Do Girls Disguise Shit Tests as Flirting?

[foggy]

Hi friends, lately I am starting to become a little bit confused about women's intentions in my daily interactions.

Specifically, sometimes I find women flirting with me, but I have doubts about the intention of the flirting. This "flirting" could be viewed as them shit testing me.

Here's an example: 30 minutes ago, I was sitting next to a girl in class. I have her on Facebook. I saw she was on Facebook too (on her phone). I messaged her "I see you!" She looked at me and we both smiled at each other. 2 minutes later, class was over. We were sitting at the very end of the row. I stood up to walk by her, she was still sitting down and I needed to get by her. She looks at me and says "whats the password?" I said "Password!? I didn't know there was a password." in a playful tone of voice. She says "Oh I'm just kidding!" and let me through.

Was this a shit test disguised as playful flirting or am I overthinking? If I had started guessing passwords, all of a sudden SHE is in control and I am not, which is bad.

 

[Fuck This]

Yeah that is a pretty playful flirting opportunity. Not too hardcore of a shit test.

If you have conversed and she has told you something personal, you can deploy that knowledge at that point. For example a girl I'd texted we had talked about getting oysters and she was very in favor of getting some the next time we were out towards the coast. She pulled up in her car on a frosty morning and I knocked on her window. She asked "What's the password?" and I replied "Oysters" and she turned red, giggled and opened the door very rapidly.

You can play along or sit down next to her and engage her in a conversation.

 

[HellAtlantic]

That was playful flirting. I swear guys make it so hard on themselves more than is necessary. We complain when a girl rejects us when we approach (or get scared of being rejected and skip the approach) and when they act playful and flirt with us we assume it's a shit test. Bro - ease up and have fun! Be happy she's engaging you and and giving you a green light to continue with your friendly banter. Interacting with girls is supposed to be fun, it's not a battle of the sexes where they're trying to undermine your masculinity and take control. That only happens when you get married! Lol

 

[Zoro]

I don't worry about shit tests. There is an easy rule of thumb to pass them all.

That is, understand a shit test is just a feminine quality that "tests" masculinity. Why do women like when you pass shit tests? You complimented her femininity with Masculinity, and its why you might even start to like shit tests.

Sounds crazy maybe, but when you demonstrate your masculinity is solid, a woman is able to be more emotional and feminine (which I find most attractive). She can storm her storm while you lead the ship, knowing you don't give a fuck if its raining or shining. Your route doesn't change because of the weather (feminine).

So to pass a shit test, the common advice is maintain your frame. Perfect. Why? Masculinity is about building and direction. A masculine man already knows what he wants and where he's going. The shit test is the feminine's way to poke at the rock of masculinity... Is it actually a rock, or a pile of clay which she can mold while she wishes she could just be a storm. Her emotions would wash away the clay. Damn I love metaphors.

So was this a shit test? Not really, just flirting. A way of humans to invite each other to dance this feminine and masculine dance. Observing this dance between masculine and feminine helps decide what to do. If you like her, decide to do something about it. She's flirting? Cool. Just like the captain of a ship, you'll calibrate along the way, but you know your destination. And if the island has no fruit (she bucks your escalation) then sail back into open waters my friend.

 

[normajean106]

That was playful flirting. I swear guys make it so hard on themselves more than is necessary. We complain when a girl rejects us when we approach (or get scared of being rejected and skip the approach) and when they act playful and flirt with us we assume it's a shit test. Bro - ease up and have fun! Be happy she's engaging you and and giving you a green light to continue with your friendly banter. Interacting with girls is supposed to be fun, it's not a battle of the sexes where they're trying to undermine your masculinity and take control. That only happens when you get married! Lol

Yes, that's definitely a beta mindset when you're constantly looking out for girls who you think will undermine your masculinity, as HellAtlantic pointed out.

 

[Hector Papi Castillo]

Not all flirting is a shit-test, but all shit-tests are flirting.

Not all rectangles are squares, but all squares are rectangles.

Girls only test guys they're screening for sex. if she wasn't at least a little interested, she wouldn't care about testing you.

EDIT:

Her - What's the password?

Me - My dick

Her - What?

Me - Huh?!

Hector