Observations Do you do this with every girl?

[trashKENNUT]

Hi Guys,

Chase had this philosophy ("Damned if you do. Damned if you don't") everytime a girl ask some certain certain questions. I can honestly say there are many more of this questions.

One example is:

"Do you this with every girl?"

She has four reasons for saying this.

1)She doesn't like you
2)You touch too much
3)You were not 'natural'
4)She sends an early warning for wanting you to appreciate her more.

I believe there are many reasons from here, but one thing i know is that answering this has two ways going, either bad or good. I want to work on something better than this.

Zac

 

[Franco]

Zac,

Your answer to this one can vary, actually. The most important thing is that it is congruent with your personality.

For example, I remember one member actually posting his response to that question, and it was something along the lines of:

"You bet. I do it with EVERY single one of them. "

And then he aggressively started making out with her. I could see someone like Anatman using this style because it suits his personality. Remember, what she's REALLY testing here is your frame and your reaction. Regardless of your answer, it needs to be expressed calmly and confidently.

Another good way of handling the answer is to be very sly about it and answer like this:

"Of course not. You're the very first one... " (and then slyly smile at her so that she really doesn't know)

You can also be a bit more direct with your answer and say something like:

"Only the ones that REALLY catch my eye and turn me on. "

It's all about your frame when you get a question like this and picking an answer that fits your personality. If your answer seems contrived, or nervous, or very different from what she was expecting, then she'll begin to get slightly worried.

- Franco

 

[trashKENNUT]

Franco,

Your answer to this one can vary, actually. The most important thing is that it is congruent with your personality.

It's all about your frame when you get a question like this and picking an answer that fits your personality. If your answer seems contrived, or nervous, or very different from what she was expecting, then she'll begin to get slightly worried.

Sorry about that. I think that i wasn't clear about the question. I think it's more about the women here. I understand that answers varies and i agree, Anatman's personality works well with this because his personality compliments them. I think i am more concern with women who are more logical. This is more apparent here in Asia, i assume.

I feel that i can tone this down or find something better to soften the sexual vibe, with women who are more "logical", in that sense or conservative, softer women.

Zac

 

[Chase]

Here's an answer I prefer:

• Her: Do you do this with every girl?
  You: Hmm... why do you say that?

She then starts explaining herself, or trying to. You take the conversation down a different direction at that point - don't try to convince her you're cool or try giving her something unique, and instead challenge her perception that this thing you're doing with her is "abnormal" (because that's really what the source of the concern is).

Like so:

• Her: Do you do this with every girl?
  You: Why would you ask that?
  Her: I don't know... this just feels contrived.
  You: Us walking?
  Her: I mean us just meeting and then going somewhere.
  You: What do you think we should do differently?
  Her: I don't know, this just isn't what I normally do.
  You: Oh... well, normal is boring to me. I don't know about you, maybe you like normal.
  Her: No, normal's pretty boring to me too.
  You: You know what's more interesting than normal?
  Her: What?
  You: Doing stuff you enjoy doing.
  Her: Haha... oooo-kaaaaay...
  You: Do you enjoy walking and talking with me?
  Her: Yesss...
  You: Good! (said emphatically; then don't say anything else and walk along quietly and happily with a smile on your face for a while until she starts talking to you again)
  Her: (after a little while; topic change) Soooo... how long have you been in this city?

Chase

 

[Mr.Rob]

This is a cool thread.

Chase I like that approach to answering the famed "Do you do this with every girl?" line, I like how it's not a canned opener but is almost a deep dive to explore her feelings on the subject/reason for asking... I'll have to try it out.

However to build on what Franco said:

The most important thing is that it is congruent with your personality.

Hell yeah I used to use a canned answer to that question "well you see I enjoy simply going on adventures to break up the monotony in life...". It wasn't bad but if I was in a more playful emotional mood (as opposed to logical) and then went into my canned answer it was like this.

Fun opener->tease->Joke->Rapport->Playful Kino->Super serious logical answer to question = Incongruent to the emotions I was feeling and I noticed the vibe would drop off immediately and she would leave.

Going on a bit of a tangent, I've observed that my BEST interactions especially the fast escalations and all my Lays I was VERY congruent in acting in the manner that I'm feeling at the moment in time.

In other words my thoughts, words, and actions were aligned.

My worst quickest blowouts on the other hand were times in which maybe I felt nervous but tried really hard to act like James Bond. I think the girls notice immediately that something is off and as a result and blow you out because your not being who you actually are. As if you had a façade up.

-Rob