Do you really want to Fuck?
When I was younger I had this problem. I didn't want to fuck. I had girls interested in me, had a great looking long time GF, but finally she rejected me. Only by looking back today I know why - I didn't want to fuck.
I lost my virginity, not because I pushed for sex but because she actually "just did it" while I was totally passive. Unknowingly, without any plan or expectations, I just invited her to my place after knowing her only for short while, and then "it just happened". Today I would consider such simplicity mastery but before it was pure naivety, I didn't even have a clue how to 'date' girls, all I did is invited her to my place - and she came.
I mean, I was interested in sex, I always considered naked women as the most beautiful 'things' and experiences that life can offer, but for some reason I didn't really want to fuck. It wasn't in my mind. In my mind was love, good feelings for her, great relationship.
Then I met more girls and I fell in love. Because of the feelings of love, I wasn't able to push for sex. She was so beautiful, so exciting, made me feel so good, at the same she was so friendly and vibrating at 'at my level', made me feel so good. I felt so good that I had no balls to ask her out, and when I finally did and she came, I totally failed. Needless to say, I didn't show her that I can and I want fuck, so I got rejected again. It hurt, a lot, and this experience lead me to search online and find out why am I such a big fuck up...?
So I discovered PUA material. All of the sudden everything is backwards. No more being nice, polite and understanding, but in stead I should become some overconfident asshole. No more agreeing and doing things for her when she asks, but do the exact opposite. No need to tell her everything about yourself, rather say nothing to remain mystery. No more talking smartly and intelligently, just being plain dumb and saying stupid things will do it just fine. I learned to say smart things and I learned to say dumb words to seduce. I discovered different types of girls, read about different styles of seduction and understood some good points in history of human evolution. No longer I need to suffer because of many rejections, rather I prevent them by recognizing signs, and I got used to them as if they didn't exist.
So all this PUA world is so exciting, finally a regular guy like me could have power to do something about love and sex life, regular guy could become a master of seduction, have many girls. It is addictive, so one reads and reads, and the more he reads the more he wants to know. Many of guys get entrapped by PUA material, many spent years on it improving, mastering and improvising new ways.
But the truth is different. The truth is much simpler. By reading many posts here and some articles (e.g. The last 5% on GC web) I'm realizing that bunch of guys are having very similar problem - they simply don't want to fuck, they are not ready. They get overwhelmed with feminine energy - all that sweet talk, flirting and good feelings a guy can have through interaction with woman, and this feminine energy is so powerful that it makes the guy sort of uninterested in sex. I mean real sex, I'm not talking about jerking off while watching porn.
The way I see it today, you can just be who you are. Seduction is quite simple - you go out and you talk to her. Say whatever you want, dumb or smart, just say something and let her talk. Just the fact that you are guy and she is a girl is good enough for attraction, no other attraction is needed. If you can't get enough girls attracted to you, go work out - working out is physical, it is an unspoken language that says: Look, I am healthy, I feel good about myself, I care about my body, I have enough testosterone and I want to fuck. If you are too pessimistic and depressed, meditate. Smile. When you smile and are relaxed you are saying: Look, I am happy, easy going, fun, filled with good feelings. Simple as that. There is no need for any sophisticated seduction techniques, no need to attract in any other way. Simple touch, getting physical with her is much stronger that thousands of seductive words. When you touch her your physical contact her creates greater bond that hours of flirting, texting and seducing. Then you invite her to your place. Right there you get all the answers you need, no need to analyzed any signs, no need to worries if she is interested enough - simply, if she is compliant she will go, and if not she is not interested. Once you are in your place, you need to deliver sex. So start touching more, be more sexual. Nailing her first is much more easier before you get attached to her emotionally, before you fall in love with her.
And all this becomes even more easier and simpler if you are crystal clear in your mind about one simple thing: whether you really want to fuck, meaning putting your dick in her pussy, get nasty, and the nastier the better - or just having a good feelings by being around her...
