Don't Know What to do....

[TheWiseFool]

Tonight I was able to introduce and get this girl on the hook, I guessed she was a track star and was right and we happene to run the same event in high school. I guess she is a hb7 or hb8, but I just didn't know what to do after I had her chatting up. I just freaked out and excused myself, social pressure was too much. Should I just keep approaching girls until the social pressure dies or what? I didn't move her cos I ddnt want to take her from djing, but she was doing it when she didn't even need to. I found it a turn off that she is a rave kinda girl and I'm not... which relates to what Chase was saying about low self esteem guys looking at each girl as a potential mate, rather than just some random hook up. Sigh.... just keeping my head up and ignoring that little voice in my head telling me, "It's cos you're short," "It's cos you're asian," It's cos their are better looking older guys." It really is just an uphill batlle I feel, but I know the nervousness and lack of control will fade with time. If there is a brightside to this all, it's that i tried and got a woman on the hook and she was definitely above cute status. Damn shame she isn't an intellectual. Moral of the story, don't look for women that party or club.

Keep yourself hungry for knowledge,
The Wise Fool

P.S. There was a cute basketball player who was given me "those eyes" but I kept doubting myself cos she had a foot maybe a foot and a couple of inches on me, but she smelt my confidence and comfortableness in who I was and was not. Lesson from this is just go for it and don't wait, but getting over those nerves and going for it is easier said than done.

 

[Franco]

WiseFool,

Damn shame she isn't an intellectual. Moral of the story, don't look for women that party or club.

Just a side note: be careful with the distinction you are trying to make here. Some of the most intelligent women I've met have partied and clubbed in their time, so these two things are not mutually exclusive. My current girlfriend partied hard during her early twenties, but she's been an excellent girlfriend so far (and part of that has to do with the fact that she has a lot of experience around men -- she knows how to not make a big deal about things that genuinely aren't a big deal).

Especially if you're just starting out, I would make an effort to try to move things forward with any girl that shows interest, especially cute ones. Even if it ends up just being a hook-up, it'll still be a big boost to your confidence which you can turn into momentum for meeting even more women. Take everything as a learning experience when you're starting out.

- Franco

 

[TheWiseFool]

Apologies for coming off as judgemental. My intuition / gut / instinct painted a picture that did not bode well or us, in the event that we were ever a pair. Still working on getting over percieving women as potential long term mates and becoming comfortable with short term relationships (I battle with my values of the Bible. I lot of the reasons why I back out of interactions is because I guilt trip myself.).

Anyways, thank you for your advice Franco.

Seriously appreciate the help!

- TWF