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The purpose of this journal is to track progress, get feedback and be held publicly accountable.

Backstory

Found GC at the end of high school, when searching the web on how to get a girl back. I was mostly reading and trying techniques here and there with women in my social circle and eventually got laid. It wasn't systematic, many times mixed with alcohol and partying, or being held back by anxiety or depression so that phase lasted 2 - 3 years. Then I got laid a couple more times and got a girlfriend for a year. I got needy, we broke up just before new year, fell into depression for a month or so and then the quarantine hit. Now the restrictions are being almost completely lifted in my country so it game on again.

I live in a city of 250.000. Literally every person I met through cold approach knows at least one person that knows who I am. Before I was worried of getting a reputation, which I got in a small way, but I don't care about that anymore. I'm planning on moving to another country for my masters degree next year. If anyone has any experience with cold approach in cities or towns of that size, your opinion is valued.
 

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Field report 29.5.

We got together with a good friend of mine, went to a bar, to a protest and then to my favorite venue. I'm wearing black shoes, black jeans, black denim jacket and a white shirt. There are no events yet, but people are still hanging and drinking there like on a bad Friday, which got me pleasantly surprised. I will skip the unnecessary stuff.
I approached 2 girls sitting, playing I know them but obviously lying. They started asking me about my name (I have an unusual name for where I come from) and quickly hooked. They are 4 years older than me. I asked them if they mind the company of my friend and then invited him over. We were talking, they liked us, there some flirting but nothing that special. Then 2 guys came, who know the girls and one guy even knew me. My girl got distracted and I became bored, so I asked her for her number. She declined, but offered me her facebook. I insisted on the phone number, which she eventually typed in to my phone. I remember she said something like, your a decent looking guy, why don't you find some other girl. I didn't even save that number, said goodbye and left.
It's 00.00 now and both me and my friend had enough drinks. He decides to leave, I stay.
I open a group of 3 girls and a guy, again playing I know them. They start asking the usual questions, why am I alone and I reply calmly. They again hook quickly. They are mostly asking me questions, qualifying themselves and even making fun of the guy. The guy and one girl leave, and its me and 2 girls. One girl that interest me starts giving me light shit tests. It's a shame that I don't remember the conversation...
The bars are starting to close, so they start thinking where could they get another drink. I propose my place. They agree at first. I'm being honest that it's 20 min walking from the venue but they still seem semi interested. Again other guys show up and they get distracted. I tried to persist with going back to my place, but then the girl I like says look it's not going to happen. I say to myself fuck it and went home. It's 3.30 now.

Things I could make better:
- drink less,
- get more investment earlier,
- use touch more,
- persist in smoother ways.
 

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Thoughts for ahead

I want to learn day game in a systematic manner and implement it into my lifestyle. I want clear track of my progress. That will be my priority. The best way to start would be newbie assignment. Approach anxiety is still there for me in during the day.
I also need to cut down on drinking in social circle and night game scenarios. Maybe it would be better to obtain from drinking all together for a while. Concrete goals coming here tomorrow.
 

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This weeks plan for overcoming AA, all daygame.

mon 1 approach
thur 2 approaches
fri 2 approaches
sat 3 approaches

+ no drinking
 

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Did the approach today.

Walked around for an hour. At first I was anxious, in my head and didn't really spot any good targets. Then I saw her, she was sitting on the bench in the park. Approached from the side, smiled at her and said hi. Complimented her trousers and then realized I know her. We went to high school together, but never talked, never hanged in the same circles. I sat beside her and we talked for a good 30 min.
I was uncertain, nervous and there were times when I didn't know what to say. It seemed like she wasn't completely sure what I was doing, but she didn't seem bothered, she was actually interested in what I was doing. We talked school, the pandemic, nature... some light flirting. I proposed drinks this week, continued the conversation then exchanged numbers. There was this idiotic moment at the end where I pronounced here name the wrong way hahah

Make sure you set a better premise next time and RELAX.
 

