LR Dominant Sex

[Ambiance]

Hey gents- hope this LR finds you all making breakthroughs with women and having as much fun as I am. This was significant seduction for me for reasons I will get into, and it gave me my first taste at several techniques while showing me things I need to work on.

Met this girl at my school. I go to a co-divisional school where they split up the boys and girls (the Horror!!! although it did lead me to finding Girlschase), but on this particular day we were doing a thing called Diversity Day, which utilized both the Boy's and Girl's Division and we could have workshops with girls. (Diversity Day... Hahaha my school is so white...)

I was hanging out with a good friend of mine and his girlfriend, who had two of her lady friends with her. We were just having lunch outside, and I was bantering with all the girls but keeping it toned down since none of them were especially hot and I didn't want to be flirting with my friend's girlfriend. If I get into a certain state I don't think I can help myself (and it doesn't help that she is both cute and is flirty with me). So I was just being a sociable guy with the occasional outrageous comment thrown in.

A sophomore girl I had never seen before started hovering around me. Found out later she was from the other school who was participating in our Diversity Day. Definitely a girl I am attracted to. Again, like my previous two LRs, she was blonde, fairly tall, big breasts and fine legs. I love how my mind seems to be completely at ease around these girls who are just so my type, probably since my first girl looks so much like her. Definitely love many types of girls though, not just blondes with bods. Kinda want some variety now. After hovering she then sat right next to me, pretending to play something on her phone. I made a comment about the game she was playing, and then just struck up a conversation with her. In my mind the conversation was mostly platonic (missed a glaring opportunity for a chase frame identical to the hotdog example Chase gives in his article), but I talked slowly and powerfully and would say rather than coming across as a seducer came across as some really high value guy. Of course preselection was on my side, and I was dressed to the nines. She gave me her number without my asking. I have a pretty simple technique for having girls do this. At a high point I mention something I have to go do, and use a compliment/barrier "I'm really glad we met, you are so *adjective". If only we had more time, I'd love to spend more time with you." Then the girl throws her number at you. I don't always do this, but depending on the interaction I'll give her a "Maybe I'll call you" with a sly grin.

Sent her an icebreaker text, and she responded immediately and struck up a conversation. I have been tweaking my texting game, by actually sometimes texting girls right back especially when they are more responsive, though still throwing in 1,2, or longer hour breaks here and there depending how busy I am. I am in high school so my thinking is that girls are more susceptible to becoming invested in text messages, and can actually go into guarded auto-rejection if I take forever to respond. The girl who broke my heart and sent me on this journey gave me a lot of insight into creating infatuation over texts. Value, Investment, Attainability- all essential. Girls seem to mostly mirror my text patterns unless they aren't super into me, so why not ramp up her emotions without over doing it?

Anyway, I found out that she and I live roughly 35 minutes away from each other. I had the day off yesterday due to parent teacher conferences. Also, my grandparents just left to go on a 1 month trip to Coronado, and I had left a window open to their house. So I set up with this sophomore, who can't drive, that we should hang out, and the way I had been texting I had really amped up the sexuality between us. This is not something I usually do over text with a girl who I haven't been intimate with prior, but I was experimenting and she was just eating it up. So she pretty much had agreed to sex before I even picked her up. I'll detail later how into me she is. I had planned this on Wednesday, and wasn't sure if I should text her on Thursday or not when we would be hanging out on Friday. She solved this problem by texting me, telling me how excited she was. I told her I was excited to see her too, and said I'm dying to see what she would wear as she had such a taste for fashion. This subtle use of psychology led her to wearing a tight black dress with heels to school, just for me. She had her hair done and smelled divine. Keep in mind this girl is very sexy and I'm sure has many, many guys chasing after her, yet she went into all this trouble for me.

Made the drive, picked her up, complimented her, and drove off. The drive from her high school to my grandparent's house took 30 minutes. I was a little worried about this, but it went smooth, with me doing some deep diving, bantering, and incidental touch. I redeemed myself with several great chase frames (eg. she was telling me about that unlike some of her vegetarian friends she loves meat... I then had her tell me how much she loves meat without ever making it overtly sexual, and then finished by saying "This must be why you're with me" which she ate up.") Also, I am a very protective person, so when I had to make a sudden break I used my arm to prevent her from going forward, which she interpreted as sexual and she grabbed my hand and started caressing it. I was actually trying to keep touching to a minimum, as I recently lost a girl due to kissing her too often and too early and wanted to try the other extreme.

