FR Dropped the Ball

[Zoro]

I have been progressing in leaps and bounds this week.

I have been approaching 80-90% of girls that I see going about the day whom I find attractive, much better than the 5-10% it came up from! The funny thing is I have been mostly focusing on meditation and FORGETTING about pick up, because I thought I needed to straighten up my mind a bit. Well I guess that did the trick!

I guess I had talking to girls as a goal so ingrained in my subconscious that once I relaxed about it instead of agonizing I just started to fly like an eagle. To the sea. Fly like an eagle, let my spirit carry me...

Still, more to progress but I feel I broke through a major obstacle and literally feel free on campus and everywhere I go. The freedom that wherever I go lay possibility. Funny how picking up girls unlocks that feeling. I think I'm not the only one who has experienced this.

Anyway, my one class is packed with cuties.

I had to prioritize which ones I wanted to talk to first. Redhead, Blondbabe, and Asianlady were my top 3. Blondiebabe was by far the cutest. I dislike the rating scale but shes about a 9 in looks.

I already chatted up Red before class (BlondBabe came late) and shot Red a smirk when the teacher said all non-majors should drop the course (she was a non major). After class I decided to walk with Red and move things along with her (Blondbabe sped away like lightning after class).

We walk a ways together and got to know each other a little better, got a little bit of her schedule (not enough apparently), and then brought up my favorite place to eat and then

Wick-Ever been to the XXXX

Red- no I haven't actually

Wick - its really awesome, you go there for lunch and I could meet you (said something like that came out sloppy, still a bit too nooby!)

Red- oh I can't today, but I can some other time! (she had to pick up her sister or something can't remember)

So I thought that went okay. When it was about time to part ways I told her to give me her number. But the way she reacted to that was a bit reserved and I got the feeling she didn't feel comfortable (almost like "really, that's what this is about") which is weird to me because I asked her out. Perhaps I need to look at my vibe or screening.

Sent her this text about 6 hours later

Hey Red nice meeting you today. hope poetry class lived up to my hype! Save my number - Andrew :}

With my not-patented smirky face :}. Well smirky face didn't do shit. No reply, that was Monday, its now Wednesday. Not too worried but would like to know what you guys think so I don't run into problems in the future.

I was going to play it cool next class. It really was no sock off my docks, I was cool with it. There are plenty- no, a bountiful, amount of pretty girls on campus.

Well maybe she DID drop the class cause I didn't see her next time. I was going to text her, "dropped the class? Don't see you here!" but forgot.

Anyway Blondbabe did show up. And after class I walked after her like Hi-Yo Silver (damn some girls walk so fast!) and asked her what she thought of the class.

Babe- "I loved it"

She said that with a big smile and sparkly eyes. This was going to be good.

And it was. She was investing into the conversation, and even a bit about my schedule and dropping a hint that she had some free time today. Oh yeah, awesome. This girl is not only very cute and has a great body, but feminine. And from what I can tell by her demeanor, mentally stable. Just my kind of girl.

I have found that feminine girls are generally healthier, same goes with masculine men. Interesting.

I know its time to ask her out, before we part ways. But I just made a weird schedule not 2 hours before for the day and she said she had work, but had a small slot of time and THEN we enter a building and THEN she starts walking towards the stairs and asks me why I came in too. I said it's warmer and autopilot kicks in, say bye to her since we are going different ways and then...

Shit.

Shit shit shit.

I dropped the ball.

I swear I heard her say "Oh" as in "Oh, I thought you were going to ask me out because that's exactly where this was leading to, but then you said bye"

Girls are masters at subtleties, I understood so much from something I not even sure she even voiced. (so long as I read the situation clearly)

I wish I would have said, "You know what, lets grab a bite to eat this week, whats your number so I get a hold of you" or something else that would have sealed the deal.

All is well though. Not a short while ago I would have passed up the chance to even talk to her. Luckily, I have experience with women in other aspects (closing in cold approach being my current weak point).

My gut tells me I can pick up where we left off, stir up that good vibe we had going and seal the deal next class. Though having some help and thoughts from you guys would be awesome.

She seems really cool. Its early to say this, but so far she has proven to be a well-rounded quality girl.

Overall I'm feeling great and still focusing on meditation. Finding a way to act from my soul rather than thoughts. Living in the moment and naturally. That's why its been easy to talk to girls. And I'm talking to everyone lately and smiling. (building up a lot of social momentum this way hasn't been hurting)

So now its time to kick back after this long day!

Strive to be the best man you can be. It pays off in more ways than one.

- JW ;}

 

[Zoro]

So Friday with BlondeBabe did not turn out as planned.

That may have been my problem, being rigid and expectant in my plan. Instead, I should have focused on meditation and being in the moment.

As class ended I chased her down (shes a speed demon alright). I called out to her "Hey wait up!" Not a flinch, but I noticed a very very subtle reaction. As if she was excited that I was persisting, and also unwilling to heed because girls do that. I then said "you always walk so fast!"

Finally she replys with "I was late last time" meaning her class.

The energy that was there last time we had been together was not replaced with stale air. Why? Because I was searching for it, when that energy is up to me to create. Yet I killed it even further by talking about class and other boring typical topics. Top that off with forgetting my non-verbals and yeah...

The short walk was awkward. After getting zero investment from her I decided to cut my losses and part ways. Yet I learned so much from this.

I went in with no frame and so she made one.

I should have gone with my plan actually, which was to check her logistics and ask her out. I was so focused on stirring up the energy from before, I thought it'd be there already.

"What are you up to tonight?" would have been better than "what did you think of xxx in class?"

A playful vibe means playing with her, not just playing around. I guess.

Either way there are plenty of other cute girls around. Also I have class with this girl all semester and I plan on continuing to grow and learn.

Lets see what happens

-JDubs

 

[maximus6004]

the red head you ere grasping for straws. I would have just ended it right then and there. like ok, cool. maybe another time. have a great day.

Blonde chick i would have just tried something more liiiikkkkkeeeee

Can you stop running away from me, i need my alimony.

Excuse me?

Yeah alimony, hi i' Max or maybe i was just trying to get your attention i'm Max You look like you are in a rush, i'll catch you later. giving her the option to walk away or be like no hey walk with me why did you want to get my attention? well how does your day look, i'm sure we can figure it out together, but dont try to hold me hand im not that easy. so why are you in a rush..... see the difference? it comes with time my friend

 

[Zoro]

That span of progression was short lived. I was hit by a train of "this is far from what I want to do in life" regarding my career path. I ended up at an all time low and crawled out of it a new man. Now my efforts are geared towards my purpose in life and that will no doubt add value to my persona. I agree that is a major part of the girls lack of interest, I had been removed from my own value/out of my element for awhile. Hectors post on arrogance was what the doctor would have ordered. Literally feel back to the days when I felt "alive on fire."

So thankful for this community as I rarely feel lost or confused, as I have all the tools and knowledge I could want. I know my issues run down to a lack of experience of just manning up, and the fish out of water feeling from doing what others pressured me to do. Now this path I walk is mine, and as in the past when I walked it, I expect great things