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Couldn't do the other approaches because it was raining most of the time. I did 2 approaches tho.

approach 1

Was walking home through a park. I had to bend down to tie a shoelace. Saw her, she saw me. She walked past me, then I remembered it would be good for my approach anxiety if I approached her. I jogged behind her, she noticed me.

DG: Hi!
HB: Hi?
DG: I saw you before and wanted to tell you that I like your style.
HB: Thanks...

I noticed she distanced herself from me...

DG: Ok, I know this is random but would you mind if I walk with you for a short while?
HB: Umm, do you have to?
DG: Haha, alright, have a nice day!

It was funny the way it was awkward. I didn't mind.
 

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approach 2

The other day I was on my was to a picnic. I was listening to music and waiting for the city bus to arrive. A cute girl in a patterned shirt and wide trousers came. She positioned herself near me and removed her headphones.

DG: I like your shirt.
HB: Oh, thanks!
DG: Isn't it beautiful today? First sunny day in a while.
HB: Yeah, it was raining the whole quarantine.

We talked about the quarantine, then the bus arrived. I asked her if I can sit by her side. She complied. Then the usual small talk. She is writing her diploma on political veganism, so I asked her about it. Then she started talking and kept coming back to the topic when I tried to shift it. It was annoying to be honest. I mean I'm all about political veganism, but it was really not helping the vibe. Anyway, a little before her stop I proposed we catch up for a coffee and found a political party, but she declined. I persisted, but that was her stop.
 

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FR 13.6.

I finished with admissions to this university I am applying, so I was finally not busy and feeling relieved. I went for a beer with a friend, then to a street fashion magazine release event. I came there, mingled, met everyone and had a drink. There were cca 30 people, slightly more girls than guys.

I was introduced to a girl in purple dress. She seemed to like me, she even described a hot male look the way I look. I should've said something cocky back, like you're trying to get in my pants, aren't you? But the biggest problem with that set was, she was she was a bit socially awkward and so can be I at times, so the conversation didn't go anywhere. I left and mingled some more.

I met this girl with pink hair before, but we never talked. She was tipsy and leaning on the drunk side. She got distracted a lot. I noticed lately that when I focus all of my attention to a girl (or a guy) talking and look her deep in the eyes, her attention switches to me more. So that worked for 10 min, but then got distracted again. That repeated a few times during the evening and we got more touchy every time. When she had to leave, I acknowledged that she had a few drinks and so have I, but didn't want that to affect her judgement. She of course said she's fine. I said I like her and that it would be great if we could meet up for a coffee the next week. She said that she doesn't live in this city anymore and that we'll see each other on one party in July. So that's that.

I met the third girl this Wednesday in a bar, but didn't talk to her. So we talked, I tried to cold read her. Got some things right, some wrong. I stirred the conversation that way to her past relationships and her relationship with guys in general. She turned that back on me. I remember her saying something in the lines of:

HB: You like to play games, don't you? (I guess that's the consequence of her seeing me talking to other girls this evening?)
DG: It is a game, but I don't like playing games.
HB: What do you mean?
DG: I don't like to waste time or emotions. Mine or others.

When this went on I think I said something in the line of I will call you a bitch, fuck you like an animal then talk lovingly to you, talking about girls in general. Than she said you won't with me, but then corrected herself when she remembered I wasn't talking about her haha. That was maybe a bit much for her so I took a step back. There were her 2 male friends sitting in a circle with us, not a real competition in my opinion, just orbiters. But they kept interrupting so I walked away and came back 2 times when I got bored of that. The last time I said:

DG: Look I'm going to be direct here.
HB: Ok. (I got her full atention. At this point the two guys were away)
DG: I like you. You like me.
HB: Hmmm, ok...
DG: We should get together for a drink sometime...

Then again those fucking guys came back. I just left it right there and said we'll continue later. I was funny, the guys were talking to her, she was talking to them, but her body was turned facing me. But then again the guys wouldn't shut up and I didn't have any real excuse to move her so I left, thinking I will get a chance later. But she left before I could.

