Do You Delete Girls Numbers Who Aren't Receptive ?

[Troy]

( PS : Questions at the end of post)

Recently I've gotten more decisive with girls who aren't giving me a positive vibe and I just delete their number. It kind of hurts when Iook in my phone and see all these numbers and none give me a favourable response to set up a date. Delete, delete, delete. Chances are they have already moved on and most likely will never contact me again even just to say " hi ".

Most times I just delete the number without saying any " last words " to them girls. Other times I try one last time to set up a date and if she says " maybe " or gives a dumb ass reply I get them out of my phone.

Below is a conversation I just had with Trish, a brown girl who used to talk to me. I have never met her before, I got her number from a whatsapp group and we texted for hours. The same day we started talking, she asked me to meet her at a bar where she worked. I took that as a sign she wanted to fuck me that night ( near that bar is where people go to buy prostitutes and hook up in hotels. Unfortunately I had other plans that night with another girl.

Long story short from that day we spoke less and less till now she " seens " me on whatsapp. I've been trying to get her out on a date for so long but she never replies. .. until this morning I do it different. Here's the whatsapp conversation.

Whatsapp Conversation

Troy (9:21AM ): Heey. Should I delete your number? And stop app u?

Trish ( 9:24AM ): If u want

Troy (9:26AM ): I ask because u probably been too busy to talk

Trish (9:28AM )‬: And becuz am busy u delete my number and stop app mi go ahead no problem enjoy life idgad ( I don't give a damn)

Trish (9:28AM )‬: F

Troy (9:28AM ): Resend me the link to your book.

Troy (9:30AM ): Nah I don't mean it like that. I just don't keep numbers if I ain't talking to the person... Ahh if you don't mind we can link up and chill sometime?

Trish (9:31AM )‬: Kmt ( Kiss my teeth... a rejection)

It's the first I'm doing it like this. Usually I ask for the date without wining and no reply. See what makes her want to reply. This strategy isn't just for Trish, it's for every girl who is none receptive.

1) Is this the right way to do it? I don't think I'm burning bridges. I just feel I'm asking straight up what the relationship is ( should I keep or delete your number. If she cares she would start talking imo)

2) If not, what's the right way to cut girls off?

3) Do you delete girls numbers who aren't receptive?

Troy

 

[HellAtlantic]

I personally think that's a horrible way to do it. If you want to resume talking to someone just text them something like "hey, long time no talk, how u been?". That reestablishes the communication. If she's still receptive you'll get a positive response. If not you might get no response. Your way comes off as too needy. If you've stopped communicating with someone technically they've already been cut off. No need for an official announcement.

 

[Troy]

So in a situation where I meet them girls via whatsapp , how do I get them out without having a long text conversation. Remember they know nothing about me so I have to text quite a bit to warm them up to meeting me.

How do you send minimal texts?

Troy

 

[Estate]

I've never used Whatsapp so I don't really know how you "meet" someone on it but in general, after a girl has been non-responsive for a certain time, it's probably best to delete it.

The reason though, would mainly so you're NOT tempted to send messages like above when you're feeling low on options.
There's times I've re-engaged a girl or she's re-engaged me after a time but it's not something very consistent that happens. Usually the reason it works is because you just go about your business, move onto other girls and just stop worrying about her... so if one of you re-engages... you have more of a bive of "Whatever, she blew me off last time, so let her do the work if she wants to see me, otherwise, next..."

You need to be seeing other women though. If you don't, you'll send these messages at weak moments and it won't help you.
The messages above will "work" in reengaging her because you're trying to reject her (though not really, she knows what your doing) but it's not making her attracted to you.

Sometimes I wish more guys would just adopt the idea of... give a girl a certain amount of time, and if she's not being receptive or proactive herself... move on.
Most guys just keep these numbers and keep on trying with women well past their sell by date and it lets a lot of women have this "Whatever..." attitude towards guys, which in turn makes it worse for the guys who caused it in the first place.

 

[Troy]

Yep delete and move on. it seems like you are chatting a ton w these girls. Why? Once there's a meet up invite, then there should never really be any other topic on the table it's either meet up or move on.

Why? Well I've never met these girls and most are " afraid " of meeting strangers. Most times, unfortunately I have to text them for 2 weeks ( about 30 texts per day) before I get a date. I really think that's too much. Is there a better way to quickly get girls out ( who never met me)?

