I want to say first say that pick up is one of the things that gets me up in the morning. I was stubborn in staring this because of my indoctrinated religious background mind. My ego would not let me approach any women saying "you're the man why should you approach her?, society tells her women are equal so she should approach you". To an extent I still have a bit of this ego that keeps me in check in not investing much with girls. And to be up front, yes we are equal but our roles are not. Anyways my point here is that pick up is now a vital component in my life that I use in my self development. However I have to say this girl is my type and I think I would benefit from a relationship from this girl, But after today my attraction towards her has kinda dropped.
I met this girl at one of the home shows i work at. we had a exceptional first impression. I could see attraction oozing out of her, she was in clear pursuit. If we weren't working I would no doubt have pulled her right then and there. At this point you may be thinking 'did you pull her after work?', here's the thing the day i worked this home show just so happens to be the last day of the home show and she lives nearly three hours away. I tell her to say 10 minutes after work so we can hang out a bit, she says its her parents anniversary(she was there with her mom so I didn't really push for her to stay), so I just grab her number. To be honestly I didn't see this going anywhere but Im still an intermediate/journeyman to pick up so ill take all the exp I can get.
I called her the next day, went well she was surprised I actually called and it was great. we talk the next few days and talk about doing things together(again she is pursuing), I tell her I might come there to meet her friday(this was monday). Thursday comes around and I tell her Im coming to meet her(keep in mind this is less than a week we saw each other so I'm moving relatively fast), she is excited it seems. Friday morning comes 2:30ish am I get a text saying she finally got home after hanging with friends( i think somethings fishy, why am I getting this text and just dont respond). 7:30ish I get another text from her saying a unexpected friend returned from duty and will be here until tuesday which is five days later. I find this to be hard to believe so I wait a couple hours and send a text saying "have fun with your friend, maybe we'll be more organized next week maybe not, we'll see". I wait about a week then I call her, she picks up we have a decent conversation she apologized for last week( I realize something is up but I keep my cool.
I call her a lot less and less, every few days where as before this happens we talked every day pretty much and I don't even mention visiting her. After a few of these interactions she says she might come to my city for her birthday, (I understand this is her way for asking if I'll visit her or if we'll meet) but I just play it cool saying its up to you if you want to come.
Finally after about a month, I'm about to make another move after leaving her kinda in the dog house because I knew something is up. I call her, she text me saying she's in class... then she says she want to tell me something but doesn't know how, I say I hope its not what I think it is but there's some things I want to tell you too. She says what I think it is... I say "you don't want to talk anymore?, idk but im fearing the worst". She says of course not and want to continue talking to me. She then send me a book like text basically saying her ex who dumped her got back into her life after she met me(hence the couple days she had that unexpected friend pop up into her life, so I was right all along) now she wants to be good friends. She also says(or implied) she prefers talking to me and has more in common with me. I tell her I was just about to call her because I wanted to make the drive to see her, she says I still should. I also play it really cool and say I'm not upset at all because we've only had one good interruption and thanked her for telling me the truth because I was expecting something up but didn't want to say anything and that I'm talking to some girls too anyways.
I actually got a bit of relief knowing I was right from the start, I must say it does feel nice being right and getting the truth. Anyways She did invite me to hangout with her friend and her friends bf(keep in mind her ex is 14 hours away both ways and I'm 4 hours away both ways. I have a couple scenarios I'm thinking of....
1) I'm thinking shoe's hoping I'll take her invitation so her friend and her friends bf will help her decide which guys she should go with.
2) She's hoping I will be the nice guy and wait for her, I don't wait so this is definitely not what I will do.
3) She's want me to make her submit and let her know I'm the clear winner(on the phone she said she doesn't know what she wants and told me what she should do, of course I played it cool saying I know what she wants but I'm not going to influence her decision). I"m leaning towards this option
4) I tell her in a suave and smooth way it's me or him and I won't wait around as your friend. I like this option too
5) Take her up on that invitation and pick up a chick in front of them and go away with the chick end of out interaction.
6) Completely walk away from this situation because my attraction and interest for this girl dropped not to zero but it has dropped nonetheless.
