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I met rebel on bumble.
Due to unfortunate miscommunication i was quite late to our date. I walked in and spotted her sitting at a table all alone with a grumpy look on her face. The poor thing! When she saw me, her face lit up and i snuggled into the booth beside her.
My goal was to be overly attainable. No harsh qualifying, no super polarizing routines..I just wanted to have a good time and focus on verbal escalation and connection since she was already attracted.
She had a huge beer, and she was drinking it very slowly. This was an obstacle in me trying to figure out when I should go for the pull. The ideal length of my dates lately is 45 minutes. I was worried that she would agree to come to my place, but then she would want to stay and finish her beer, and then any emotions would die down. If I asked towards the end of her beer, then there’s a possibility the emotions would have crested already and she wouldnt be down.
anyways, there was a fuck ton of sexual tension between us, and she was looking at me in a sexually receptive way. this is a different sexual look than others, like sparkly eyes. when i would introduce more sexual tension into the conversation, she would giggle nervously. i wonder how i can get better with playing around with this sexual energy. When a girl looks at me in a sexually receptive way, is she trying to seek sexual rapport with me? If so I could flirt and deny her the sexual rapport she is seeking by disqualifying her sexually i.e. you might be too innocent for me.
i was teasing her for being a criminal, and then disqualified her on it:
interesting response. she did not qualify to me that she was not a criminal, but instead apologized - what does this response say about where my attainability & value were before, and after the comment? hmmm.
i ended up asking her to come to my place in the middle of her beer. she agreed to it, but i believe i made a slight mistake. heres how i phrased it:
it was good to disqualify sex from happening, although i did not provide details on the activity we would be doing instead.
anyways, her beer was 2/3 done and i suggested we get out of there. we get the bill, she goes to the bathroom, and she comes back and shes on her phone for like 2 minutes (which worries me). we walk out of the bar and she turns to me and starts apologizing, saying she’s just gonna go home. because she’s “tired”
i am caught off guard - but i give her a hug and we share a kiss
her objection out of nowhere really caught me off guard and so i didnt handle the situation as well as i should have. i believe that the reason she bowed out early was because i didn’t tell her what we were gonna be doing at my house. either that, or she maybe was worried i was a player.
i got home, looked in the mirror and laughed because there was lipstick all over my face.
i figured i might as well text her using a cookie cutter text recommended by hector
then i went and met the second girl of the night which u can read here
Due to unfortunate miscommunication i was quite late to our date. I walked in and spotted her sitting at a table all alone with a grumpy look on her face. The poor thing! When she saw me, her face lit up and i snuggled into the booth beside her.
My goal was to be overly attainable. No harsh qualifying, no super polarizing routines..I just wanted to have a good time and focus on verbal escalation and connection since she was already attracted.
She had a huge beer, and she was drinking it very slowly. This was an obstacle in me trying to figure out when I should go for the pull. The ideal length of my dates lately is 45 minutes. I was worried that she would agree to come to my place, but then she would want to stay and finish her beer, and then any emotions would die down. If I asked towards the end of her beer, then there’s a possibility the emotions would have crested already and she wouldnt be down.
anyways, there was a fuck ton of sexual tension between us, and she was looking at me in a sexually receptive way. this is a different sexual look than others, like sparkly eyes. when i would introduce more sexual tension into the conversation, she would giggle nervously. i wonder how i can get better with playing around with this sexual energy. When a girl looks at me in a sexually receptive way, is she trying to seek sexual rapport with me? If so I could flirt and deny her the sexual rapport she is seeking by disqualifying her sexually i.e. you might be too innocent for me.
i was teasing her for being a criminal, and then disqualified her on it:
fog: you might be too much of a criminal for me
rebel: sorry!
interesting response. she did not qualify to me that she was not a criminal, but instead apologized - what does this response say about where my attainability & value were before, and after the comment? hmmm.
i ended up asking her to come to my place in the middle of her beer. she agreed to it, but i believe i made a slight mistake. heres how i phrased it:
it was good to disqualify sex from happening, although i did not provide details on the activity we would be doing instead.
anyways, her beer was 2/3 done and i suggested we get out of there. we get the bill, she goes to the bathroom, and she comes back and shes on her phone for like 2 minutes (which worries me). we walk out of the bar and she turns to me and starts apologizing, saying she’s just gonna go home. because she’s “tired”
i am caught off guard - but i give her a hug and we share a kiss
her objection out of nowhere really caught me off guard and so i didnt handle the situation as well as i should have. i believe that the reason she bowed out early was because i didn’t tell her what we were gonna be doing at my house. either that, or she maybe was worried i was a player.
i got home, looked in the mirror and laughed because there was lipstick all over my face.
i figured i might as well text her using a cookie cutter text recommended by hector
wasn’t sure what to make of it cuz she didnt say she wanted to see me again too, but shes texting me this morning so …fog: hey i loved my time with u. ur fantastic and i feel like we have a connection. id love to see u again
rebel: thats so sweet of you to say
then i went and met the second girl of the night which u can read here