I left not long after, there were drugs being involved, all the hot girl left and it was becoming caotic.
 

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15.6.

Contemporary dance event. I was there with friends. Met a girl, really pretty, kind of dorky. I reminded her of a friend of hers. At first she was chasing my attention. I didn't bother about that, I rather talked to other people. After the event we went to a bar. There I deep dived her. She liked the depth of our conversation, whereas most people just talk about superficial stuff. Then I told her she seems beautiful, but that she seems uncertain of herself. Then I asked her to remove her glasses so I could see how she looks like without them. I think I said she has beautiful eyes. The tension was clearly there. Shortly after that I needed to take a piss. When I came back she seemed closed off. When everyone was going home we exchanged numbers, but she said if I meant to take her on a date, because she can't do that. I said whatever.

I later found out she has a boyfriend, so that explains it.

Notes: - I should use more push/pull and try to build compliance like I did here,
- Don't break the tension. Stay there, let her break it,
- when you exchange numbers and she wants to deflect the date idea, try to brush it off in a joke. - Yeah, I thought about marrying you, I already have it all planed out. I bought a house with a dog and a garden and everything.
 

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18.6.

At a contemporary dance/ performance event with friends. This is all a part of a festival that is going on this week.
So I saw her walking pass the stage to get drinks. She was dressed to the nines, hair shoulder length dyed red, a personal 10. I waited for the show to end and for a good opportunity. After the show she and her 2 female friends took the neighbour table to ours. I walked over, complimented her looks and introduced myself. I then realized that she's older than I thought, possibly 10 years older than me.
They asked me about my name, transitioned this to talk about what I do. My girl said she would like to know how to do what I do, I offered her instructions. Then we talked about her passions. I needed solid 5 min to understand her, she beat around the bush. Then she finally told that she's into politics. AGAIN. I could not transition to another topic. It was a vibe killer. I lost my motivation. She invited me to join her party on the protests the next day. I said that wasn't my intention when I approached the table, but whatever. It should be fun. She said that I'm not going to see her in other circumstances. Ouch. I joked around a bit, me and political girls, then walked away.

Didn't go to protest.

Notes: - It looks like she was into me at first. Then the conversation got too serious. I should use push/ pull or light teases like Oh, you look like serious girl. We wouldn't get along, I'm too serious myself.
- Don't auto reject yourself, stay there. Don't give up so fast.
-Stay away from politics, ask her about her other hobbies or whatever.
 
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19.6.

Went to a concert. Met a friend from high school years. I liked her back then, but didn't know what to do so I ended in friend zone.
We were having a good time. I tried everything that night. I moved her, I disqualified myself, she bought me a few drinks, I presented myself as a open minded person, a lot of reciprocated touch, talked about sex, looked at her with bedroom eyes, she said what, I said nothing... A dead end. Could not get more intimate with her.

It would be a lot easier meeting another girl that night than to change her perception of you as a friend. Keep that in mind next time.
 

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20.6.

