Does it have to be a numbers game? +fundamentals

[jackoftades819]

As a beginner, I'm still crippled by approach anxiety, have useless numbers, and zero dates. I really don't think I handle rejection well and I don't want to cold approach if I'm going to get rejected often. That aside, is seduction really a numbers game? Is getting laid just "luck of the draw"? Being at the right place at the right time? etc. Usually when I approach, it turns out they're just being polite and have no interest whatsoever. I guess girls show signs of interest, but I'm awful at reading those. In my previous posts, I mentioned a girl on my dorm floor who I thought was interested, ended up chasing her, and turned out that all the IOIs were actually her turning me down. Secondly, as I'm college, what are my best ways to improve my fundamentals? I don't really have money to spend on fashionable clothes and am still not sure how to do a "sexy walk" without looking ridiculous. Also unsure how vibe works. Thanks for listening to my questions/rant.

 

[Smurf]

Yo Jack,

It doesn't have to be a numbers game, but it usually is, and here's why.

You need to keep approaching over and over so you can get a sense of what attraction not only looks like but feels like. Its different for everyone but it might take you 100's of approaches to see that you've reached a hook point. You've probably had chances but don't recognize them, and that's okay. The thing with numbers game is that it gives you the opportunity to recognize those signs and when you need to do certain things.

Of course you could just wait and work on your fundamentals, but that could take longer. For me, its really good for me to get positive or negative reactions from my fundamentals so I can make tweaks where necessary to adjust them. A couple of months ago two girls I was roadtripping with commented on my walk and gave me positive reactions. If they didn't say anything it would've basically been me estimating if its good or not.

Numbers game is difficult, but if you keep grinding it you'll improve in no time!

Get those reference experiences,

Jake.