Do all the rules of speed and escalation (date 1 sex etc) apply to highschool?

[randomguy125612]

Re: Do all the rules of speed and escalation (date 1 sex etc) apply to highschoo

Yo she is chasing my ass hard

Just got another text from here (around 1.5 hours after the first two)


"Unless you want to meet here XD"

 

[ProblemSolving]

Re: Do all the rules of speed and escalation (date 1 sex etc) apply to highschoo

Hate being Captain Buzzkill, but a girl inviting you over to entertain her while she works doesn't mean anything. She likely enjoys the attention, but doesn't have enough balls to meet you alone. Going to her work will be a waste of your time, but some guys need to learn the hard way.

My advice, the next time she texts you, tell her: "I'm gonna call you in 9 minutes "
Get her on the phone, small talk for a bit, then find out what time she finishes work tomorrow or the next day. If she has an evening free, set up the ice cream date. Get this girl IN or OUT quickly. Too much energy is being invested in a girl who will likely be a waste of time.

 

[Bboy100]

Re: Do all the rules of speed and escalation (date 1 sex etc) apply to highschoo

Slay,

Bboy likes to rebel against what Chase says a lot. While it's fine to question things, he sees things in black and white a lot.

First of all, its very hypocritical when you say that I see things in black and white given that you're attacking me because I have ideas which are different from what Chase teaches. LOL

I used to follow Chase's advice almost religiously. If you look back at some of my earlier posts from about a year go, you'll see that. In fact, my posts looked a lot like yours in some ways (although I admittedly rambled quite a bit more than you do). I don't "rebel' against Chase for it's own sake. I call him out when I see he's wrong. Both based on personal experience (I have quite a bit of it now) and a lot of real research that I read or hear about done by actual Evolutionary Psychologists. And fuck, I'm not saying I'm some master pickup artist or anything like that. But I've certainly tested most of what Chase writes enough to know that a lot of it is partially false. And I've also tested some other stuff which has been more effective. Have you done either of those things? I doubt it.

Case in point, I've fucked three new girls in just the past three weeks. I NEVER would have been able to do that that if I followed Chase's paradigm for pickup. Moreover, as soon as I dropped a lot of what Chase teaches and took on this new paradigm for what women want and how to attract them, I saw immediate improvement in my results. I still greatly respect Chase and i'll always be thankful to him. Because he helped me on my journey a lot when I had no other resources. And I still love this community. These are some of the best forums I've seen. But to put it bluntly, there's just better, more accurate, more empirical information out there nowadays. Its simple as that.

Trust me, I spent a full year following that advice and I lost more girls than I can count because I came off as thirsty, overeager or needy.


You were doing the complete opposite here. Instead of telling this kid moving fast doesn't work; tell him to move fast smartly.

One last note...you don't have to publicly admit it if you don't want to, but I'm 90% sure you've read almost everything on the main site, but you have very little actual experience. So you regurgitate what Chase writes...like a lot. You're a keyboard jockey. And that's fine. I went through that phase too. But understand that you're not in a position to come tell me I'm wrong till you actually rack up the experience to back your words up.

 

[randomguy125612]

Re: Do all the rules of speed and escalation (date 1 sex etc) apply to highschoo

Hate being Captain Buzzkill, but a girl inviting you over to entertain her while she works doesn't mean anything. She likely enjoys the attention, but doesn't have enough balls to meet you alone. Going to her work will be a waste of your time, but some guys need to learn the hard way.

My advice, the next time she texts you, tell her: "I'm gonna call you in 9 minutes "
Get her on the phone, small talk for a bit, then find out what time she finishes work tomorrow or the next day. If she has an evening free, set up the ice cream date. Get this girl IN or OUT quickly. Too much energy is being invested in a girl who will likely be a waste of time.