We finally arrived. I had been there the day before, preparing, and actually picked her up with my grandparents car. If only they knew what I was up to I grabbed a bottle of Martinelli from the fridge, poured us some glasses, and took her to to the couch, where we very quickly transitioned to making out. I changed up my escalation strategy by very quickly rubbing her legs and then pussy, without kissing too much or focusing on the breasts. I then picked her up and carried her to the bedroom I stay in when I am at my grandparents. This was a moment of personal triumph for me, because when girl who broke my heart went cold on me, I was staying at my grandparents, and experienced anguish and misery to an astronomical degree in that room over the course of the subsequent nights. To take a beautiful girl on that bed was the quite the victory. I ripped off her dress, and threw her bra and panties across the room, and penetrated her very quickly.

This is when things get interesting. I had read Hector's Freak in Bed series multiple times, and used a lot of his techniques. I thought it was hilarious that I already do some of them, like biting and spanking, but he definitely gave me ideas. I used sex talk to a very high degree with this girl, calling her my sex doll and having her moan to me that she existed solely for my pleasure, which I would reward with more powerful thrusts. I would snarl in her ear how much I loved dominating her pussy, and then would sink my teeth into her neck. She was all for it, panting how much she loved my cock and that she wanted my cum inside of her. She kept commenting on my body, and kept telling me that I am like a god. She later told me how great of a body I have. I am in great shape, but I don't think my body deserved her compliment. Still working on getting that coveted six pack, and my shoulders could be better and my arms more well defined. I am not a greek god by any standards, yet After shagging for 20 minutes I got some water, and then tied her to the bed with my belt and blindfolded her with one of my grandad's ties. Our fluids soaked the bed; she was so wet from the start. I really employed the technique of choking her, which she loved. We did this for 30 minutes. I read in Chase's article how he made that girl who became his LTR girlfriend scream, which I didn't accomplish. I have a bunch of questions at the end of this article.

Anyway, I got thirsty again and untied her, then tied the belt around her neck and made her walk on the floor like a dog with my belt as the leash. I would spank her and tell her to walk faster. I then grabbed a blanket and pillow and set it up on the floor, told her to "sit", got some water, and then came back to shag her. I told her I was only going to fuck her if she begged, but she then playfully said, " I guess we are done then" and wouldn't move her hand from her pussy. She told me to make her move her hand, so I dominated her and pinned her to the ground and then fucked her some more. High point of the lay for me. Finally I came, and released all over her chest and stomach. She was really surprised how much I came, I had been refraining from fapping. I then fed her some of my cum and did the Simba thing to her, which she really resisted at first but once it was on her forehead it was game over.

We then went back to the bed and I gave her a 5 minute massage, and then she returned the favor with a 15 minute massage for me. She probably did a much better job than I did, and even taught me several techniques. I then had her blow me after getting near the point of no return and came in her mouth quickly. Blowjobs are so weird for me... They feel good but can't actually bring me to climax, and get boring quickly. So my dick actually gets soft when I receive a blowjob, unless I am already surfing an orgasm. Maybe I am so conditioned to the use of my expert hand?? I dream of blowjobs and they are always divine in my dream.

We cleaned up and I took her home. She told me that was the second best sex she had received after my prompting, and that some 23 year old had me beat. She didn't just tell me this, I was prodding pretty heavily. So that disappointed me. She said she will be in town tomorrow, so I might see her tomorrow. She kissed me passionately and then went inside her house. She was a filthy mess and I would have loved to see the reaction of her sister and dad if they saw her.

