Does putting a woman on a pedestal always have to be a bad thing?

[Dash of Englishness]

Just a little rant here. As a ticket inspector I do sometimes fantasise about bypassing the attractive young lone woman while inspecting all the others, and having her wonder if it was because she clearly appears like a law abiding citizen, or if it's because her looks. I somehow feel like this would give me a miniscule increase in chance of getting with her. If I bothered to think hard enough about how this might appear from her perspective I might see it very differently. Doing this would be stupid as I'd be seeing what I want in a complete stranger... making it out as if she somehow has similar values to me where as in reality I might hate her. But does it always have to be a bad thing? You see this sort in the movies all the time. I'm very much a romantic and I think it's the vicarious thrill I get out of it that gets me off!

I do like it myself when I am viewed as more reliable by a police man or something like that. It reminds me of that scene in Mad Men where the bohemian says to Don Draper "hey, you can't go out there! and Draper replies "you can't" puts on his hat and walks straight out passed the police.

 

[HoofHearted]

This is an interesting thought experiment. I think you're demonstrating a perspective bias.

You, a man, would be deeply moved by a small gratitude originating unexpectedly. It sure doesn't happen often, kindness seems so rare!

She, as a woman, receives a favor and smiles for a second and moves on, putting it on a pile with all the other 'favors' she got that day. Which are actually 'men trying to fuck her' disguised as kindness, like... you would be doing, if you did her a 'favor' in this context. How decidedly not rare! How commonly this happens to beautiful women. And then she has to interpret it as you 'being nice,' no one can survive if they think 137 penises are homing in on them every day. A literal torpedo-tornado of dicks.

My opinion: if you can do it, and you want to do it, choose to be kind for kindness's own sake. Don't be a torpedo dick.

 

[Gladiator]

I somehow feel like this would give me a miniscule increase in chance of getting with her

I think it's the opposite...

 

[Chase]

@Dash of Englishness,

I suspect you'd have a better chance of getting with her by NOT bypassing her but instead using your job as an excuse to talk to her, and testing her very lightly for interest (if no, keep going; if so, escalate a bit and see if she still responds well).

It's always a bit dicey with jobs -- don't want to overstep and make trouble for yourself -- but chicks do dig the guy in uniform.

As for the pedestal question... sure, it works for some guys.

It gets them the girl who's tired of bad boys and has decided she's ready for a really good guy who will take good care of her.

Many girls marry guys like this, once they've had their fun (and gotten burned) by enough charming rogues (such as us!).

If you want to actually be a SEDUCER and do that though... only really works with the "over-the-top romantic" archetype.

This is the guy who comes on really strong, telling the girl she's his whole world, slathering her with compliments, while also being rather demanding and insistent. He'll be creepy to her if she doesn't like that, but some girls really go ga-ga for that guy too and it gets them hook, line, and sinker.

Whether it is moral to make a girl feel like you're that strongly into her, only to vanish the next morning, is another question entirely...

Chase