Hey Everyone, I currently have a FWB with this amazing girl who is getting out of a divorce. She has been separated from her ex husband for over six months and she sent the official serve papers that annul the message when signed by him.
They were married for four years and had no children. She successfully split any assets and sold their old house to just be done with the whole process. She now lives with a roommate.
The issue is that although they separated mutually, he is now harassing and stalking her and constantly messaging her. He will come by her new place and try to get in the house and will leave her notes on her car. She has completely ceased any contact or replies as far as I know.
She is worried that he may run into her while I am with her. She told me that she would be embarrassed and would not want me to fight her battles but that I should defend myself in case anything escalates.
So, I was wondering if you guys had any thoughts on how to handle crazy/violent/stalkerish exes if you run into them. I read the gchase articles on men who tool you/ and answering a challenge in a social situation as well as chase’s experiences in Mongolia.
I am going to be starting medical school later this year so I have something to lose if I get into any trouble with arrests. Based on what I know about her ex, he doesn’t have much going on in his life, so he doesn’t have anything to lose. I workout pretty regularly, but I don’t have any fighting experience.
My dilemma in a chance encounter with him seems like a lose situation
If I back down, I look weak( they are from a culture that values masculinity and fighting)
If I fight and lose then I look weak, lose her respect, and most importantly I lose and could be seriously injured( worst option by far)
If I fight and win then I win, but I could still lose if the fight gets too out of control, and I cause him serious injury and he presses charges or gets the cops involved then I could lose my future.
I can’t see a great option, but this actually happening is pretty low, I’d say under 50%
But just to be prepared, do you guys have any thoughts or advice for this specific situation or in general?
They were married for four years and had no children. She successfully split any assets and sold their old house to just be done with the whole process. She now lives with a roommate.
The issue is that although they separated mutually, he is now harassing and stalking her and constantly messaging her. He will come by her new place and try to get in the house and will leave her notes on her car. She has completely ceased any contact or replies as far as I know.
She is worried that he may run into her while I am with her. She told me that she would be embarrassed and would not want me to fight her battles but that I should defend myself in case anything escalates.
So, I was wondering if you guys had any thoughts on how to handle crazy/violent/stalkerish exes if you run into them. I read the gchase articles on men who tool you/ and answering a challenge in a social situation as well as chase’s experiences in Mongolia.
I am going to be starting medical school later this year so I have something to lose if I get into any trouble with arrests. Based on what I know about her ex, he doesn’t have much going on in his life, so he doesn’t have anything to lose. I workout pretty regularly, but I don’t have any fighting experience.
My dilemma in a chance encounter with him seems like a lose situation
If I back down, I look weak( they are from a culture that values masculinity and fighting)
If I fight and lose then I look weak, lose her respect, and most importantly I lose and could be seriously injured( worst option by far)
If I fight and win then I win, but I could still lose if the fight gets too out of control, and I cause him serious injury and he presses charges or gets the cops involved then I could lose my future.
I can’t see a great option, but this actually happening is pretty low, I’d say under 50%
But just to be prepared, do you guys have any thoughts or advice for this specific situation or in general?
