Socializing Dealing With Disrespect From Other Men?

[Anonymous]

This weekend I was at a party with a bunch of my friends. I was setting up a speaker system I brought in a garage filled with people, when a classmate of mine (just generally a shit human being) yelled "finally brought your speakers out you stingy piece of shit"? Completely caught me off guard, as I'm used to being well respected by my peers. Of course, the girl I have been trying to pull was right next to me. I responded with a disinterested "What?" to which he repeated himself, louder than before. I said something along the lines of "Oh, you're just being a fuck."

What's the best way to handle these types of situations? I'm curious to know your experiences.

Forgive me if there's already an article or post about this topic.

 

[Bboy100]

https://www.girlschase.com/content/deali ... uptive-men

 

[HellAtlantic]

My go to for this kind of stuff is a very excited "YOU KNOW IT!", when my boys are trying to bust my balls.

 

[Fuck This]

Definitely agree and amplify....."Dude, I just rented these for the 3 hour minimum and I gotta get 'em back pronto tonight."

Or insinuate he isn't worth your effort. "Oh if I knew you were coming I wouldn't have bothered..." or say something about what a crummy host you are while you know you are killing it.

Ball busting can often be interpreted as an insult when you feel threatened by a person. Your reply should never be defensive or retaliatory. Self deprecate with confidence, and it will give you lots of mileage.

 

[ray_zorse]

How about this:

Him: finally brought your speakers out you stingy piece of shit?
You: haha yeah, where's yours? (a comeback that points out you're doing more than him, without qualifying yourself)

or this:

Him: finally brought your speakers out you stingy piece of shit?
You: sure but I'm charging $100 per person, hit me brother (agreeing and amplifying)

Ray

 

[Rage]

Some places its like coloquially said or its just people bust each others balls that much and its norm; and i thinkit would be important to just be able to dircern firs tbetween actual threats and harmless trolling.

if it is harmless you can just be agreeable and laughing and troll back a bit.

But if it is harmless, but still bugs you I'd say hanng around with these guys less or find generally more positive people to be around. The article bboy linked seems solid regarding this topic.

Rage