Doing a Reset: Thoughts

[NewBeeWinner]

Hey guys,

Im thinking of doing a reset. With me no longer being able to approach girls on campus safely and having possibly lost my place in my church group, I want to make some changes.

1 - deleting girls #s who I never could make something happen with. My contact list is huge and its demoralizing to see all these contacts and yet have nothing come from them. Its all too easy to ping a girl in a weak moment.

2 - staying off FB / instagram. I already mostly do this. Just being more serious about it.

3 - Setting up hard rules for myself. No going for girls from work, church, or school (for now). Its too easy to have one come back and reck your social standing.

4 - Having a routine for going out to meet women.

5 - No longer accepting sexless relationships. Unless I specifically want to be only friends with a girl, sex is a NEED of mine. This also includes girls who just want me as a boyfriend. Im fine with that as long as we have sex first. This is a hard rule.

6 - Defining specitically what I want and how Im going to get it. I'll post this in my Journal.

7 - Following GC article on getting back in the game. Ive been tired and my vibe is off. Time to go out as much as I can and rework my fundamentals

Thoughts?

NBW

 

[naturalmikey]

that's great! what you're doing is establishing boundaries for yourself. this is defining your own frame. the problem is your not framing yourself as an attractive man who is enough and deserves great things. check out this video

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V3-EpyOrjBk&t=1090s

 

[DarkKnight]

I see that you have really thought things out and I think resets are a good thing. I have done more than one of those in my life. At the moment I am also really fatigued and my vibe is off, I'm being distant to girls even despite getting signals and warmth. I think I am in a reset fase too. Need a week or 2 break. Just want to focus on something else. So yeah I agree with your pattern interrupt.

 

[NewBeeWinner]

naturalmikey,

Thanks for the video! Yeah I definitely needed the couple mindsets that were suggested to boost me back up from feeling so low value (due to everything that's happened). It also helped a few things click that I've read from GC.

DarkKnight,

Yeah, I think just taking rest days every once in a while can be pretty useful. I'm going to take some time and readdress my game.

Thanks you two,

NBW

 

[NewBeeWinner]

that's great! what you're doing is establishing boundaries for yourself. this is defining your own frame. the problem is your not framing yourself as an attractive man who is enough and deserves great things. check out this video

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V3-EpyOrjBk&t=1090s

I just had a big apiphany moment. I approached and went through today thinking "Im good enough to talk to any woman". But I just had a thought after realizing why I wasnt inspired (and therefore motivated to get results) - the thought was "I deserve sex as much as anyone else". Sure I had thought plenty about sex and thinking of girls sexually and all this. But I never truly felt myself worthy of having sex - after all, my reality reinforced this: strict controlling parents, strict religious views on sex, failing so often with so many different girls, getting close to sex but failing to take it all the way. It felt like everyone and everything was never going to let me have sex. The truth was that I wasnt letting myself.

Thank you.

NBW