So, I have some questions. I did adapted missionary the entire time, and while she loved it, the orgasms I gave her weren't earth shattering. Still good, but I know I can do better. I want to get to the point where I am consistently the best a girl has or ever will have. When I was shagging her on the bed, the bed took away from my thrusting power, which is why I transistioned to the floor. First question: What are some tips you have for me when doing AM in a bed? My next few questions are in conjuncture with my first. Throughout the lay, either I had to slow down quite a bit to prevent from coming too soon, which I'm sure interrupted the trance that is necessary for orgasm, or my dick would actually go soft and I would have to use my hand to get it hard again. My thought is that all the masturbating and porn over the years have desensitized me to pussy, especially with a condom on, and that I am still inexperienced enough where once I am on the verge of cumming, I can;t control myself without slowing down. Second Question: How do I get to the point where I am rock hard the entire session but can still control myself? Lastly, I was very dominant with this girl. I slapped her several times, spanked her a lot, choked her, tied her to my bed, blindfolded her with a tie,later covered her eyes and mouth with my hands, and had her crawl like a dog with a leash. My sex talk also went to a new level. Last Question: What are your thoughts on what I did, how to do it better, and what else I can do to be more dominant?

A thought I had was that she was so primed for intimacy with me because I didn't come across too sexual the first time I met her, while still being perceived as very high caliber. Maybe it was her time of the month. I think she is also more experienced than I am, as she was so open to sex and had no problem talking about her experience with me on the drive back. Of course she thinks I am the more experienced of the two of us, since I was so kinky haha

All in all, very fun lay. I personally loved being so dominant with her. I want to get to the point where I can make girls literally scream and lose all control. All of the lays I have posted I have given very good sex, but not great sex. I can do better, and honestly need to do better for the sake of my ego. RN, I can give girls orgasms and give them one hell of an experience, but I haven't reached the point where I flood girls with so many insane ultra-potent orgasms that they are texting me constantly and falling in love with me and shuddering at my mere touch. I have only slept with 5 girls so far in my roughly six months of pushing for sex, so keep in mind that despite the giant amplifier Girlschase articles give me, I still call myself a beginner. All comments are most welcome.

Thanks again to The Girlschase team, particularly Chase, Hector, and Alek, whose teachings I was able to utilize on this particular lay.

 

[CaptainHenley]

Great Job Ambiace!

I really like the way things went out for ya! I see pretty often that in your reports, girls are somehow, directly or not, approaching you. For example, now with the blonde one, you said she approached you while you were "dressed to the nines".


Could you give us some insights on your fashion, haircut etc. that make it so easy for you to get approached?

Keep up the awesome work!

 

[Ambiance]

My family has always had something of a taste for fashion. My grandmother for instance worked at Neimans back in the sixties, which is a major luxury department store that was very selective. She even worked with Mr. Neiman himself. My mother has a degree in fashion. So I've always been a decent dresser. However I live with my dad full time nowadays, and my grandma's style of fashion is too conservative.

I go to a school where they split up the boys and girls, so it is really easy for me to stand out from all the guys who feel they don't have to dress fashionably at all since there are no girls around. The best look you'll see from my competition is a preppy look since my school is a bit elitist, but we all know preppy doesn't send chills down a girl's spine. However, our school also has a dress code (which includes no jeans) so that is a bit limiting. On the day I met the blonde I was wearing a blue buttondown from Guess with white linen pants and cowboy boots.

I learned a lot from Chase's primer on fashion and several of Darius' articles. I had to get rid of half of my wardrobe once I realized a giant shirt doesn't make you a bigger man, hahaha. These days, I dress in this sort of refined edgy style, which utilizes buttondowns, tight t-shirts, very well-fitted jeans or khakis, and I pay attention to contrast. I think it's important you don't dress too tight or different from everyone so you don't come across gay, but you can really push the limit if your vibe is especially masculine. Also, funnily enough you don't want to be such a great dresser that you come across as unattainable. I get the most approach invitations when I am well dressed but not clearly in another league (especially if the girl herself isn't looking her best atm)

I'm described as tall, dark, and handsome. For my haircut I have a mix between a classic and sideswept undercut, which I can control by combing depending on how professional (or not) I want to look. I'm also in great shape from rowing/lifting, so that's a plus. I still haven't completely figured out my skin, which can get dry in my Colorado climate, but Proactiv seems to be working when I make a habit of using it.