Went out to a jazz concert. Mingled, then went to a gallery. Then my friend called, so I decided to wait for him and have a drink at a bar. I approached a girl, went well, did it just for fun, than 2 guys, then my friend came.
I tried to pre-open twice in the gallery but it didn't work out, the vibe there is too introspective, quiet.
Then we went to a bar. I knew half the people there, so I said hi to them, then drank my beer and had a conversation with my friend. He left to get some sleep, I stayed. I joined a group of a guy and 3 girls. I know the guy and I made out with this girl some time ago. One girl was covered with tatoos and piercings and the other girl was really cute and dressed well, a personal 9. She's into fashion. We talked a bit about music and the emotional devotion a good performer must have. She used to play the piano and was really into it. As silly as it may sound I felt that warm, butterflies in my stomach feeling when we were holding eye contact.
The bar was closing down so we decided to go to tatooed girls rooftop, not far from the bar. On the way I escalated the touch- hugged her when I made a joke, asked her to show me her fingernails. When we arrived I made sure we were sitting close to each other, commanded her to come closer so I could hear her. We were talking about fashion, school and being rebellious, her family, superficiality of social circles. I then assumed she has a boyfriend, she said not exactly but has this open thing with one of the main trap producers around here lol. My guess is she has more than one dick in her life.
Anyway I escalated touch, she didn't mind but didn't reciprocate. The tatooed girl was starting to feel sleepy. The guy and the other girl went to a dive bar. I suggested to my girl that we should go to my place, have something to drink and listen to music, but she wanted to catch a cab and go home. I exchanged phone numbers (at first she wanted to exchange instagram, I declined) and suggested a drink. She seemed into it but also skeptical.
The tatooed girl went to sleep and there were just me and my girl. We talked a bit more than she said she's going home. I walked her for a while, then when it was time to say goodnight I hugged her and kissed her on the cheek. Said to her to kiss me on my cheek. She did, then I said with an uplifting tone, fuck it you can walk with me a little longer, you can call a cab from my place. She agreed.
I had this funny loving feeling, I guess I was talking silly things to her. That I thought she was just another chick that doesn't know what she is talking about, but then realized I feel some kind of connection with her. She agreed that certain people have some kind of connection. So we came close to my place, I persisted one more time, but she wanted to call a cab. We hugged, I held her chin then said goodbye smiling.
At home I texted her, hope the cab driver wasn't boring... don giovanni , she didn't reply.

I don't expect much to happen but it was a beautiful night nonetheless.

Notes: - I obviously had a good social proof at the bar and was warmed up socially from approaching before,
-Talking about emotions always works good,
-I have to find a way to make the girls touch me or get them comfortable touching me,
-I maybe should have made my move on the rooftop,
-The compliance stacks from kiss on the cheek to make her walk with me a little longer worked good. Which makes me wonder if I could stack up even more, like make her put her arms around my neck or something,
-She responded well to lovey dovey vibe I was in, but I must not forget to remain decisive and masculine. Be careful of crossing the line and being to lovey dovey.
 

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24.6.

The girl from the previous fr flaked of course. I saw her today at that bar and small talked, just to show its not a big deal.

So I went out with friends yesterday to my favorite venue. I'm really comfortable there, I can approach anybody. I did 10 approaches probably. Which is too much, it would be better if I would just pick a good set and stayed there. The problem also was that we were drinking and I was drunk by the end. Made some stupid mistakes like calibrating poorly, forgetting girls names and such.

There were two girls sitting in a group of 7. One girl is the hottest girl I've seen this year. I approached and told them that they both have pretty floral pattern shirts but that the other girls shirt is prettier. I was actually right, it was 40 eur more expansive too she said. Then I saw I know a guy sitting by her side. I said hello. I fucked up when I wanted to sit between two girls even though I saw there's not enough space. They offered me a chair, but I wanted to keep my frame and said I will rather stand. Which was just stupid. I knew it was over then, because things got awkward for the whole group. Then the guy from the other side of the group came and stood with his back facing me. I remained unfazed and talked to the guy. He saw that I was ok, talked to me and said that its just that I was too direct. Than he said goodbye and I left. Whatever. He probably wanted that girl I was talking to.

Went to the dacefloor and met a girl from a social circle I like. We immediately found ourselves in deep conversation, than I moved her. Then I proposed we go back dancing. She agreed but went to her friends who were also on the dancefloor. I decided to take a walk around the venue. I found out later that she has something with a bartender from a popular bar.

Bought myself a beer. Or rather a girl I didn't even know paid for my beer. This is happening to me lately, I don't how, it just does. On the way back I tried that line Fuck, you look exactly like my ex, its scary on one girl. It worked good the girl was laughing. I just passed by.

