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Toby2030

Cro-Magnon Man
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I'm gonna write this now after everyone just left and it's fresh in my mind, and then I'll try to edit it more tomorrow when I wake up sober. Nevertheless, I went out to a pretty high-end nightclub last night with a couple of friends. I approached a girl that I previously have fucked like 2 years ago. She wanted a relationship at that time and I soft nexted her at that time. She just told me she left a relationship about a month ago after opening her today.

I opened, made her ask me questions and create good intrigue. Hooking was no problem at all. She chased me quite a lot and I got her isolated from her group and got a green light for more escalation. I escalated the vibe - closer proximity, strong eye contact, incidental touching, arm around her lower back at maximum, some light touching on her hands. Incidental my hand slightly touched her hand, and I felt she was about to grab my hand, but I was walking towards the bar and couldn't. Nothing too wild. "I miss the time when you had bangs, that was really sexy". Only small SOIs.

While talking she suddenly broke the isolation and wanted both of us to go to her group. I knew the group before approaching her that night. I accepted and we went. 10-15 mins go by and I suggest us to go outside for fresh air. She complies and the group follows. We walk a little in front of the group, and she starts saying she's hungry. I say that I have the most fantastic burgers at home, and if she behaves nicely and doesn't trash my apartment, we can go. I try to pull only her and leave the group but she insists on bringing the group. I accept and let her bring her friends, but they walk rather slow. We get a bit in front of them and I try to pick up the pace a bit, but she refuses and waits on them. We get into my apartment, we make food, but I can't isolate and close. They end up leaving everyone together.

I'll try to rethink the situation tomorrow
 
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JacobPalmer

Tool-Bearing Hominid
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Only thing I can see here is that you should have declined bringing her friends.

"Listen, I'm enjoying spending time with you right now, but just you. If we bring your friends along right now yeah, it'll be fun, but not as fun if it was just us two. It's hard to have deeper, more intimate conversations when it's with a group, ya know? So how about you let them know where you're going, give them my address or something, and after we make burgers I'll bring you back to meet up with them, sound good?"

Once she started leading the interaction (bringing her friends) it was all downhill from there. Never let her lead, because more often than not it'll ruin the interaction. Also, you don't need to be so accommodating to her. :) You can say no.
 
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