So for fashion, I'd recommend (re)reading the Chase primer and try Darius' summer articles. Guess is my favorite store, they have good stuff. I like to differentiate myself with things like a clasp belt or cowboy boots or a scarf in winter (no one my age wears scarves). I found it hilarious when a lot of my "followers" began copying parts of my style. I was the only person with cowboy boots in October, now there are at least 15 guys who made a big show of showing me their new boots (Although my boots are BY FAR the coolest) lol. Most important, though, is acting powerfully in your clothes. I am becoming religious about sprezzatura, and it is the foundation my fashion is built on. Hope that helps- if you need to me to go into more detail ask away

EDIT: forgot about scent. The way you smell is very important. Girls always use my cologne as a reason to get close to me and embrace me/touch me. I typically use Very Sexy for Men (great excuse to approach girls in Victoria's Secret!!), but have two other good ones whose names escape me atm. Chase's article on scent is a must read (honestly what articles by Chase aren't mind-blowing/reality altering/ paradigm shifting??)

 

[lux7]

Great one man!
Loved the home preparation of "leaving the window open" lol.

Sounds like you have a very strong in person aura.
I'd be curious to see a picture of you actually as that girl just seemed to be naturally pulled towards you before knowing you at all or seeing much of you in action.

On the kinky stuff, I'm not into it and I wouldn't make a girl crawl myself: I prefer a style of "we're having an amazing time together" rather than "you do what I say". More on the romantic/passionate side maybe and have great success with it anytime I was actually into the girl.

The experience second hand I had with the kinky thing through a woman's eye, though, didn't leave a strong impression for me.
A couple of months ago or so a girl I had been with had a couple of partners doing a lot of tying and beating and BandS (can't find the et button lol) and she kinda liked it, but not crazy for it, and her comment was "I think they do that out of weakness".
My thought after that was that it might be more guys who are into it than women and it might not add that much to an otherwise solid sexual experience.
Such as: if you come across as a solid dude and the two of you have great sex, then all that "tying and floor crawling" won't add much (depending on the girl of course, but I can see it detracting in some instances as well), and if you come across weak, then it might actually seem as overcompensating.
(it might also be my own limited experience there)

On the porn "desentitizing people", I never understood it much unless you only watch porn and never go out.
I find the opposite of never masturbating to be true though: it makes you number.
BUT I might be the exception and heard numerous times guys backing up what you say about porn.

The girl who broke my heart and sent me on this journey gave me a lot of insight into creating infatuation over texts.

Such as.. ?

 

[HellAtlantic]

I agree with lux about the kinky stuff. It seems like a way to overcompensate. I'm not saying the OP was its just the perception. This was an excellent LR throughout regardless.

I think going to kinky sex on the first lay was a bit over the top. That's something that you find the other person is into after you've got to know them. But right off the bat? Unless she hinted as much during your convos. But if not this could've overwhelmed her. She might've played along in a "well, I don't like it but if this is what he's into then I guess I'll go along" sort of way. Like lux was saying, she had obviously fun but maybe the kink didn't add anything extra.

Just some observations, I could be totally wrong. One last point - dominant sex doesn't mean kinky sex. Those are two different things. But this was a great read, well done bro!

 

[Dern]

(Diversity Day... Hahaha my school is so white...)

Hahaha yeah, I've heard Colorado is white as fuck. Dude, I still can't believe you are still in high school, when you get to college, you are going to be killing it so hard. Apparently, Boulder is a huge party school too.

She gave me her number without my asking. I have a pretty simple technique for having girls do this. At a high point I mention something I have to go do, and use a compliment/barrier "I'm really glad we met, you are so *adjective". If only we had more time, I'd love to spend more time with you." Then the girl throws her number at you. I don't always do this, but depending on the interaction I'll give her a "Maybe I'll call you" with a sly grin.

Dope.

Also, my grandparents just left to go on a 1 month trip to Coronado, and I had left a window open to their house. So I set up with this sophomore, who can't drive, that we should hang out, and the way I had been texting I had really amped up the sexuality between us. This is not something I usually do over text with a girl who I haven't been intimate with prior, but I was experimenting and she was just eating it up. So she pretty much had agreed to sex before I even picked her up.

Haha, that's pro. You just reminded me that my grandparents also take trips sometimes

Interested to hear more on what you texted her lol.

 

[thedude]

Good shit man.

Also,

Don't put pressure on yourself dude. Things go to shit when you put pressure on yourself to "be the best" etc. At least in my experience.

Keep experimenting and thanks for mentioning Hectors article. I realize how much I've been missing out on!

