Direct Opening a Cashier Girl

[NotJamesBond]

Buon giorno, GirlsChase community. I'd like to take a quick second to introduce myself- I'm the newest fresh meat around here. I'm 21 and am entering my senior year of college this fall, although it's more of a 5 year plan so I'm a...sub-senior? It's my first year at a university, I just finished community college. I was one of those woefully overly-romantic types (still passionate about women, but now I know how to apply it), the prime type to get hung up on That One Special Girl. I thought I was done with that faulty perspective, alas, one infiltrated my friend crowd (and eventually my heart and soul, yikes) and proved to be the worst case of it. Or rather I allowed her to be...All the same, GirlsChase played a big part in helping me realize...myself, honestly. That article (you know the one) helped to remind me of some common sense things that no longer become common sense things when you go too nutty over a girl. Helped to re-establish a perspective I lost sight of that really did run as deep as being true to yourself. Cliche'. I could write a couple essays on the process, but we have business to attend to.

Enormous thanks to Chase and the team for the incredible articles that have immensely helped me. I don't agree with everything 100% but I feel I've legitimately been enlightened all the same, it's seriously terrific stuff that goes to unheard-of depths. Very articulate to say the bare minimum. And it's free! The free version alone has a wealth of knowledge. Not only that, you all seem like guys I'd want to chill with outside of cyber space on top of all the profound insight you constantly drop. The texting tips and how to ask girls out alone have taken me miles, it's seriously great stuff. I'm not sure how much I'll be posting here but I just wanted to let you guys know how much you've helped yet another man who needed it pretty badly.

--Now on to the business: There is a girl (like always) that works as cashier of this little classic hotdog/hamburger place. The owners are surely Italian-American, and she is certainly the daughter of the owner. Gulp. I'm not concerned about that, what I'd like to hear your opinions on is my direct opener and my plan in general. After ordering something, I plan to just go right into it. I have been there twice before and feel I've made a good impression from doing barely anything. The thing is, I think this girl might be kind of interested in me. She looked down as she smiled to herself (in relation to me) and I may be 21 chromosomes-retarded when it comes to picking up on that stuff but I didn't miss that one. Even a blind mouse finds cheese, etc...My point is, there is a modicum of familiarity between us and I think she'll remember me.

However, of course, I didn't do a thing. Either time. What could I do?! She's working, it's difficult to edge any sort of game when she's just behind that counter and I'm just ordering and we're just experiencing a transaction. Rejoice, dear reader, for Chase had me covered. Sure enough, I found the articles dealing with approaching girls who are working and devoured them. All that is left is to put the theory to practice, the actual learning part.

I originally intended to use, "Excuse me, (the rest)" but now I'm dropping it making it simply look like this: "You're incredibly beautiful. I'm Anthony. I can't allow myself to walk out that door *casually motion behind me with a thumb while still holding eye contact* without asking you to lunch. So. Would you like to get lunch sometime?" Cue her bawwing and exclaiming yes and exchanging phone numbers for the logistics later and happily ever after and no problems ever again in my whole life, the end.

What say you, community? How does my little plan hold up? From what I've gathered, it matters -how- I say it a good deal more than -what- I exactly say, anyway.

FURTHER: I asked my friend, a chick, what she thinks. She, of course, gave some over-the-top fairy tale response, and the things she said I should say were never said to her by any of the boyfriends she's ever had, at least not as openers. Maybe I should mention that to her sometime, tactfully. Saw the "never listen to women for dating advice" article play out literally before my very eyes. And it wasn't the first time with that one...

Thanks already for the insight. May your conquests always prove victorious and your women always extraordinary.

The best,
Anthony

 

[ray_zorse]

Overthinking it brother. You've ordered two coffees from her, not said anything either time, and now you lie in bed fantasizing about her before you go to sleep... uhh sorry if this sounds harsh and I do not want to be discouraging, but I have chatted up A LOT of cashier girls and I can say for definite that even as an intermediate or experienced seducer it's a tough scenario, the more you've thought about it and planned it, the less natural you'll be in the moment, and especially as the window of opportunity (the 30sec it takes to order a coffee) is so tiny, it's difficult to really relax into the seduction and show her what you are made of... I have fucked this up more times than I can count, haha, oh well.

Another problem that you have is that first impressions are critical, to the extent she's even noticed you exist, she has you pegged as a pretty average customer dude, I am not sure why you think she is interested if you haven't yet had a conversation with her, possibly she likes the way you look and gave you some extra smiles, or OTOH maybe she is just naturally friendly? I would not read too much into it, myself.

Luckily, there are millions more cute register chicks Exercise: every register chick you meet for a whole day, compliment something about her (her jewellery, her eye makeup, her fashion, ...) and ask her something about herself before you order (how long has she worked here, what's her schedule like, what kind of a day is she having today, is this a fun place to work, is she a morning person, etc). This will get things off on a much better footing.

As to your girl, sure, give it a whirl. Chat to her, ask her out (but not if boss or colleagues or other customers are listening)... but don't be too crushed if/when she says no, it's a tough seduction scenario and you're just starting out. You need to talk to a shit ton more girls and gain many more reference points before you can handle this confidently (I am an intermediate seducer and I still struggle with over-investment, and still find hired-gun game to be a mixed bag).

Ray

Edit: just saw the last part of your post, you cannot ask her out as part of your pickup line, it won't work... you have to ask her about herself, chat a bit, relax with it, ask for her number at a high point like it's no big deal. No over the top compliments either, and not just "beautiful", actually tell her sincerely what you like about her, then move to neutral topic.

 

[NotJamesBond]

Thanks, Ray. Much appreciated.
Really a good thing I filtered it through this forum first. I like the sound of your reply and it takes needless pressure off. I'll just go chat her up. Hired game certainly seems more difficult. Thing is, she is surrounded by colleagues and her boss at seemingly all times. Possibly her boss's daughter too. Ha, my over-the-top plan was probably a little cringey but isn't that how you learn?

I sincerely do feel she is beautiful and I usually do give sublter compliments, but the girls who really catch my fancy make me want to go over the top like that. I'll mention her hair, as it's genuinely pleasing. This is all a side venture, my current main conquest is this Asian girl I have been completely knocking it out of the park with (all thanks to the advice from this very site) who I'm seeing today actually.

Cheers and beers,
Anthony

 

[Eternity]

You frequent this place often? If so, long term game is the smart play. Meaning, the familiarity of seeing you often will help you bond w/her and give you a chance to deep dive and get her digits. But this is long term game and even if you have the patience, game, odds will go 50/50 either way she might say yes or reject you. If its not a place you frequent, go bold and write you number on the receipt w/ a little note. Something like:

"Thought you was cute, lets do drinks later xxxxx-xxxxx
Something like that. Its the hail mary play but if you want to go bold fast without daddy n fellow coworkers cockblocking, its smart to do it discreetly also.

 

[NotJamesBond]

Much obliged, Eternity.

Naw, I don't frequent this place at all. I've just been there twice, both pretty decently spaced out. That second option seems to be the one to take, I appreciate the anti-cockblocking tip.