Do you keep in touch with girls who live far from your city?

[Prehistoric]

I was wondering if it's worth the effort.

I met a very beautiful tourist the other night in the club. She was with a friend visiting from a city quite far from mine.
I approached the two of them as they were talking outside smoking a sigarette. We talked for around 20 minutes, then I took the two of them by the hands and brought them to the bar. We had some shots (they wanted to pay for theirs and I didn't mind), then I brought them to the dance floor where I started escalating with the hottest one. The other one went to the restroom. We danced closely, we made out, then the dance turned into heavy petting. I tried to bring her to the sofas, but at that point she said she wanted to find her friend. Took me by the hand to the ladies' restroom, then we went outside again and they said they want to go to sleep because they were leaving the day after. I said we could bring the friend home (a bit rude I know ) and then have some other drinks together but she insisted that she didn't want to leave the friend alone in the hostel. We exchanged FB contact.

Normally I would forget her the day after, but this one was really really hot. So I wrote to her the next day and we have been chatting quite a lot ever since.

Going to her town JUST to visit her frankly looks like a desperate move unless maybe you make her so horny on the internet that she actually wants it and asks for it, but is that really possible?

By the way, suggestions on whether you think I made some mistakes that night are also appreciated!

 

[Chase]

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I've found it best with these scenarios to ping the girl every so often (maybe once every 6 to 8 months or so?) and get into a brief exchange over email. I like the longer message format for this since you'll be covering a lot of ground in a few emails. Texting/messaging has a more immediate feel and it's kind of weird doing that with someone you won't see for a long time. It's also a lot less effort to pound out a couple of 3-paragraph emails over the course of 4 or 5 days once every 6 months than it is to do a bunch of texting and monitoring your phone. Plus, with texting, girls will want to do a lot of it frequently, and if it doesn't lead to anything immediate, this can be a let down (one that she anchors to you).

So, you just touch bases over email, update her on your life, ask about hers, trade 3 or 4 or 5 emails, then stop writing. Repeat again whenever you think of it in another half a year or so.

Then when you're going to her city at some point, you can drop her a line and let her know and the two of you can meet up, or if she returns to your city she'll remember to write you first because you're the guy she chats with every now and then. This is a fun way to keep girls on the shelf you wouldn't normally have an easy way to, and can lead to some magical "fated" feeling hookups where you've known this girl a long time and she's known you a long time and you never got together before but now after 2 years or whatever you meet up and get together. Can be really nice... it's almost like an old-time-y longer-term seduction-via-letter-writing. Quite pleasant.

Chase

 

[Prehistoric]

Thanks a lot for the advice, Chase!