Just relate in a couple topics, ask for the meet, then meet or next...no other options. Don't ask for the meet more than twice. Also consider meeting more girls in person if possible.

What's bad about asking for the meet more than twice? I've asked some girls up to 10 times and some came out. You have a point though . I do try to relate, though conversation via text is usually very boring no matter how I put it. These days I'm just looking to send way less texts and get way more dates.

I've never used Whatsapp so I don't really know how you "meet" someone on it

Whatsapp is similar to SMS and much better . There is a blue tick function where you know when someone has read your message ( exact time). Groups can be created up to 100 persons...it doesn't matter if I know the people in the group or not. We all text. How I " meet " girls on whatsapp is bring vibes to the group and let the girls see who I am, a bit then I private message them, banter a bit, tell them to save my number, then ask for a date ( " wanna chill sometime? ")

Lately I've gotten far more dates via whatsapp . I think it's a good way to meet girls.



Troy

 

[Troy]

As soon as something you have in common pops up say, "oh you like band! me too, what do you play?" before they respond say, "I like text a lot better than whats app, whats your number?."

Lol no bro. When you use whatsapp they already have your number and you have theirs. That's what makes it so amazing. Besides with a SMS their is no way to know if she has or hasn't read my message. Whatsapp let's me know who is and isn't interested faster. I'll see when they are " online " and know " they must see my message".

The relating to her part is a good idea though. I'll use it.

Then Talk about the band thing, THEN trade some pictures, then say "hey you seem like fun, interested in grabbing a burger/coffee/drink(pick one) sometime? then if they say yes, cool, if not, then send the "wash your cat text the next day." Then if still no, NEXT.

I just tried that out with a few girls on whatsapp. Only one has responded ( the rest are offline). I refrased the wording slightly (oops)

Conversation :

Troy: Hey

Ashlee: What's up?

Troy: Ah u seem super cool. Wanna go chill sometime soon?

Ashlee: Sure Maybe ( maybe usually means no)

Troy : Cool. When are you free

She hasn't replied and I don't know why. It's almost half hour ago. SMH. What went wrong? I've been texting her from January ( we lost contact for about 4 months then she reinitiated last week and we bantered a bit. So I went straight to the point this morning.

Troy

Edit : OK Radeng a next girl has replied :

Troy: Heey. Ah you seem cool. Wanna go chill sometime soon Janessa?

Janessa : Sure

 

[Troy]

Always have something specific to do. You've been chatting since January... You must know something she likes right? Coffee or a burger or ice cream is super low investment. Very chill. The less specific it is the easier it is to say no later and flake.

Ashlee likes pizza and burger. When I say for example " wanna go get burgers " girls may say NO still ( even though they like burger). I suspect they just aren't feeling to get " a burger ". So I went back to saying " let's chill and probably grab a drink ". This works much better, I've been on dates and some girls don't eat or drink.

I like to say "a quick coffee" because it makes it look like in busy and only sort of interested in meeting.

Lol I like to say " a ice cream " because it's fun and more suited for the weather. It's hot in the Caribbean.

Also, I would never ask for meet right away get her responding first. Then ask. Think baby steps.

I get you. It's the first I'm trying it like this. I'm surprised it worked. Ahh when you say get her to respond first, I interpret that as banter and relate on one or two topics then ask for the date.

Also, good job you should not be replying immediately to these girls. Mix it up. When's the last time you purposely waited an hour to respond? You need to start doing that. Make them wonder what you're up to.

Thanks . I haven't replied to Janessa, I'm thinking what's the best way to reply. I purposely take long to reply all the time. If xyz girl takes hours to reply I do the same. Not all the time. I like to make them wonder. I think it depends on the girl and what I'm trying to get. If I'm busy I naturally take long to reply. And sometimes I'll reply immediately.

Troy

Edit: I'll reply to Janessa saying

Troy: Cool. When are you free?

Janessa : IDK ( it's possible, she's a school girl and maybe doesn't have a schedule)

Troy: OK let me know when ( it feels kinda weird... Though I keep saying it because I can't find a better way.)

Again I'm just assuming the conversation might go this way. If she gives me a day, I'll ask her what time, she tells me, I'll say " cool ", then make a joke, relate on something else ( not exceeding 20 texts ) then finish the conversation till the day we are to meet.

 

[Estate]

Ok. I thought what's app was a text app meaning you had to know someone's number by meeting them to contact them.