CS

 

[Ambiance]

@lux7-

Great points of yours. Love having guys on here on this journey with me

I think a lot of what drew that girl into me was how I was commanding the attention of the three girls I was having lunch with, plus the way I was talking. When I am out in the open with girls all around, I really try to project my voice in a sexy way. Before I found GC i remember when I was on a rugby trip and I noticed a group of girls all perk up when they first heard my friend speak, and I immediately added it to my repetoire. Other than that, I might get a picture of myself up eventually, to see what you all think. It might even be good for my ego since I think I am pretty hot, but then again I have quite the bias

Your point about kinky sex mirrors some of the thoughts I was having after I dropped her off. I had read the Hector series and wanted to try it all out, in a sorta Christian Grey fashion. I'm a pretty romantic guy, which denotes my inexperience, so I figured why not go to the polar opposite haha... I know she loved having me tie her to the bed. However, I think she liked most when I covered her mouth and eyes with my palms as opposed to a tie, which is more of a dominant move than a kinky one. So overall, my takeaway was that dominant moves should be ever present as part of your more animal side, while kinky is more "intellectual" if that makes sense.

The girl who broke my heart and sent me on this journey gave me a lot of insight into creating infatuation over texts.

Before I became super invested in her and was still meeting and texting other girls back in December 2014, we would text almost every single day, and I Could get her to textme first all the time, simply by giving her a little and then pulling back. Once I was totally infatuated that ceased to be the case, and she lost interest fast, but it taught me that high school girls at the least can fall over text, as she did briefly. Keep in mind this was before I ever read How to Text a Girl lol, no pushing for dates *facepalm*

@HellAtlantic

Yeah you and lux are probably right. It would be one thing if I was a notorious frat member with a reputation or a messed up billionaire.... While texting I don't remember how but she was telling me how she loves rough sex, so I jumped onthat and resolved to be all dominant and kinky with her lol. In the future I will just be very dominant, in a primal, less methodical/ tryhard? way... At least until i get more experience kinda liked having her on a leash

That Hector series certainly was a fun read though,and I am glad I tried it out thanks for the comments, glad you enjoyed the read!

@dern

Hahaha yeah can't wait for college. My dad is super Catholic which puts me in severe time constraints working around him, as he would kill me if he knew what I am up to. The thought of having my own place to bring women back to! Probably going out of state, so most likely will miss out on all the craziness I've heard about Boulder, though several schools I applied to are pretty notorious themselves... Are you in high school or college?

I delete all my text conversations since my dad periodically goes through my phone, but my style is a lot like Chase and Colt's, if that helps. Hope I gave you some ideas with the grandparents out of town thing

@CollegeSenior

Thanks bro, glad you liked it.

You're so right about me putting pressure on myself... And even more right about how easy it is to self-sabotage with extreme pressure. I will say though that when you put extreme pressure on and things go great, it's the greatest rush this side of Eden. That's what my virginity LR was like. I do feel like I have to be the best, it's very core to who I am. Perhaps it's a generational thing, and all those advertisements are getting to me lol...

Yeah man Hector is a king love his articles. Enjoy!

 

[Hector Papi Castillo]

This is when things get interesting. I had read Hector's Freak in Bed series multiple times, and used a lot of his techniques. I thought it was hilarious that I already do some of them, like biting and spanking, but he definitely gave me ideas. I used sex talk to a very high degree with this girl, calling her my sex doll and having her moan to me that she existed solely for my pleasure, which I would reward with more powerful thrusts. I would snarl in her ear how much I loved dominating her pussy, and then would sink my teeth into her neck. She was all for it, panting how much she loved my cock and that she wanted my cum inside of her. She kept commenting on my body, and kept telling me that I am like a god. She later told me how great of a body I have. I am in great shape, but I don't think my body deserved her compliment. Still working on getting that coveted six pack, and my shoulders could be better and my arms more well defined. I am not a greek god by any standards, yet After shagging for 20 minutes I got some water, and then tied her to the bed with my belt and blindfolded her with one of my grandad's ties. Our fluids soaked the bed; she was so wet from the start. I really employed the technique of choking her, which she loved. We did this for 30 minutes. I read in Chase's article how he made that girl who became his LTR girlfriend scream, which I didn't accomplish. I have a bunch of questions at the end of this article.

