Declining womens offers

[Dark Knight]

I was just wondering what is the best way to decline women's offers

I was wondering this because yesterday i sent out a general snap chat to a number of friends seeing if they wanted me to get them a +1 to one of my friends parties.
i received the general responses from most people e.g. where is it , what day is it
but from a certain female member i got promising photos and a weird message saying "Do you want me?" not making a big deal out of it i assumed she was asking if i wanted her to come to the party so i replied "Yup" and then send another snap chat straight after saying if your coming to let me know by tomorrow (today) which she replied "will do!!"

Conversation over snap chat Yesterday
Me: If anyone wants a plus one to a party on yorkes let me know
her: where is it ?
me: (name of town)
her: which day is it
me: Saturday
her: Do you want me ?
me: Yup
me: if you are coming let me know by tommorow
her: will do

Conversation over snap chat today
her: Dinner and Drinkers at mine tomorrow (same day as the party)
her: Your invited
called my close friend soon after since we are in the same social circle and asked him if he received the invite (he didn't)
me: Already promised my friend i would go to their party
her: K ( with her in the background looking angry)

Sorry if this is all over the shop but it happening write now so i was adding text as it goes along

all advice would be appreciated and what do i reply now :O

 

[Dark Knight]

Was this the right way to decline? if i didn't already have commitments i would of gone to her place for dinner and drinks (only invited me :O)

How do you edit posts ? cause i wanted to edit the one above so it flows easier and is easier to understand

 

[Sumsum]

Did you try asking her who is coming to this "dinner and drinks" thing at her place? Perhaps you are the only person who is invited The "do you want me" message may have been a blatant hint (or it may just be her playing games with her).

In general though I would be careful to come across as too eager to change your plans after saying that you already have commitments.

 

[Dark Knight]

I was pretty sure that I was the only one going to this "dinner?" That's why I wasn't sure if this reply was suitable

 

[Franco]

DK,

I won't really give advice on your specific situation since I don't know the background story, but in general, you should decline offers in a way that makes her feel like you really were interested, but you already had other plans that would be inappropriate to break. For example:

Her: how about tonight? my friends and I are going to a birthday party. you should come!! it'll be fun
You: I really wish I could Jenny, but I already made plans with my friends to check out this new bar. We'll get together next time
Her: aww... ok!

Now, if this a girl that you don't really want to see again, then make sure to leave out any parts about getting together with her again later. Instead, just keep declining offers politely without offering an alternative meet up option/time/date and she'll eventually get the picture. This is actually what a lot of girls do to guys to try to decline nicely, so all you're really doing is just using the same tactic on them.

Hope that helps!

- Franco

 

[Dark Knight]

Thanks Franco