FU Drinking my heart out

[Pato]

Hey guys, my school dance was on Friday, and I had a pretty good time. I met a few new girls, hung out with a couple of the guys that were there and had some bro-time, and partied hard. At the dance my date was more worried about hanging with her friends and all that stuff, and it was a bit awkward between us, but I figured there was more talent within the group and I'd rather hook up with one of the girls in the group than my date. I didn't even see my date after the very beginning of the dance when she got me in, and she didn't come to the after-parties.

So after the dance we went to the first after-party, where I was talking with (in my opinion) the hottest girl in my group. She went with one of my friends as just friends, so I figured maybe I could come in and take her off his hands. Anyways, we were flirting a bit, bantering back and forth, but it kinda died down. I'm not really sure if she actually likes me and wants me to make a move, or is she is just being her friendly self like always and is just flirting a bit. Normally we have interactions like this at parties, but I'm not getting the feeling she's into me. I gotta get this figured out. I'm also worried about social circle repercussions, because if I even make an attempt to hook up with her, everyone will start gossiping away and I just know everyone will judge me and think badly of me if I just hook up with her and don't get into a relationship. Normally I wouldn't care what they think, but recently I've gotten a bit more self-conscious about my rep in the group. Maybe it will turn out okay, but a failed attempt or a hook-up without a relationship will probably end badly for me.

Eventually I went to go drink some more vodka (I already drank a full cup at this point). I poured myself around 3/4 a cup of vodka and drank away. So at this point I had almost 2 full red solo cups of vodka within 10-15 minutes. I had a bit more later too. Not a good decision on my part at all, and after that I really don't know what happened. We managed to shuttle everyone over to the sleepover house and the after-after-party, but after we got in I basically don't remember anything. My friends filled me in yesterday morning, and apparently I was doing a bunch of stupid shit, couldn't walk straight, and puked all over the floor. I'm also pretty sure I got slapped or punched in the face extremely hard twice, but I took it like a champ. Hearing it all made me laugh, because what I was doing/saying was funny as hell and basically the exact opposite of me when I'm sober. But at the same time (on the inside) it also made me pretty damn upset, because I screwed up the night for myself and some of my friends who had to watch me, didn't get to go to another party next door with the rest of my group, and killed my chances at hooking up.

So it's not really a FU in the sense that I failed to escalate properly or messed up in an interaction with a girl, but instead of getting a chance to bat, I pulled myself from the game and allowed someone to pinch-hit for me (they didn't score with the girl I was going for either). I'm just really pissed because I let alcohol kick my ass all over the place. I think I have a problem with drinking around my friends, and I always wind up making a complete fool out of myself. So for now I'm swearing of the alcohol for awhile, at least until I get a hook-up stone cold sober. Whether or not I keep my promise to myself remains to be seen, but I will try my hardest.

I'll keep you guys updated on my battle against alcohol and my friends' bad influence on me. I'm not an alcoholic or anything, but if I'm around my friends and people are drinking, I'm always getting fucked up. I think I'll start driving to parties so I can't drink at all, and I can leave whenever I please instead of relying on people for rides. Any advice or suggestions (about either the alcohol or how to deal with a much closer social circle situation) will be great. If it doesn't go well with this girl, I'll just move on (and in the meantime look for other girls).

Thanks a ton.
-Pato

 

[maximus6004]

Who cares man? People will respect you more for going for what you want and being turned down. You will look more human to them.... if they are assholes lol time for new friends .

I'd be more worried about being labelled as the guy who is the prankster and the one everyone has to babysit..... no body likes that person!

I had a friend, (girl) who would always get wasted and we would have to end the night early because of her being so drunk that she would make a fool of herself so we stopped inviting her out..... and this girl was gorgeous!

Either way, we have all been in your situation. Take it as some advice that is all. I had to go through that stage to get to where i am at. You might have to as well!

Keep your head up!

Maxmil

 

[Pato]

Max, thanks for the advice. I have thought about it for awhile now, and I realized that I need to take more responsibility for my actions and stop blaming the alcohol or my friends or anything else from stopping me from going after what I want. I need to stop making excuses for myself and just go out and do what I actually want to do. I got carried away on Friday, and I won't be letting it happen again any time soon, but I will take this as a learning experience and a lesson for myself. So if I decide to go after some girls and my friends don't like that, well that's their problem, not mine. I'm not gonna get caught up in what my friends think about what I do with girls, as that isn't any of their business anyways.

A plus side of the night, I made really good friends with a couple guys that I wouldn't really know if I hadn't gone to the dance, as well as being able to tell stories of all the stupid shit I was doing on Friday night. There were some good things to take away from the night, and I just couldn't see it at first because I got too emotional. And nobody that was there is mad at me for what happened, so I'm just gonna move on.

It was my fault for what happened and I missed an opportunity, but I'm not gonna let this keep me down. I'm just gonna use this situation and experience as fuel to keep improving myself and to become a better seducer and man.

 

[luego]

Drinking is fun, and it is definitely a social lubricant/confidence booster. No need to stop drinking - especially at your age you'll probably have people wonder why you're dry. But just dial it way back. It's easy enough to get drunk off of vodka/seven, doing singles. I remember the days of drinking straight vodka as a drink (then later a shot, then later, nah). They're not productive days.

Plus, even if you're successful (see, for example, some of Anatman's LR's) I've never seen the appeal of having an "amazing" night with a girl, that neither of you can actually remember.