up on youtube around September 2014 and started dabbling in it. I never knew there was a community of guys who studied how to attract women and could help you do the same. I listened to The Game on audiobook and started checking the forums. I became incredibly intrigued by it; I finally found a way to achieve success with women even though I wasn't naturally born with it! The thing with the pick up community that I didn't like is that most of it seemed pretty in-genuine and scripted. I thought there had to be a natural way to pick up women that wasn't a bunch of games and routines. So I looked up "Natural pua" on Google and the 2nd link that popped up was a Girls Chase link. I clicked on it and started reading; and everything Chase said made sense! All of his statements were backed up with facts, it was logical, easy to read, and most important is that I could tell he just knew what he was talking about through experience. I actually got a little obsessed with learning everything; this stuff was like candy and I couldn't get enough. Since then I have read dozens of articles, purchased "The Mastery Pickup Package," and have had an okay amount of success with women.
My new job is as a sales counselor at a gym in town and now I am going back to school to become a health coach. While 3 months ago I was all about business, now I am all about balance. I try to go out at least 2 nights per week now, regularly have dates with new women, have rebuilt some of those burnt bridges, and I am rebuilding my social circle/social proof. All of this I am taking day by day, and I am continually seeing improvements. I am also working in an environment and field that I enjoy, am passionate about, and have opportunities every day to grow socially in. I see reaching 21 years old as a great milestone in my social/romantic life because now there is virtually no boundaries on venues that I can go to, people I can meet, and opportunities to improve that I will have. I feel like at this point my fundamentals are decently tight, I know what I want as a person, and I'm ready to move from a Journeyman to a Technician. I'm in a position where every day I am meeting new women and more often than not getting their numbers and a lot of attraction coming from them. It's time to capitalize on that and learn much quicker; I think keeping this journal will help me do that..
Ultimately, 5+ years down the road I want to have a family and be happy with only one special person. My goal this year though is to sleep with 12 new women (1 per month) and learn how to give girls the right expectations of an uncommitted relationship where we both have a great experience and there's nothing but good feelings taken away from it. I guarantee this will be the best, most fun, and most rewarding year of my life.
Damn that was a long post.!! next one will be a lot shorter. lol
If you've taken the time to read all of this I want to say thank you, I hope you'll follow my journey, and I hope we can help each other grow and learn.
Till next time!
-DC