Met a another group of 7, mostly girls and a guy. I just said hey whats up, then talked whatever came to my mind. Apparently I have such a cool energy a guy from this group wanted to become friends with me. There was one girl in this group I maybe liked but other than that I didn't see much potential.

I saw a girl with pretty hair and figure and decided to approach. Did the direct I just had to come and tell you that you have amazing hair. Then realized I'm not sure if I like her face haha. She lightened up from my compliment, but said that they were leaving. Her friend suggested we exchange numbers, she said that we can catch up for a coffee. First solid number I guess. I'm not crazy about her, but she seems ok. We'll see where this leads.

By this time I had too many drinks. I met some people from social circle, made some approaches, went back to my friends.... Went home around 2.30am when I realized I'm drunk.

Notes:

The thing with my city as I wrote in the first post is that everybody knows everybody. I think that I'm becoming that guy that is just hitting on every girl. I don't care personally, its just the consequences it can bring with girls I will meet. I have to threat it like a huge social circle. Be aware that people are always watching, always talking. Just don't do stupid things. And don't get drunk.
I've successfully cut drinking before, but looks like I have a tendency to get drunk in certain environments and situations. I will come up with a plan to deal with this later. For a start I'm just going to go out tomorrow sober.

Next time focus on one set instead of hopping from one to another. Yes, you can open, yes you can hook most of the time. I have to focus on building compliance, escalating and isolating now.
 

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27.6.

Ok this night sucked. First went to protests just to get in some kind of state, but ended up stuck in my head. Then I went to a friends place and chilled with them for some while. Around 23.30 when they seemed that they're not moving I decided to go check out the venue I like.
I came there, took a walk around the venue. There were more dudes than girls, I didn't know anybody. Except 2 chicks with whom we share mutual dislike. Then I sat in a corner. Saw a girl that seemed most approachable and approached, but she rejected me. I stood out from the crowd, wearing a white over shirt and a pink baseball cap while everybody was wearing mostly black, so that rejection turned a couple heads. Then I just went home.

But hey, I was sober and I went there solo. Must repeat that sometime soon so I get used to it.

I think I'm gonna do some daygame tomorrow.
 

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1.7.

Night life will be closed down again from next week on so I decided to go out solo this night, despite feeling a bit down.

Came to the venue, felt a bit awkward. I did the usual circle around it so I could see who I know, who I want to meet. Tonight was a trap music event, I happen to know one artist so I went and said hello to him and his friends. Mingled with people, than danced. There was this chick I mentioned in previous posts, she was eyeing me couple times on the dance floor. I said to myself to go talk to her later.

I went to the bar to get myself a drink. A girl with a nice shirt walks past, I just said to her ''love your shirt'' and the other girl says ''see, I told you so''. This mini interaction gets me in a better mood. So then I notice a group of 3 girls sitting by the side and I decide to approach.

''How are you, I was sitting here before, just went to the bar to get myself a drink and now I find you guys here!''
It was an obvious bs, girls were a little on the fence about it but didn't mind my presence. I introduce myself, we talk about where they know each other and I talk about my night so far and going out alone. I then focus on the girl I like. She looks middle eastern, beautiful black curly hair and innocent looking face. She works as a micro biologist. I joke that we wouldn't get along, I suck at biology. Than she starts asking me about what I do and says that she sucks at that thing. I joke that we could get together and give each other lessons sometime maybe. The vibe was good, I felt like I established some premise there. She proceeds asking me about my work and everything is ok.
Then there's this awkward transition between artists on stage. Girls start talking about what's going on, I explain. Then they start talking about where should they go next, I didn't really understand because it was in other language (they are not from here but can speak our language perfectly). I should have exchanged the numbers ideally before this happened or at least when they started talking and then excused myself. But I stayed there and waited in an entitled manner. So then they say that they're leaving, I try to get her number, but its too late. She says she will be here tomorrow- I didn't see her that day.