Anyway, I got thirsty again and untied her, then tied the belt around her neck and made her walk on the floor like a dog with my belt as the leash. I would spank her and tell her to walk faster. I then grabbed a blanket and pillow and set it up on the floor, told her to "sit", got some water, and then came back to shag her. I told her I was only going to fuck her if she begged, but she then playfully said, " I guess we are done then" and wouldn't move her hand from her pussy. She told me to make her move her hand, so I dominated her and pinned her to the ground and then fucked her some more. High point of the lay for me. Finally I came, and released all over her chest and stomach. She was really surprised how much I came, I had been refraining from fapping. I then fed her some of my cum and did the Simba thing to her, which she really resisted at first but once it was on her forehead it was game over.

Speak his name and he shall appear!

This is hot. Got kinda hard reading it.

The crawling around - yes yes yes yes.

To anyone who has doubt about being kinky and it being "overcompensation."

Lol.

I'm an extremely romantic guy these days. Wait until my article about it comes out, but god am I sweetheart to these girls. But once we're in the bedroom? They're my little sex puppet.

And here's what I think a lot of guys don't understand - you don't have ONE identity.

Outside the bedroom I'm romantic/highly sexual. I'll call a girl my darling/sweetheart one moment and then tell her I want to cum on her face the next. It's not one or the other. Bifurcation fallacy.

So, you can go from nice/romantic to highly dominant, slapping/choking/spitting, and then after you cum all over her, kiss her on the forehead, hug her and tell her how amazing she is, how much you appreciate it her, etc.

Dynamism.

Also, the Simba thing. Jesus christ, I'm glad someone finally did it.

So, I have some questions. I did adapted missionary the entire time, and while she loved it, the orgasms I gave her weren't earth shattering. Still good, but I know I can do better. I want to get to the point where I am consistently the best a girl has or ever will have. When I was shagging her on the bed, the bed took away from my thrusting power, which is why I transistioned to the floor. First question: What are some tips you have for me when doing AM in a bed? My next few questions are in conjuncture with my first. Throughout the lay, either I had to slow down quite a bit to prevent from coming too soon, which I'm sure interrupted the trance that is necessary for orgasm, or my dick would actually go soft and I would have to use my hand to get it hard again. My thought is that all the masturbating and porn over the years have desensitized me to pussy, especially with a condom on, and that I am still inexperienced enough where once I am on the verge of cumming, I can;t control myself without slowing down.

I'm actually not sold on the "porn fucks you up thing" anymore. As long as your cardio is decent, your blood flow to your dick is fine. I think porn MIGHT have fucked me up when I was a virgin, but again, I think it was insecurities that would have perpetuated themselves regardless of porn.

I've jerked it 3 to 4 times a day and then smashed a girl that same day no problem.

The problem IS in your head - you're thinking too much. You're worrying about if she's enjoying herself, if you're doing good, etc. Your mind latches onto one idea and follows it down the rabbit hole until - pop, boner is gone.

Worst thing you can do is focus on the thought stream OR try and NOT to think about it - "oh god, don't think about X..nononononono." Trying not to think is just more thinking. Instead, redirect the thinking.

And the best way to do that? Completely focus on your pleasure. Zan's Alabaster Girl is a great resource. He asserts that once you've learned how to make girls cum and how to technically be a great lover, then you switch to a completely selfish "It's all about me" perspective. Do you WANT to eat her out? Then do it (I love eating pussy). But don't do things just because you want to make her cum. IF orgasms were her only goal, she could do that herself. She wants a man with a cock. So give her that. Just use her as your sex toy and she will join your pleasure ride, completely enthralled with a man whom she can follow into the depths of pleasure. When she knows you're getting pleasure from her, it's far more satisfying that an orgasm.

But, as Zan points out ,you really don't get there until you've already done all the other steps.

Second Question: How do I get to the point where I am rock hard the entire session but can still control myself?

My opinion? Don't worry about it. If you have to cum in 1 minute, just cum.

The mistake guys make (and what I've stupidly done in the past) is make it a big deal. The biggest misconception is that if a guy cums early, he's not a real man, etc. Wrong.

Remember, we're all narcissistic fuckwads, girls included. What's she thinking if you cum quickly? Damn, I must really turn him on.