Another update
I dont feel like posting the text logs but basically she is letting this stupid "I'm worried your too old for me, what will people think" shit cloud her mind, like everyone here said my text game was basically perfect (first time in my life I've gotten so many responses and so positive/eager out of a girl) but this is shit I just can't control, anyways I went and saw her at work and I can't get a bead on how she feels about me, I did poke some fun at her and had a few laughs (one time she checked her phone while I was talking but she did say she was waiting on her ride to pick her up so hopefully she was wondering where it was) and I outright said basically lets do it wednesday and she said "probably, maybe, I'll let you know"

I said "fair enough" and said I had to get out of there and said bye and that was that (I didn't wanna hang around any longer because I didn't want to feed into her paranoia by having people watch us or running into her ride)



Also two unrelated things but I still wonder what they are about
1) Why do foreign girls seem so much more into me? Doesn't matter where they are from, they get all giggly and flustered and stuff, one of the girls at the register there was doing that and other foreign girls do the same stuff
2) Why do girls keep asking me if I am foreign? "Are you from Germany? Are you from Russia?" And they always say it with smiles on their faces looking up at me (literally I'm like 6'4) like they are in awe or something

I've been told by friends I'm "so white" so maybe that's it? I dont know

 

[Smith]

Re: Do all the rules of speed and escalation (date 1 sex etc) apply to highschoo

I dont feel like posting the text logs but basically she is letting this stupid "I'm worried your too old for me, what will people think" shit cloud her mind, like everyone here said my text game was basically perfect (first time in my life I've gotten so many responses and so positive/eager out of a girl) but this is shit I just can't control, anyways I went and saw her at work and I can't get a bead on how she feels about me, I did poke some fun at her and had a few laughs (one time she checked her phone while I was talking but she did say she was waiting on her ride to pick her up so hopefully she was wondering where it was) and I outright said basically lets do it wednesday and she said "probably, maybe, I'll let you know"

I said "fair enough" and said I had to get out of there and said bye and that was that (I didn't wanna hang around any longer because I didn't want to feed into her paranoia by having people watch us or running into her ride)

Hey Randomguy,
Ignore that "you're too old for me" bs. I feel like it's a subtle way of her telling you she's not interested, but at the same time she still enjoys your attention so she doesn't want to tell you straight up. The bottom line is, if a girl is not willing to meet up after a few times, drop her regardless of how she might seems. People are busy, but they will always make time for things that they value.

A note on visiting girls at work....I agreed with problemsolving lol Most girls who aren't 100% interested in you will ask you to come visit them at work, because it makes THEM look good. It gives her social proof and make her look more attractive in front of other people. Again, YOU are investing YOUR time to visit this girl AT WORK. And she invested NOTHING. Every time you feel like you're putting in too much effort to do something, don't do it. Most girls would enjoy the attention a guy gives her and maybe give him a little "positive signs" to be polite, but if she wants to go out with you, you shouldn't have to over invest like this to get her out. Most text exchange to get a girl out should just be simple logisitics. There's no perfect text game man. You can text whatever you want, just don't chase.

 

[randomguy125612]

Re: Do all the rules of speed and escalation (date 1 sex etc) apply to highschoo

"I've got an abscessed tooth :/"

Lol what a lame fucking excuse

I mean there's a chance she is telling the truth but this just reeks of bullshit

What should I say in response? I think its better to respond because 1) there's a chance she is telling the truth and I don't want to un necessarily lose her and 2) if she is lying there is a chance playing it cool will make her change her mind

 

[randomguy125612]

Re: Do all the rules of speed and escalation (date 1 sex etc) apply to highschoo

***texted her back basically saying its ok text me when you wanna reschedule or whatever***

"The whole side of my jaw is throbbing omfg you dont happen to be in the mood for (where she works) are you? XD

How do I even react to this fuckery
I'm so NOT going

But what do I say in response, I gotta text something

 

[Smurf]

Re: Do all the rules of speed and escalation (date 1 sex etc) apply to highschoo

You don't HAVE to respond. In fact I think it would be better for you to stop texting her for a couple days and talk to other girls.

 

[Marcellus]

Re: Do all the rules of speed and escalation (date 1 sex etc) apply to highschoo

This girl does not want to sleep with you, WHY ARE YOU WASTING YOUR TIME?
Can we please lock this thread? Everyone is giving him advice and yet he will not listen. For fuck sakes, ProblemSolving one of the most respected members on here came and gave you some advice which you just chucked out the window.

This Girl is not interested in anything sexual with you and yet you wasted your time to go down and see her at her work! Do you not have anything better to do, do you not have anything at all? Not one single thing that you could otherwise be doing with your time? The one thing that you will never get back.

-M