Went back to the dance floor then mingled with people. I saw this chick I mentioned before, sitting with a group of guys mostly. She positioned herself so that it was really hard to get to her. I said fuck it and went anyway. There was this table on the way, I just said ''wow, how will i get past this table, this is awkward'' just thinking out loud. People were friendly and they just moved the table and made space for me. I got to the girl but now she seemed closed off. I said ''I hope I didn't interrupt any deep conversations'' she says ''no I'm just stoned and tired''. So I talked to a guy near her and we had a good conversation about music actually. Her body language is now even more closed. I asked her just one more time how her night is going but nothing good came from that. Then we went dancing.

I saw a girl leaning against the wall and tell her that the color contrast between her outfit and the wall looks good. Immediately her boyfriend comes and asks what's going on. I tell him what I told her, apologize (that wasn't necessary) and offered him a sip of my drink. All good, got back to dancing. There was no promising targets left and that venue was big enough for only so many number of approaches. But the music was good and I kept dancing for some time than decided to go home.

Went to this late night fast food place to get something to eat before going to sleep. There was a group of 4 girls, a group of 3 guys, a girl and a girl in her 30'. I complimented one girls hair from that group and we started talking. I found out they're together with those 3 guys outside, so I talk to those guys after them. I just felt social. Then after they leave the girl in her 30' starts talking to me. It just seemed natural to meet her also after I met everyone else. We talk, then I get my food and wish her goodnight. Looking back I should've number closed her, she seemed interested.
 

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Couldn't do the other approaches because it was raining most of the time. I did 2 approaches tho.

approach 1

Was walking home through a park. I had to bend down to tie a shoelace. Saw her, she saw me. She walked past me, then I remembered it would be good for my approach anxiety if I approached her. I jogged behind her, she noticed me.

DG: Hi!
HB: Hi?
DG: I saw you before and wanted to tell you that I like your style.
HB: Thanks...

I noticed she distanced herself from me...

DG: Ok, I know this is random but would you mind if I walk with you for a short while?
HB: Umm, do you have to?
DG: Haha, alright, have a nice day!

It was funny the way it was awkward. I didn't mind.
Wstup brother. Remember you had to turn and run up to someone who just passed you. It already seems try hard but if I were in your shoes I would say this after getting her attention.

DG: I don't know if you're in a hurry but I saw you walked past me I just wanted to come say hi. I'm Stiff.

Once I deliver these lines and she accepts the frame of things, then we vibe and exchange numbers.

She might claim she's in a hurry then I'll respond.

DG: Alright dear, how about we exchange contact info and get to know ourselves better since we are obviously in a hurry. (said with a smirk and spontaneous vibe)
 

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2.7.

Afrobeat concert, same venue, went solo.

Met two girls on the way there who were also going there. One was the girl that got me heartbroken in high school, but I don't give a shit about her now. We talk and walk together. When we get there I just go around the venue as usual. I meet some people I know and we listen to the music. The band was horrible. I couldn't stand it so I went out and just chilled with my drink in front of the venue.
I meet a chick I asked out one time, but she declined because she's not from the same city. We talk and it looks like she enjoys the conversation more than her company she came with (mostly just guys). I tease her about being a good girl and she starts qualifying on how good a girl she is hard. I try non verbal push pulls and she starts mirroring my body language. That's good. I touch her tattoo. Then her friends want to move, she says she will go with them, I say that she should, she says she will be out here.

I go back inside, next band playing. And they're awesome. The music lifts me up. I see a lot of people I know in the crowd. One friend from years ago with his ex, 2 girls with them, a guy that used to be a bartender in a bar I frequented sometime ago and then another group with that girl from fr 19.6.