Maybe I'm just of an older generation here but I'm familiar with group chats and the usual thirsty guys on them. It's a pretty fast track to getting either blocked, outed or labeled as a creep from what I see on those things....

Proceed with caution.

At the end of the day, you've got zero connection to girls through these apps and every guy on there will be hitting her up. I'd really advise getting outdoors and meeting people than relying on this kinda thing.

 

[Troy]

Thanks for the days advice guys. I'll be using it and you'll see specks of it in my upcoming field reports.

Troy

 

[Franco]

Troy,

Lol no bro. When you use whatsapp they already have your number and you have theirs. That's what makes it so amazing. Besides with a SMS their is no way to know if she has or hasn't read my message. Whatsapp let's me know who is and isn't interested faster. I'll see when they are " online " and know " they must see my message".

Careful with this thought here. How often a girl checks her messages/phone from Whatsapp/FB/Text messages from you has nothing to do with her interest levels. In general, I find "read receipts" to be a disadvantage for guys. You don't want a girl knowing when you saw her message; it alleviates too many of her worries/concerns and drops attraction.

In general, I like women wondering about what I'm doing when I haven't responded to a message yet. It does wonders for building attraction for yourself on her end.

- Franco

 

[Troy]

Careful with this thought here. How often a girl checks her messages/phone from Whatsapp/FB/Text messages from you has nothing to do with her interest levels. In general, I find "read receipts" to be a disadvantage for guys. You don't want a girl knowing when you saw her message; it alleviates too many of her worries/concerns and drops attraction.

In general, I like women wondering about what I'm doing when I haven't responded to a message yet. It does wonders for building attraction for yourself on her end.

I could turn off read receipts on whatsapp . One disadvantage for me is I won't know if they read my message. Secondly think it's a good idea to turn off " last seen "? ( For those who don't know it's the last exact time you were seen online. If I haven't been on their in a minute girls will know.)

I know some girls turn off both read receipts and last seen. And Franco what you said made me think. The girls I'm most likely to develop oneitis for ALL HIDE when they were last online and read receipts.

Question though, a little off target, how do I deal with girls who accidentally /purposely take long to reply to my messages? I asked out a few girls, got some replies, yet some are " hiding " from replying.

Another situation ,xyz girl had a great first date, and I mean to ask her out, yet she doesn't allow the conversation to flow ( no it won't be a long conversation . I just want to ask her out on a high point) yet she's taking 12 hours to reply.

I can't have a conversation like this :

Troy: Hey

Girl: Hi

Troy: ( ask her out)

Girl: ...

The short text exchange has to be more like

Troy: Hey

Girl : Hi

Troy : ( relate on something we have in common)

Girl : ( relates )

Troy : ( playful comment )

Girl : ( laughs)

Troy : ( ask her out)

Girl : Sure

Though it's a vibes killer when she takes so long to reply it makes me put off asking her ( different girls ).

I'll try disabling read receipts and last seen and report later how it has impacted my results.

Troy

 

[Franco]

Troy,

Question though, a little off target, how do I deal with girls who accidentally /purposely take long to reply to my messages? I asked out a few girls, got some replies, yet some are " hiding " from replying.

Another situation ,xyz girl had a great first date, and I mean to ask her out, yet she doesn't allow the conversation to flow ( no it won't be a long conversation . I just want to ask her out on a high point) yet she's taking 12 hours to reply.

The answer is generally simple for me... I take as long or longer than them to reply to messages. I'm never really having quick, back-to-back messages over text with women these days. I'll send a text and then won't respond to their next message until a few hours have passed. If it's in the evening, I'll usually respond more quickly, but it's hardly ever shorter than 20 minutes. I'll respond within 40 minutes to an hour usually between the hours of like 8 pm and 11 pm. And if she sends a text after that, depending on what my goals are with her, I may not even respond again until morning.

The idea behind this is what I like to call "mental investment." I talk about it on my podcast in this article here. In general, I bring up topics about how women think and what your strategy behind texting them should be. It's a good listen if you get some time. =)

EDIT: Your conversation can still be talking about things you want to relate upon. The only thing that might differ between the way I'm doing it and the way you're doing it is that the example exchange you gave above might take place over the course of 12 hours rather than 12 minutes.

- Franco

 

[Troy]

Yeah I listened to the podcast Franco. It's a good listen Thanks much everyone.

Troy