Did I just get set up and used ?

[Jourdang29]

Newbie here. Just had a little situation and tell me if I got used and set up. Met a girl a while ago at a hookah place and only get to see her here and there. I live in a small town so it’s not hard to find one another. Anyways the other night i was with her at the bar and she was with some friends. I can tell she was getting very drunk and so was me and couple guys i was with. Hence later we all left it was 5 of us two girls three dudes back to my room. (No apartment yet but pretty big room) basically she got so fucked up she knocked out in my bed and other people ended up leaving. I slept with her but nothing happened even after morning i tried to make contact but was getting nowhere. I did find it weird she would tap kiss me here and there but she wouldn’t want to make out afterwards. Fast forward to last night we planned to hang out she told me to bring some drinks because she wants to get drunk. The problem was i arrived and her roommate and her girl was there. The main girl who invited me told me that they came unexpectedly and she didn’t know. So i end up just having a conversation with the girls while we drank and smoked hookah. 1 hour later, her roommate says the main girls guy friend is coming. I know who it is because i hear he already slept with her. So now I’m in this like what the hell is going on, she invited me but also invites the dude as well. I think I’m her kind she doesn’t know that i know she slept with him. I’m already getting tensedbecause what happened next was as soon as the guy came her girl roommate and her girl left. I’ll just this short and sweet we were there for a couple hours and everyone was getting pretty tired me and this dude and the main girl. It got to a point where i had to leave, the other guy played it like he was sleeping. As soon as i left, i decided to eves drop on the door behind me and i could hear her waking him up, joking around how he was sleeping but in mind i already know what’s about to come down. Should i immediately have left with her roommate and friend as soon as this guy showed up ?? I left her apartment pretty pissed. I spent money on liquor and missed a day of work just to go home.

 

[Jourdang29]

Sorry for the long post

 

[Fuck This]

Yep. That's what happens when you relinquish control of the situation.

So you roll up and see that there are cock blocking friends there...Now what?

1) say "Hey I can't stay for long, I gotta head downtown to this thing...You are welcome to come..."

2) Play it by ear to see if she warms up.....Dude#2 arrives, see #1 above.

Always have a Plan B excuse to eject and a time constraint. Also don't roll up with enough booze to fuel a multi person party....Have enough for the two of you but have a reserve out in the car in case you need "one more nightcap".

 

[Jourdang29]

Yep. That's what happens when you relinquish control of the situation.

So you roll up and see that there are cock blocking friends there...Now what?

1) say "Hey I can't stay for long, I gotta head downtown to this thing...You are welcome to come..."

2) Play it by ear to see if she warms up.....Dude#2 arrives, see #1 above.

Always have a Plan B excuse to eject and a time constraint. Also don't roll up with enough booze to fuel a multi person party....Have enough for the two of you but have a reserve out in the car in case you need "one more nightcap".

You’re right on the money it’s a lesson to be learned and looking back i was way too passive with this girl never really spoke my intentions on what I want m. Actually watching a video I reallly learned something about this experience. Thanks for your reply

 

[Regal Tiger]

Tough lesson to learn, but yea, she's not interested.

My advice is rather black and white, which some may disagree with, but I would have just automatically left as soon as I saw there were more people. When they ask why I would have just told them the truth, not interested anymore.

Also, if a woman sleeps in your bed but doesn't put out; hard next her and delete her out of your life. Also black and white advice, but that would have told me that she's not interested at all.


But then again, I'm sensitive to feeling used so I'm probably a little more extreme than most people.