I say hello to all of them then dance with the first group. I introduce myself to both girls I don't know yet. One remembers me from somewhere, I don't remember her. The bartender is her boyfriend now, I leave her alone. I then turn to the other girl and say ''who are YOU?''. She has that I don't care about anything aura about her, responds with the same question. I turn it back on her and we introduce. It's funny. Than back to dancing. After that we went to sit down. So again, there's my good friend from a while ago with his not-so-ex, there's the bartender with his girl and there's me with let's call her tattoo girl, she makes tattoos. We sit together and start talking. She's receptive to incidental touch. We talk about books. I stir the conversation to authors perversions they project in books they write. From there on I stir the conversation to female sexuality dark side, societal programming of slut shaming and how all that's a shame. Went something like this.

I believe all women have a fantasies repressed deep down inside them. It's the only thing they can do when they're taught from the young age they should be innocent and beautiful. But that's not in their nature.
I saw a young mother with her 2 year daughter, who was screaming and the mother than said that she should behave, she's girl and she should be beautiful. As the get older they're taught not to express their sexuality, not to have one night stands and be innocent. If a guy sleeps with a lot of girls it's ok and if a girl sleeps with a lot of people she's a slut. And I don't find that fair. From this comes the belief guys have, that girls are asexual. Some think all girl want is slow sex with a lot of kisses, eye contact and declarations of love in between. Some even think girl's don't like sex all together.
Whereas I think we evolved differently. Women valued strongest man, warriors. Those are the men that reproduced. It's in male nature to be aggressive and female nature to be submissive. All girls want a guy who they can submit fully to, a guy that will fuck them like an animal. With whom she can lose control, feel powerless and loses herself in this ecstasy.
So yeah, I believe every woman develops fantasies that can channel their true nature.

She was hooked. Thanks Teevster, I wanted to try this for so long. During the conversation I escalated incidental touch. Our thighs were resting against each one, I was talking and breathing in her ear and neck. Then remembered push pull and turned my body away. She then turned her body to me.
We were sharing my drink, now it was time to get another one. Everyone ordered her to bring something. She then went to the bar. I should have gone with her. She met some other people, seemed to forget about our drinks. I went down and found her. When I found her she was drunk. That I don't do. I bought drinks, went back to friends. We went dancing and then we went home. The friends ex cheered for the girl to hook up with me, but that always feels uncomfortable to me. She sobered up after time, drank some water. I said I could accompany her home, she said she's good.

At the end of the night we walked home together. Near my place tattoo girl asked if we're going to my place to have one last drink. Everybody else said no, they're tired. I invited her, friend's ex encouraged her, but she than decided to go home sleep with them.

Well... that's that.
 

Don Giovanni

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Wstup brother. Remember you had to turn and run up to someone who just passed you. It already seems try hard but if I were in your shoes I would say this after getting her attention.

DG: I don't know if you're in a hurry but I saw you walked past me I just wanted to come say hi. I'm Stiff.

Once I deliver these lines and she accepts the frame of things, then we vibe and exchange numbers.

She might claim she's in a hurry then I'll respond.

DG: Alright dear, how about we exchange contact info and get to know ourselves better since we are obviously in a hurry. (said with a smirk and spontaneous vibe)

Hey, thanks for reading.

Will try that one next time, thanks.
 

Don Giovanni

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Some rambling...

Night life is ending, corona 2nd wave. I've been shying away from day game, but now that's all that's left. Excited about it and scared at the same time.
I got some numbers during these outings, but almost all flaked. One girl wanted to grab a coffee in the morning, when I thought we were planning the evening, so I canceled that date (I had other stuff planned).
Another girl said she doesn't have much time this week, but I'm welcomed today to check out a exhibition in her art atelier. I approached her on one night, she liked my approach, said she's leaving but that we should grab a coffe some time- fr 24.6.
I'm going there with friends, I don't want to come across as desperate to see her. Besides that we also know the girl whose paintings are exhibiting. I also found out from a friend who knows her that she has a boyfriend. So that explains some things.... I'm not even sure if I want to get in that mess.
 

Don Giovanni

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Have been partying mostly for 2 weeks, probably as an excuse to stop me from daygaming... I need to get focused as I wrote at the beginning.
 
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