Dreams

[thedude]

Hello everyone,

I want to talk about dreams because lately I have been dreaming a lot(I wake up too early, then go back to sleep which guarantees dreaming for me).

In these dreams some interesting things happen. Besides ridiculous stuff, a progressive theme is that I am insecure and afraid of being awkward.

Right this morning I had a dream where a group of people laughed at me for the way I acted. Actually even in my daily life this seems to be a problem. I went to a hair stylist my mother recommended and during the whole thing in the back of my mind I was afraid of screwing things up, I didn't however and now the same stylist is helping me get a part time job at the liquor store next door.

Anyway it appears that even now I am afraid I am still in some ways or sometimes that awkward/loser I was three years ago.

Anyway just some thoughts

CJ

 

[Drck]

Hi CJ,

Dreams are just reflection of your daily mind. Dreams may be escape from reality, thus dreaming - which I must admit - may not be that bad. Usually people with big 'dreams' accomplished big things.

It looks like you have lots of guilt and shame though, and also anxiety issues. People laugh at you when you do something "bad". You obviously don't want to be laughed at (no one does), so you feel guilty and ashamed about some behavior that you perhaps did because you care too much about what others think of you...

You also have low confidence and and difficulties making decisions. You are seeking approval of others. Worrying that you will mess up makes you anxious and insecure, most likely you grew up in critical environment where your parents or peers were overly critical of you. You are afraid to screw up because you may be criticized for it, thus you are afraid to do or decide something on your own. You are too dependent on what others (family) thinks of you...

You feel like a loser that you were 3 years ago... I don't know what is your definition of a 'loser' but apparently you are still doing some of the stuff like 3 years ago, which makes you feel the same.

See if you can work on increasing confidence and decisiveness, work on increasing your self-esteem. What happened in the past happened in the past, we all have some background and none of us can change it. Learn to be more independent of others (including family), learn to make your own decisions and stand behind them, no matter what. Even if they are wrong, it is much better to stand after them then give to critique of others. Screw others, screw what they think - this is your life, you are young thus you have lots of opportunities to get ahead.

As far as being awkward, it may actually be good. You don't really want to be "normal" in this screwed up world...