Although my attraction and interest has dropped after this situation because I don't "fight" over girls it goes against one of my rules as setting myself up as the prize, I'm up for learning new things including dealing with this kind of situation. What do you guys think of this situation and what is the best option?
I met this girl at one of the home shows i work at. we had a exceptional first impression. I could see attraction oozing out of her, she was in clear pursuit. If we weren't working I would no doubt have pulled her right then and there. At this point you may be thinking 'did you pull her after work?', here's the thing the day i worked this home show just so happens to be the last day of the home show and she lives nearly three hours away. I tell her to say 10 minutes after work so we can hang out a bit, she says its her parents anniversary(she was there with her mom so I didn't really push for her to stay), so I just grab her number. To be honestly I didn't see this going anywhere but Im still an intermediate/journeyman to pick up so ill take all the exp I can get.
I called her the next day, went well she was surprised I actually called and it was great. we talk the next few days and talk about doing things together(again she is pursuing), I tell her I might come there to meet her friday(this was monday). Thursday comes around and I tell her Im coming to meet her(keep in mind this is less than a week we saw each other so I'm moving relatively fast), she is excited it seems. Friday morning comes 2:30ish am I get a text saying she finally got home after hanging with friends( i think somethings fishy, why am I getting this text and just dont respond). 7:30ish I get another text from her saying a unexpected friend returned from duty and will be here until tuesday which is five days later. I find this to be hard to believe so I wait a couple hours and send a text saying "have fun with your friend, maybe we'll be more organized next week maybe not, we'll see". I wait about a week then I call her, she picks up we have a decent conversation she apologized for last week( I realize something is up but I keep my cool.
I call her a lot less and less, every few days where as before this happens we talked every day pretty much and I don't even mention visiting her. After a few of these interactions she says she might come to my city for her birthday, (I understand this is her way for asking if I'll visit her or if we'll meet) but I just play it cool saying its up to you if you want to come.
Finally after about a month, I'm about to make another move after leaving her kinda in the dog house because I knew something is up. I call her, she text me saying she's in class... then she says she want to tell me something but doesn't know how, I say I hope its not what I think it is but there's some things I want to tell you too. She says what I think it is... I say "you don't want to talk anymore?, idk but im fearing the worst". She says of course not and want to continue talking to me. She then send me a book like text basically saying her ex who dumped her got back into her life after she met me(hence the couple days she had that unexpected friend pop up into her life, so I was right all along) now she wants to be good friends. She also says(or implied) she prefers talking to me and has more in common with me. I tell her I was just about to call her because I wanted to make the drive to see her, she says I still should. I also play it really cool and say I'm not upset at all because we've only had one good interruption and thanked her for telling me the truth because I was expecting something up but didn't want to say anything and that I'm talking to some girls too anyways.
I actually got a bit of relief knowing I was right from the start, I must say it does feel nice being right and getting the truth. Anyways She did invite me to hangout with her friend and her friends bf(keep in mind her ex is 14 hours away both ways and I'm 4 hours away both ways. I have a couple scenarios I'm thinking of....
1) I'm thinking shoe's hoping I'll take her invitation so her friend and her friends bf will help her decide which guys she should go with.
2) She's hoping I will be the nice guy and wait for her, I don't wait so this is definitely not what I will do.
3) She's want me to make her submit and let her know I'm the clear winner(on the phone she said she doesn't know what she wants and told me what she should do, of course I played it cool saying I know what she wants but I'm not going to influence her decision). I"m leaning towards this option
4) I tell her in a suave and smooth way it's me or him and I won't wait around as your friend. I like this option too
5) Take her up on that invitation and pick up a chick in front of them and go away with the chick end of out interaction.
6) Completely walk away from this situation because my attraction and interest for this girl dropped not to zero but it has dropped nonetheless.
Although my attraction and interest has dropped after this situation because I don't "fight" over girls it goes against one of my rules as setting myself up as the prize, I'm up for learning new things including dealing with this kind of situation. What do you guys think of this situation and what is the best option?
