Long-Term Don't like dime thing about girlfriend' social media should I tel her ?

[Anonymous]

First of al Hi Guys , I've been reading and applying the material on here for about 2 years now but I've never posted on the forums.
So I picked up girls for some time until some months back when I met my actual girlfriend , I slept with her on our third date and like 2 weeks after that we started beeing in a exclusive relationship so far everything has been really good in great part to the material on relationships here
I've been jealous in any kind so far , even though she is a really gorgeous girl and guys always hit on her I've always remained confident she also has invested in me a lot , some day ago it was my birthday and we went on a trip that she paid all by herself
In regards to her social media she has a lot of friends on fb and is the kind of girl that get hundreds of likes on her photos and comments etc , I've never been bothered by this because this guys are just liking her photos while I fuck her in the ass
But some days ago she mentioned some story about some female friend of her and her ask fm and I got curious if she had one of the things , for those who don't know what this is , it is a social media where people ask thing to other people and they respond , the question can be anonymous or it can show who you are.
So I searched if she had one which was easy cause she has the same user name for everything and I saw something which I didn't like which are these
1. Some days ago she told me that she once had some kind of thing with a girl but they never were like a couple but according to these she had , I can get that she told me it was just some kisses on two times because she kind of wanted to save face but what bothers me is that she told me that the only people that knew about it was I and her best friend and there it is for the world to see
2.In there only the questions you choose to answer appear and there are a lot of questions where they ask for photos of her vagina to which se replies with haha no almost every time but it bothers me that she choose those to appear
Those two I would let them pass but the next two one are the one that bother me a lot
3.there is one question where it say one slang which is kind of an insinuation slang in my country it is like at which time do you go out of your house , and she answered with , for you at whatever time you Ike , that really bothered me
4 and the second is that some one asked for her phone at first she declined but after like four times she finally gave it and it really bothers me that she put her phone there for anyone that wants it to text her

So I want to know if I should talk with her about it , I know I can come as needy but it really bothers me and have been really confident the whole time , I'm not that concerned about her cheating on me as she seems to really love me and has invested a lot , but it bothers me that she does that , I think that she might be looking for validation but the last two points really bug me , by the way I am 25 and she is 19
So I would like to hear the opinion of the more experienced guys in here please

 

[Franco]

Katana,

So I want to know if I should talk with her about it , I know I can come as needy but it really bothers me and have been really confident the whole time , I'm not that concerned about her cheating on me as she seems to really love me and has invested a lot , but it bothers me that she does that , I think that she might be looking for validation but the last two points really bug me , by the way I am 25 and she is 19
So I would like to hear the opinion of the more experienced guys in here please

The first three points wouldn't really bother me at all, although I can see where your concern comes with the fourth point. It seems a bit much for her to be giving out her phone number to anonymous people on social media.

That being said, I think you shouldn't worry about it. You don't really have any evidence that she's doing anything wrong, and everything you've seen tells you that she's deeply invested in you. This is very likely to be the case, and if you decide to bring up anything regarding jealousy or fear of her using social media that you aren't supposed to know about (keep in mind, you kind of went out of your way to find out about this), then she's going to get pretty upset and see some neediness in you that you feel like you have to spy on her like that.

As long as you continue to be the man that she loves, then I really don't think you have too much to worry about. If anything, you should be looking for signs of her not wanting to spend time with your or her avoiding spending extra time with you. If she's always wanting to see you and if she feels like she wishes she had more time with you, then you're definitely in the clear. As a 19-year-old, she probably still really enjoys validation, but in reality the only validation she REALLY wants is from the man that she views to be the strongest -- and that man needs to be you. Right now, it seems like you are that man. Don't change that in her mind by revealing that you're spying on her social media.

- Franco