Do Women Prefer Dreamers?

[Marty]

So here's my observation:

When I go out (in the daytime) specifically to meet girls, much of the time they will not look at me at all and I often have a hard time getting them to open. It's difficult to engage someone unless you can make eye contact.

However, if I am out during the day and thinking about something completely different, the picture changes. (I've always been a bit of a daydreamer... back in first grade I was disorganized, inattentive in class, and could never find my pencil!) If I'm "in a dream", I suddenly notice that all sorts of women are looking at me... of course, most of the time they're gone before I can approach, as in that frame of mind it takes me so long to recognize it for what it is.

The only reason I can imagine that the "dreamer" is closely related to the "visionary" who sees possibilities that others do not and is thus slated for success.

If only there were some way I could pretend to be daydreaming, while in reality being ready to pounce at a moment's notice...!

Any observations, similar or contrasting?

 

[trashKENNUT]

You just answered your question on "Being Present".

Zac

 

[Marty]

There's still a step missing from the reasoning for me, Zac...

Perhaps when a man dreams he looks younger, and therefore more attractive?

 

[trashKENNUT]

Perhaps when a man dreams he looks younger, and therefore more attractive?

He's more focused, more absorbed in his own world. Ever wonder why girls take note of you when you are piss off, had an "off day". "Off day" means nothing you did was right on that day, and you decided to go for a run and what you had on your mind was only that? You are sweating from your forehead, and you raise your chin only to see a girl, looking at you, waiting to devour you, literally.

That's one example of "Being PResent". (coupled with your male scent, and sweat, which women likes, and i don't know why to be honest, They just horny.)

Zac

 

[Marty]

Zac:

Ever wonder why girls take note of you when you are piss off, had an "off day". "Off day" means nothing you did was right on that day, ... and you raise your chin only to see a girl, looking at you, waiting to devour you, literally.

Yes YES!!! I've had exactly that happen to me. And not once, but many times.

I always thought it was an "error", I never realized it was a recognized occurrence. I'd never have imagined anyone, let alone a pretty girl, would wish to look at me when I'm winding down from a bad day.

It usually happens when I'm thinking about how I could have done something better if only I'd tried, or how wrong somebody else was, perhaps the author of an article or blog post, perhaps someone I had been speaking with...

If I had to guess, I'd describe my appearance at that time to be filled with a fiery, righteous ferocity: let's call it a "red look".

Otherwise if I am simply dreaming, I'd suppose I look like I have a vision of a glorious, perfect future in the skies: let's call this a "blue look".

Whether red or blue, I'd guess I have an appearance of focused intensity. Now I remember Chase's article about How to Be Edgy (and Turn Women On). It all starts to fall in place and make sense. I didn't understand it, the first time I read it!

Thanks, Zac!

 

[solidfundumentals]

Zac I actually think I figured out how to daydream on que or atleast conjer up the day dream look to get a lot of eye contact and attention from females during the day.
Through meditation I made up this process call
"going paralell" where I would try to be in the medatative state on the go while still being semi attentive to what was going on or what ever I was doing. Usually walking or sitting .. oh yeah don't try this while driving. I'm still trying to simplify and make it easier for the masses. When ever you visualize or imagine you usually go to the blank or what Zac likes to call the "Day Dream look" which females are absoulutly attracted too.this process is imagining what whats in your immediate enviorment which triggers this hairline state or expression combined with relaxation breathing.

I had this thing going on where any time a really hot girl walked by or a big group of girls passed while I was walking I would fumble my fundementals disrupt my perfect movement with a trip, flinch, or any uncalabrated movement period. I have this saying for fundumentals

"Say it with your chest, bring your shoulders back, lead with your steps,and try to just relax."
This would also happen when she start looking and I knew she was attracted or they start looking or going crazy around me I couldn't help but to light up and smile. I had to stop this if I wanted to seem experienced and seasoned.
So I would imagine what excatly was going in this situation in my head as vivid as possible only with me bigger more smooth and getting loads of attention from the girl or group. Doing this I would go blank on my face expression I could feel the muscules in my face loosening becoming still I would catch the girl staring and after a while Id worked it down to one breathe cycle just enough time in my opinion.


I have this saying for fundumentals

"Say it with your chest, bring your shoulders back, lead with your steps,and try to just relax."

First breathe in your enviormemt meaning you take in every thing going around you. Be sure to scan faces and pay attention to the details

and on the exhale you picture what you just saw in your head while you stream the instant replay of what going in present and still try to be semi present to what ever you doing.

Seems like a lot it I'll probaly take an hour or two to get down but it works for me.. feel free to try

 

[PinotNoir]

I have a similar thing occur to me.

When I'm out actively looking to approach women, I don't catch women glancing/staring at me.

But, when I'm out on an errand or just hanging out with friends (actually hanging out, like eating lunch, not to pick up women), I'll catch women every now and then that are glancing/staring at me.

Either I give off a certain vibe (maybe looking around too much) or my friends create pre-selection. Of course, when I'm out with friends actively looking for women to approach, I see the same results: few women glancing/staring at me.

I think this relates back to Chase's article/thread on making an Online Profile. Statistically, girls are more attracted to a picture of a man looking off to the distance than someone that is looking directly at the camera. It gives them a chance to stare and admire, while I assume staring feels intimidating and like the guy is watching her presumably thinking naughty thoughts; it lets her admire without restraint. However, on the flip side, guys are more attracted to pictures of women that look directly at the camera (maybe we assume confidence and that she is admiring us).

I think the key here is too move slowly with head movements and to use peripherals as much as possible when looking for women to approach. I still have a problem with using peripherals though; I just can't tell if a girl is hot enough to approach without taking a glance.

It's crazy how all of Chase's articles/threads can help in another area. You'd never think that information from a article on how to make your online profile look sexier would also apply to cold approaching.