Does A "Real Date" Have Too Much Provider Value?

[Hue]

So, I want a girl to be my girlfriend. Perhaps with a side piece or two, but yea, I like her like that. I've been reading stuff on the main site about how to go about it, expectation setting, etc.

Anyway, I scored two great tickets to a big game this weekend, and I think it would be really fun to take her. She's older and loaded, I'm younger and terrible with my money. I want to take her on this date because it's a good opportunity for us two to have fun with each other, not because I want to pour investment into her. I haven't taken a girl on a date like this since high school.

That said, she might interpret it as me putting a large amount of investment into her. I've been investing more than she is with texting her. I send like 3 texts and only get 1-2 back, typically - working on that currently. She knows I have other women and I've ghosted her unintentionally a few times.

So, I want to take her, and need to ask soon to avoid logistical issues.
But, I feel like this could potentially be a bad step due to:

• A). Give me a frame too synonymous with that of a provider

• B). Put attainability too high and cement the chasing position I might be inching towards

• C). She might already be going to the game which would be a terrible frame for me

Some caveats of these concerns are that I'm clearly not a "provider", but the investment dynamic is that in the same, and that our dates prior to this have been nothing more than meet up at a bar, drink, leave home, fuck.

So I dunno. What do you guys think?


Hue

 

[Fuck This]

If you want to avoid being a provider, frame the invite as an exchange.

"Hey I've got tickets, I'll drive, you cover dinner."

If she doesn't jump on it right away, follow up with: "My buddy FT, wants the ticket if you aren't able. " If she doesn't get back to you or declines, take a buddy, and meet women at the game.