Dealing with ultra competitive men who hunt on every women

[Igor]

Currently living in a hostel, I liked it so far until this new guy came. To me and other men he is cold and barely speaks. But when there is a woman arriving, every time I noticed that he tries to have some smalltalk, be cocky and get her contact, to under the radar plan some date with her.

This ultra competitive behavior is creating tension between us because every girl I approached so far (I’m quite selective) has been approached by him too. It is affecting my confidence

Now it turns out that he is going out with her while I was the first who approached her. But wanted to be more laid back before I plan something with her. So I feel kind of frustrated.

 

[Will_V]

Currently living in a hostel, I liked it so far until this new guy came. To me and other men he is cold and barely speaks. But when there is a woman arriving, every time I noticed that he tries to have some smalltalk, be cocky and get her contact, to under the radar plan some date with her.

This ultra competitive behavior is creating tension between us because every girl I approached so far (I’m quite selective) has been approached by him too. It is affecting my confidence

Now it turns out that he is going out with her while I was the first who approached her. But wanted to be more laid back before I plan something with her. So I feel kind of frustrated.

Watch and learn

The girls there are all fair game, and it doesn't seem like he's doing anything horrible, in fact if he's getting these girls out he's doing something right. He doesn't have an obligation to any of the guys there.

The worst thing that can happen is you let him get under your skin, which it seems like he's already done. Especially if he's having more success, it will just damage your own frame.

It's an opportunity for you to see comparatively where he's doing better than you, and improve.

 

[Rakehell]

Watch and learn

The girls there are all fair game, and it doesn't seem like he's doing anything horrible, in fact if he's getting these girls out he's doing something right. He doesn't have an obligation to any of the guys there.

The worst thing that can happen is you let him get under your skin, which it seems like he's already done. Especially if he's having more success, it will just damage your own frame.

It's an opportunity for you to see comparatively where he's doing better than you, and improve.

Thread Closed, if you don’t already have the tools to deal with someone like him and take your own piece of the pie regardless of what he has going on, it won’t come over night.

Still try your luck but mostly treat it as a learning experience. Look at where you’re falling short and maybe why they’re more interested in this guy. Answers are out there when you can identify why he’s succeeding where you may be falling short.

Could be he doesn’t view the rest of you guy’s on the same level and doesn’t feel the need to play nice.