Emotional manipulation

[Warhol]

Hey guys, so I have this really great girlfriend and whenever she tried to make drama I put it down as best I can.she constantly asks me to apologize whether I made a mistake or not. She's like can you apologize for that? , and I read chases article on apologizing but I'm not sure how to respond when she says " why can't you just apologize" or " is this an ego thing or do you think you are strong if you don't apologize" how do I tackle this?



Also when I stand firm she resorts to actions like I feel sick. Problem is she is a type 1 diabetic which means stress can actually raise her blood sugar and make her feel sick, but I feel bad when she is sick and want to give in

What do I do about both issues?

Thanks guys

 

[kalyan]

but I'm not sure how to respond when she says " why can't you just apologize" or " is this an ego thing or do you think you are strong if you don't apologize" how do I tackle this?

"Baby no, it's not an ego thing. You know me too well to say that i care about little things like this. But I'm a man who says what he means and means what he says. And unless I feel really, genuinely sorry for what I said, I don't want to lie to you. I don't want to tell you I'm sorry when I'm really not. So please, don't ever ask me to apologize again. I'll apologize if I really feel like i did something that warrants an apology" *mind voice tone, touching...)
The trick is actually meaning this: don't say it if you dont mean it. That is to say, DO apologize if you feel you made a mistake.