When I was younger I had this problem. I didn't want to fuck. I had girls interested in me, had a great looking long time GF, but finally she rejected me. Only by looking back today I know why - I didn't want to fuck.
I lost my virginity, not because I pushed for sex but because she actually "just did it" while I was totally passive. Unknowingly, without any plan or expectations, I just invited her to my place after knowing her only for short while, and then "it just happened". Today I would consider such simplicity mastery but before it was pure naivety, I didn't even have a clue how to 'date' girls, all I did is invited her to my place - and she came.
I mean, I was interested in sex, I always considered naked women as the most beautiful 'things' and experiences that life can offer, but for some reason I didn't really want to fuck. It wasn't in my mind. In my mind was love, good feelings for her, great relationship.
Then I met more girls and I fell in love. Because of the feelings of love, I wasn't able to push for sex. She was so beautiful, so exciting, made me feel so good, at the same she was so friendly and vibrating at 'at my level', made me feel so good. I felt so good that I had no balls to ask her out, and when I finally did and she came, I totally failed. Needless to say, I didn't show her that I can and I want fuck, so I got rejected again. It hurt, a lot, and this experience lead me to search online and find out why am I such a big fuck up...?
So I discovered PUA material. All of the sudden everything is backwards. No more being nice, polite and understanding, but in stead I should become some overconfident asshole. No more agreeing and doing things for her when she asks, but do the exact opposite. No need to tell her everything about yourself, rather say nothing to remain mystery. No more talking smartly and intelligently, just being plain dumb and saying stupid things will do it just fine. I learned to say smart things and I learned to say dumb words to seduce. I discovered different types of girls, read about different styles of seduction and understood some good points in history of human evolution. No longer I need to suffer because of many rejections, rather I prevent them by recognizing signs, and I got used to them as if they didn't exist.
So all this PUA world is so exciting, finally a regular guy like me could have power to do something about love and sex life, regular guy could become a master of seduction, have many girls. It is addictive, so one reads and reads, and the more he reads the more he wants to know. Many of guys get entrapped by PUA material, many spent years on it improving, mastering and improvising new ways.
But the truth is different. The truth is much simpler. By reading many posts here and some articles (e.g. The last 5% on GC web) I'm realizing that bunch of guys are having very similar problem - they simply don't want to fuck, they are not ready. They get overwhelmed with feminine energy - all that sweet talk, flirting and good feelings a guy can have through interaction with woman, and this feminine energy is so powerful that it makes the guy sort of uninterested in sex. I mean real sex, I'm not talking about jerking off while watching porn.
The way I see it today, you can just be who you are. Seduction is quite simple - you go out and you talk to her. Say whatever you want, dumb or smart, just say something and let her talk. Just the fact that you are guy and she is a girl is good enough for attraction, no other attraction is needed. If you can't get enough girls attracted to you, go work out - working out is physical, it is an unspoken language that says: Look, I am healthy, I feel good about myself, I care about my body, I have enough testosterone and I want to fuck. If you are too pessimistic and depressed, meditate. Smile. When you smile and are relaxed you are saying: Look, I am happy, easy going, fun, filled with good feelings. Simple as that. There is no need for any sophisticated seduction techniques, no need to attract in any other way. Simple touch, getting physical with her is much stronger that thousands of seductive words. When you touch her your physical contact her creates greater bond that hours of flirting, texting and seducing. Then you invite her to your place. Right there you get all the answers you need, no need to analyzed any signs, no need to worries if she is interested enough - simply, if she is compliant she will go, and if not she is not interested. Once you are in your place, you need to deliver sex. So start touching more, be more sexual. Nailing her first is much more easier before you get attached to her emotionally, before you fall in love with her.
And all this becomes even more easier and simpler if you are crystal clear in your mind about one simple thing: whether you really want to fuck, meaning putting your dick in her pussy, get nasty, and the nastier the better - or just having a good feelings by being around her...