But she'll only think this if you have that mindset. Tell her - "oh my god baby, you're so fucking hot. I'm gonna cum soon..." If I don't jerk it for a few days and then fuck a girl and cum quickly, I own it. Especially since I know the next round, I'll probably go for 40 mins.

Some girls just really turn me on and I'm gonna cum quick. Don't know if it's pheromones or what, but some girls' pussies are just heavenly. It's really not a big deal; it's only a big deal if you MAKE it a big deal.

Same with losing your boner - you know what she's worried about? "I'm not hot enough." That's why she gets weird/insecure if you lose your boner. If you do, just joke "oh guess my little homie needs some time to warmup."

I actually just a fucked a stripper last weekend and the first round, I came in like a minute. Totally owned it and we laughed it off. Kept kissing, she blew me, etc. Then she wanted more so I put it in, but I wasn't ready yet and was kinda soft. Told her my little homie needed a minute and didn't freak out. So neither did she. We kept kissing, she stripped for me, twerked on my chair and fingered herself in front of me, then I got hard and she rode me like a fucking cowgirl. turned her over and pounded her pussy til it literally turned red.

Just don't freak out about. Laugh it off, tease yourself, etc.

Lastly, I was very dominant with this girl. I slapped her several times, spanked her a lot, choked her, tied her to my bed, blindfolded her with a tie,later covered her eyes and mouth with my hands, and had her crawl like a dog with a leash. My sex talk also went to a new level. Last Question: What are your thoughts on what I did, how to do it better, and what else I can do to be more dominant?

You did excellent, my man. If you want to get next level, go look up "throat fucking" on Pornhub. Or look up "HookUpHotShot." If you wanna see how I fuck girls, that's pretty damn close. Dude is a savage.

I also enjoy putting my hands in girl's mouths while slamming them. Put your four fingers in her mouth, your thumb under her chin, and clamp down.

Hector

 

[lux7]

And the best way to do that? Completely focus on your pleasure. Zan's Alabaster Girl is a great resource. He asserts that once you've learned how to make girls cum and how to technically be a great lover, then you switch to a completely selfish "It's all about me" perspective. Do you WANT to eat her out? Then do it (I love eating pussy). But don't do things just because you want to make her cum. IF orgasms were her only goal, she could do that herself.

Agree.
I wouldn't even call it "selfish", as she gets pleasure anyway.

To anyone who has doubt about being kinky and it being "overcompensation."

Lol.

That's not a doubt, it was how a woman felt about it and confessed to me -might even be lie, but to an open minded guy leaving town a few days later.. Probably not-.

There was major caveat though, which is : most likely those guys came across as weak outside of bed.
If you come across strong, then of course "overcompensating" doesn't apply anymore.

Edit: also agree, of course, "romantic" or "passionate" doesn't mean you won't or can't be the leader in the relationship and/or give her a good dominant fuck.
If you're romantic without being the leader, then you're just the one desperately in love as she bosses you around .

Agree on the porn thing, I actually think in many occasions it might actually spur you if you're sexually active.

 

[lux7]

Other than that, I might get a picture of myself up eventually, to see what you all think. It might even be good for my ego since I think I am pretty hot, but then again I have quite the bias

Yeah, it makes sense looking at how hard and easily she hooked, if you also play rugby then it ties up all together.

There was a period in my life when I used to think "I'd like to be born and live a life as hunk one day, enjoy getting girls super easy and enjoy my irresistible pull".
These days I think it's even better to enjoy the challenge .

I can see you think and talk a lot about the ego there (being the best, "need it", perform for her etc).
One of the best step I felt I've ever done in my life was to grind down my ego and move it out of the way.
It's a constant process though, and keeps always being a challenge, a "mountain without a peak" so to speak, and not really sure you can ever manage to totally obliterate it for ever and completely (and that would probably not be good anyway).
But you will most likely gain by making your ego smaller -or at least the part that "gets you hurt", but I believe both ways is good- as it gets in the way of improving and, even, enjoying life.

 

[lux7]

Oh yeah, two last comments:

@ Hector, a LR on that stripper would be super interesting, I've had hookers but never strippers, possibly strippers have even more men drooling after them, really curious how you met her.

