I'm considering getting rid of my cell phone. I deleted my facebook maybe 2 months ago and it was a great decision. It's liberating not having one. Now I'm considering taking this to a new level and ditching my cell phone. People used to operate without them so it's clearly possible. But what about arranging dates? I could still use email to communicate. You wouldn't be dealing with texting back and forth and flakes - you just make a date in person and stick to that. That's not the only reason I want to ditch it - I like being out of touch, it makes you much more present when you see people in person. Has anyone done this? Is it too extreme? I don't think so but I'd like to hear your opinions.
Jimmy B,
Plus 1 on finding the strength to delete facebook.
Otherwise everything else you are planning to do is extreme. Forget about girls for a little. What if your friends want to call you? Or your Mom? Why does doing all these stuff revolve around getting girls these days. It doesn't seem like a good way to live life.
Partially you are doing all that because of girls. Ditching your phone won't make them more attracted to you. You may or most likely will get more flakes.
What if the date is planned yet she can't make it and you are already on your way there . How will you know?
You can't. From now on how will you get girls number? Paper and pen. Yeah that could work but it's outdated. You wanna look like someone who moves with the progression of time.
Think about your security. What if you were in danger ( unfortunately ) and needed to call the police? Or get help from someone else.
Ditching your phone could be between life and death.
To be honest it's sad to see how some guys go out of their way to get girls.
Learn to do stuff and have stuff because of YOU. Weigh the pros and cons. I'd say keep your phone. Just use it wisely .
All the best
Troy
Plus 1 on finding the strength to delete facebook.
Otherwise everything else you are planning to do is extreme. Forget about girls for a little. What if your friends want to call you? Or your Mom? Why does doing all these stuff revolve around getting girls these days. It doesn't seem like a good way to live life.
Partially you are doing all that because of girls. Ditching your phone won't make them more attracted to you. You may or most likely will get more flakes.
What if the date is planned yet she can't make it and you are already on your way there . How will you know?
You can't. From now on how will you get girls number? Paper and pen. Yeah that could work but it's outdated. You wanna look like someone who moves with the progression of time.
Think about your security. What if you were in danger ( unfortunately ) and needed to call the police? Or get help from someone else.
Ditching your phone could be between life and death.
To be honest it's sad to see how some guys go out of their way to get girls.
Learn to do stuff and have stuff because of YOU. Weigh the pros and cons. I'd say keep your phone. Just use it wisely .
All the best
Troy
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Dude, I don't have Facebook and I don't miss it. It's just full of useless memes. People still forward me events and shit that might be of my direct interest.
But my phone broke earlier this year and I had to survive 3 weeks without a phone and I went NUTS. I don't even have notifications on, but not being able to call, talk to people whenever I want, send reminders, emails, pics and all kind of shit that you don't really realize you do a LOT until you suddenly can't do it.
But you can always run a test: you might personally like it. This is a very low risk and investment test, only you can tell whether you like it or not.
But my phone broke earlier this year and I had to survive 3 weeks without a phone and I went NUTS. I don't even have notifications on, but not being able to call, talk to people whenever I want, send reminders, emails, pics and all kind of shit that you don't really realize you do a LOT until you suddenly can't do it.
But you can always run a test: you might personally like it. This is a very low risk and investment test, only you can tell whether you like it or not.
Thanks Troy. I agree that you should not do things just to get girls. I'm coming to realize that attracting a girl is easiest by doing your own thing. It is fair to say, though, that there are some things we do for the sake of girls (but really ourselves too) like dressing well and staying well groomed. If there were no women, I really wouldn't have to groom myself, it'd be a waste of time and effort. I mainly do it to be presentable for women.
So, I want to clear up that it's not for getting girls that I would be doing this. I would be doing it for the sake of simplifying life. I'll be graduating college soon and plan to travel. You do have a point about my mom and friends, but I don't use my phone often as is. I can stay in touch with friends by email or by seeing them in person. I can take not talking to friends for a long time and picking up right where we left off, no matter how long it has been.
What I am wondering is if anyone else has done this or how I could make it work with getting dates. I think it'd be a fun experiment on figuring out dates and solidifying your in-person interactions with everyone.
By not having texting capabilities, I can never be checking my phone waiting for a text from some girl or thinking about texting her. So I would actually be going less out of my way to get girls. I would have to go see them in person. It'd clearly be a bit old fashioned not texting, but that is consistent with how I actually feel about it. I don't like texting - I think it hurts human interaction and I would be actualizing my stance on this by getting rid of my phone. It's like being a recovered alcoholic - they label themselves that way so that other people know not to encourage them to drink. If people know I don't have a phone, they'll come to learn how and when they can reach me. It's not that much more difficult operating without a phone.
As far as the 911 risk, I'm a big guy - I can take the risk of being in physical danger. I've never called 911, so I consider that a realistic but minimal concern.
So, I want to clear up that it's not for getting girls that I would be doing this. I would be doing it for the sake of simplifying life. I'll be graduating college soon and plan to travel. You do have a point about my mom and friends, but I don't use my phone often as is. I can stay in touch with friends by email or by seeing them in person. I can take not talking to friends for a long time and picking up right where we left off, no matter how long it has been.
What I am wondering is if anyone else has done this or how I could make it work with getting dates. I think it'd be a fun experiment on figuring out dates and solidifying your in-person interactions with everyone.
By not having texting capabilities, I can never be checking my phone waiting for a text from some girl or thinking about texting her. So I would actually be going less out of my way to get girls. I would have to go see them in person. It'd clearly be a bit old fashioned not texting, but that is consistent with how I actually feel about it. I don't like texting - I think it hurts human interaction and I would be actualizing my stance on this by getting rid of my phone. It's like being a recovered alcoholic - they label themselves that way so that other people know not to encourage them to drink. If people know I don't have a phone, they'll come to learn how and when they can reach me. It's not that much more difficult operating without a phone.
As far as the 911 risk, I'm a big guy - I can take the risk of being in physical danger. I've never called 911, so I consider that a realistic but minimal concern.
Big Daddy, I think that's what I'll start off with. I'll go a day, then a few days of not using a phone. I'll see how much I actually miss it and reassess from there. If I end up going longer stretches, I'll think about just getting rid of it.
