I decided to call things off with my ex after I noticed symptoms of her getting bored in our relationship. If my emotions hadn't have been so heightened, I realistically could have changed the situation around but instead vouched for us to part ways. She was calm about it and agreed. She follows me on snapchat and a few days later, I posted a snap saying I was newly single in an indifferent manner. She messaged me saying that it was petty and that she had been having a hard time trying to give me space and that she missed me. I should have ignored the message. I knew that what I do isn't any of her business now, but I listened to my emotions instead.
She knows that I was seeing multiple girls before her and she even accused me of trying to get back with them after I told snapchat I was single. Like an idiot, I gave in saying that if she truly felt this way and if her feelings hadn't changed, we could try to make things work again. Of course she told me " I don't know if we made the wrong decision yet. I still need more time." After that I ended things by telling her goodbye, I wasn't going to be caught in her games anymore. She responded to my paragraph with "Goodbye".
A few days later I posted a sexy picture on Instagram with a sexual pun that was fitting to the picture and everyone loved, she liked it, but none of her friends did and I'm thinking that she interpreted it as me indirectly trying to make her jealous, what with all the other women commenting on the picture. The next day I found a old valentines day letter that two female friends wrote me a year ago and posted it on my snapchat. It read: "Roses are red, violets are thorny, thinking about you makes us so horny. Thank you for everything you do for us Daddy, Love your Lil Mamas". Also funny, but that can be misperceived too as me trying to rub my value in her face.
My point is that all these things cause her to remember my perceived value as it was when we first started talking. Did this in-turn send her into auto-rejection? Or make her see her mistake. I cut off all communication to her for 2 weeks so far. I don't look at her snapchat, her instagram, nothing. She used to post frequently but now she's fallen silent. I of course post things now and then and everything is of me enjoying myself. She doesn't watch any of it but her friends do. I think its also fair to note that nothing I have posted hints at me actually seeing other girls. She probably assumes that I am, but knows that even if I was, I wouldn't post it on social media for risk of losing side girls.
I'm indifferent about getting back together because I think her and I both know I could do better than her (like her/everyone else used to tell me when we first started dating)- I gave her too many chances, she'd have to work her ass off to get me back- but I'm curious as to just how I can improve myself for the future should I want to get an ex back.
My question is, did I actually push her away by rubbing it in her face? Or did I make her see her mistake? I acted as if I had moved on, in order to move on. She ultimately subconsciously viewed me as needy because of our temporary LDR, so I'm doing the exact opposite.
Thanks for any help.
She knows that I was seeing multiple girls before her and she even accused me of trying to get back with them after I told snapchat I was single. Like an idiot, I gave in saying that if she truly felt this way and if her feelings hadn't changed, we could try to make things work again. Of course she told me " I don't know if we made the wrong decision yet. I still need more time." After that I ended things by telling her goodbye, I wasn't going to be caught in her games anymore. She responded to my paragraph with "Goodbye".
A few days later I posted a sexy picture on Instagram with a sexual pun that was fitting to the picture and everyone loved, she liked it, but none of her friends did and I'm thinking that she interpreted it as me indirectly trying to make her jealous, what with all the other women commenting on the picture. The next day I found a old valentines day letter that two female friends wrote me a year ago and posted it on my snapchat. It read: "Roses are red, violets are thorny, thinking about you makes us so horny. Thank you for everything you do for us Daddy, Love your Lil Mamas". Also funny, but that can be misperceived too as me trying to rub my value in her face.
My point is that all these things cause her to remember my perceived value as it was when we first started talking. Did this in-turn send her into auto-rejection? Or make her see her mistake. I cut off all communication to her for 2 weeks so far. I don't look at her snapchat, her instagram, nothing. She used to post frequently but now she's fallen silent. I of course post things now and then and everything is of me enjoying myself. She doesn't watch any of it but her friends do. I think its also fair to note that nothing I have posted hints at me actually seeing other girls. She probably assumes that I am, but knows that even if I was, I wouldn't post it on social media for risk of losing side girls.
I'm indifferent about getting back together because I think her and I both know I could do better than her (like her/everyone else used to tell me when we first started dating)- I gave her too many chances, she'd have to work her ass off to get me back- but I'm curious as to just how I can improve myself for the future should I want to get an ex back.
My question is, did I actually push her away by rubbing it in her face? Or did I make her see her mistake? I acted as if I had moved on, in order to move on. She ultimately subconsciously viewed me as needy because of our temporary LDR, so I'm doing the exact opposite.
Thanks for any help.