@ OP, on the chase frames you "missed", you didn't really miss much in my opinion, chase frames are good to put a sexual vibe and make sure you're out of the friend zone.
Once she basically came to you and next time you met you're driving home to (almost openly) fuck... Well, chase frames are not that key anymore

 

[Ambiance]

@Anatman

You're the CandyMan of the GC forums I'll have to remember next time I am walking down the street and see a pretty girl who is too old for me, so I can yell out "Hector Hector Hector" and instead of murdering the girl you can do other dark deeds to her

I've been thinking a lot about your comments. You are spot on about it all being in my head. My God do I love this forum, having experienced guys take one look at my problems and giving me answers that would have taken me some time to figure out. I've had weeks where I was jerking off 5 times every day, and would still get hard in the company of beautiful girls. I, like you, have a very high libido, so of course it is all in my head lol.

I'm still laughing about the whole Simba Lion King thing hahaha, great suggestion. Loved that fucking article series. My lovemaking was pretty dominant to begin with but adding in several of your techniques really takes me to another level. What's more, when I am talking to girls I have just met, I just know that if we were to get in the sack together we would have one hell of a time, and knowing this makes me come across even more confident and masculine.

You're an inspiration thanks again for the feedback

-A

 

[Ambiance]

@lux

Maybe ego is the wrong word, I definitely have one but was more talking about my self-mandated expectations and ambitions. I dream big. Always have, from as far back as I can remember (which is pretty far back). One might call me full of "delusions of grandeur" (unintentional SW reference lol) but then again, I highly doubt that same person will approach as many girls as I will or go on as many adventures or reach a certain level of power that I'm driven to. Then again, I can blast steam on an internet forum as much as I want but it won't really get me anywhere... I've been told that true ambition is best kept to oneself, so I won't get into details.

On the Chase Frames, yeah I still got the lay but I looove capitalizing on that perfect opportunity for a chase frame. Honestly am still angry at myself for missing it hahaha

 

[thedude]

Delusions of Grandeur eh?

I may be guilty as well. When I was a kid I used to imagine myself being a superhere/doing awesome shit with the characters I saw in cartoon(Yu gi Oh, Jackie chan adventures, Bleach,/other late night shows). Still do actually, I just finished marathoner Berserk and I can't help but see myself as guts lol


On being a perfectionist, avoid at all costs. Besides torturing yourself, it may make you hesitate in the future with really hot dimes since you don't want to fuck it up/or not be "perfect".

Done is better than perfect haha

 

[Ambiance]

@CollegeSenior

On being a perfectionist, avoid at all costs. Besides torturing yourself, it may make you hesitate in the future with really hot dimes since you don't want to fuck it up/or not be "perfect".

Done is better than perfect haha

Absolutely.

Just Yesterday was working my cashier job and saw the most beautiful girl I had ever seen while working. Long straight light brown hair, tall, impeccable figure, nice bust, delectable hip-waist ratio, and to top it all off, her face was perfect. Usually when you see a girl with such a rocking bod her face isn't quite on the same level. Still very hot, but not dazzling. This girl was definitely the exception. Looking at her I could find no wrong.

My lane was backed up and she and her mom got pulled into the adjacent lane by my coworker. So I didn't get to talk to her. However, say I had somehow grabbed her attention, or even just thrown my number at her full well knowing that my chances were lesser of getting a date than if I went through the full process (find, no eye contact, proximity, preopen, open, etc. ), that still would have been far better than what I did, nothing. Still kicking myself...

 

[lux7]

Absolutely.

Just Yesterday was working my cashier job and saw the most beautiful girl I had ever seen while working. Long straight light brown hair, tall, impeccable figure, nice bust, delectable hip-waist ratio, and to top it all off, her face was perfect. Usually when you see a girl with such a rocking bod her face isn't quite on the same level. Still very hot, but not dazzling. This girl was definitely the exception. Looking at her I could find no wrong.

My lane was backed up and she and her mom got pulled into the adjacent lane by my coworker. So I didn't get to talk to her. However, say I had somehow grabbed her attention, or even just thrown my number at her full well knowing that my chances were lesser of getting a date than if I went through the full process (find, no eye contact, proximity, preopen, open, etc. ), that still would have been far better than what I did, nothing. Still kicking myself...

Close to zero "throwing" your number at her, so don't kick yourself.

Beautiful girls are probably the biggest throwers away of biz cards in the world .