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So here I was, minding my own business, headphones on, sketching and smoking a ciggie outside a local shopping complex. A few moments pass, then a decent looking girl walks by and asks if she can sit and wait nearby for a friend, which was also a ploy to ask for a smoke.
Now me and this girl are having a friendly chat, not one of my best interactions with a female as I was in a bad state due to stress and all. I'm basically winging the whole interaction, full auto-pilot. Somewhere across our chat, said girl mentions that she must remember to grab my number. Cool. We chat and chat, I'm still winging it and very rusty, then the friend she was waiting for arrives. She briefly intros me to the friend, takes my number, calls my phone so that I can save her number as well before they take off.
Now here I was with a set of new numbers I barely worked for, but I figured that since my options are quite limited let me use this situation to refine my skills and stuff. So I texted her later that very night, she only got the text the following morning.
Now in following the GC line of advice of moving fast and minimalising texting, I suggest meetups in my texting to her, which leads to a decrease in text responsiveness from her, on two occations. First time, I waited a day or so till I sent her playful text to see if we can pick up where we left off. She cited an unreliable wifi connection for her delayed responses.
We have another short, light exchange, then when I suggest a meetup once more, she goes cold again.
So now I am wondering if perhaps I was moving too fast by suggesting the meetups, maybe she doesn't feel comfortable enough with me to meetup, which I'd understand as I felt our first interaction was shaky, even though she ended up taking my number. Another point is that despite our bumpy first interaction, SHE took the initiative of getting my number, which I took for a strong sign of interest, which led me to try escalate to a second meetup with her.
So can any of you fine gentlemen perhaps help shed some light on the matter for me,was I too fast for her liking, did I misintepret her interest, and what would be the best next move? And what could I have done differently? Cause I feel like hey, if I can still salvage something with her then why not? As that would give me more options as I try approach more women and refine my skills. Your feedback would be appreciated.
Now me and this girl are having a friendly chat, not one of my best interactions with a female as I was in a bad state due to stress and all. I'm basically winging the whole interaction, full auto-pilot. Somewhere across our chat, said girl mentions that she must remember to grab my number. Cool. We chat and chat, I'm still winging it and very rusty, then the friend she was waiting for arrives. She briefly intros me to the friend, takes my number, calls my phone so that I can save her number as well before they take off.
Now here I was with a set of new numbers I barely worked for, but I figured that since my options are quite limited let me use this situation to refine my skills and stuff. So I texted her later that very night, she only got the text the following morning.
Now in following the GC line of advice of moving fast and minimalising texting, I suggest meetups in my texting to her, which leads to a decrease in text responsiveness from her, on two occations. First time, I waited a day or so till I sent her playful text to see if we can pick up where we left off. She cited an unreliable wifi connection for her delayed responses.
We have another short, light exchange, then when I suggest a meetup once more, she goes cold again.
So now I am wondering if perhaps I was moving too fast by suggesting the meetups, maybe she doesn't feel comfortable enough with me to meetup, which I'd understand as I felt our first interaction was shaky, even though she ended up taking my number. Another point is that despite our bumpy first interaction, SHE took the initiative of getting my number, which I took for a strong sign of interest, which led me to try escalate to a second meetup with her.
So can any of you fine gentlemen perhaps help shed some light on the matter for me,was I too fast for her liking, did I misintepret her interest, and what would be the best next move? And what could I have done differently? Cause I feel like hey, if I can still salvage something with her then why not? As that would give me more options as I try approach more women and refine my skills. Your feedback would be appreciated.
