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Approach
I was coming back home after a night out at a kink party. My first one, I loved the vibe, didn’t manage to pull a girl in the couples area for some fun, but I did get a kiss plus another number, so I was feeling pretty well and horny.
As I entered the train to get back home I noticed a woman standing with her back towards the window on my left. Feeling that she also noticed me I approached with a compliment about her energy.
I walked and stood next to her and although she felt receptive she walked towards the window of the other side. I stayed chill where I was, kept talking to her from this distance, and almost right away she came back and stood on my other side.
I could feel some interest, we did some basic small talk with playful undertones, aka I was horny so I knew she was into me too. She also seemed pretty open so as I had only few minutes to get to the next station I told her that I’d invite her for a drink now, but it’s a bit late, so let’s do it some other time. We exchanged numbers just before my station and I left.
Texting
I sent an icebreaker after about half an hour, it was almost 6 am, and she responded in a bit telling me she must sleep and it was nice to meet me.
The next day on Sunday, I woke up quite late and around 7pm I asked her how the rest was going for her and that I spent my time chilling by the sun. She told she would go out to a karaoke to get some air.
She asked me where I was last night, party or work, I told her I try not to work that late on Saturday and asked her back, telling her she really knows how to enjoy life with parties and karaokes.
Her next text was asking me how old I am. I answered: 29, you? She said 45, about 2 hours later. So I decided to treat it as unimportant information, and continued the conversation normally asking her how was the karaoke and saying I had a drink with a friend.
She said it is great, and that she plans to go home. I told her that if she in the mood for more fresh air, I’ve just returned to my area. She responded maybe some other time. It was around midnight at that moment.
I reacted with a wink kiss emoji, and then asked if she had a difficult week coming up. Also told her I am pretty full with some dance classes but at least it will be fun. She told me I can invite her to the dance classes with a blushing face emoji.
I told her that’s difficult because they are in the middle but I can take her out dancing. I asked her if she does any salsa or bachata.
She said no, you can teach me I like to. So I told her that if she is an enthusiastic student I’d love to. She said hey now, I can try to be
. I told her that’s the spirit and asked when she is during the week.
She gave me Tuesday, Wednesday and Friday too. I told her I have a dance class on Tuesday at 20:30, and we can meet before that, and practice outside. She said we will see
. I told her have a sweet night my student, and she wished me one back.
On Tuesday I texted her around 10 am how has this beautiful week started. She told me as Scarlett O’Hara would say: Every day is a new day, we’ll see, and you? And every new day a new adventure I added, then told her I can’t help but smile when the sun is peeking from the clouds.
She agreed, wrote sun sun sun and that she is also waiting for it. So I asked her how her time is for later today. She said she doesn’t work but has things to do until 15:00, so I proposed we meet at 16:30.
At that moment she texted: yeah for sure but you know nothing about me… like… I’m married, just to know. I don’t need to hide it but I think it’s good to know. Is that OK for you?
Yes that is ok, we’ll grab a coffee to get to know each other anyway, was my answer. And to show me some dancing steps 
, she added. That’s my eager student 
, I told her.
Then we planned exactly where to meet, she told me she hopes I can recognise her and she is not sure if she can remember my face. I told her we’ll find each other.
Date location
The time to meet arrived, she had texted that she would be half an hour later than planned, but that was the exact delay only. She was wearing a blue flowery dress, she did look older under the sunlight, but still cute.
I could feel that she was interested but also reserved. I gave her a compliment about how she looked in her dress and we walked towards an outside bar nearby, taking coffee and tea and sitting at a couch next to each other.
I had started asking her about what she enjoys doing, how is she in her life, mixing it with playful comments about her going out to party and do karaoke, framing her as enjoying the moment and that is something I love.
The vibe she generally gave me after we talked for a bit and I went for a deep dive, was that she is a bored woman, doing some jobs she doesn’t like, without much money, her husband not paying anything for her, with 2 kids from another guy, one back in her home country one here, trying to fill her time with parties and karaoke.
She was telling me how wild she is especially after midnight, so I was also telling her I love that, we should enjoy the moment since that is all we have. I also talked about how to not pay attention to what other people want, and focus on enjoying who you are and what you want since you are not harming anyone, because she mentioned she feels like people always try to tell her that this is right and this is wrong but she really doesn’t have bad intentions.
I also said not to focus on what others say because a lot of times they are just jealous and would like what we have, like for example a girl would see her with an attractive guy and call her easy just because she is not the one with him. And that I believe you don’t need to provoke people with different ideas about life, you do what you want, live life your way, and it’s noone’s business really.
Throughout these I was giving slight touches to her hand and leg, she was touching a tiny bit too, but generally there was a clear distance between us in the couch. I could still feel some interest, but also that she was still reserved.
She also mentioned that she wanted cigarettes to smoke with the coffee, I had her stay and finish the coffee with me and not go somewhere away to buy cigarettes in the middle of it. Afterwards we did go for her to buy them and we started walking.
Walking and pull
I proposed to show her a place, classic cool place with nice view in my area. I wanted to take her a bit more around, see how her vibe was, if she needed to come a bit closer before the pull, and use this smoking time to build some more intimate moments.
As we were going up the place with the nice view, she mentioned if I am wild, I asked her what she thinks, she told me she doesn’t feel I am, I told her her that well, she doesn’t really know me yet, so don’t be quick to judge. Took her up at the view, she really liked it, but didn’t want to stay there to smoke, there were a bunch of people anyway.
Going down I was feeling that she wasn’t really the type to come closer and more intimate first, so instead of my initial plan of sitting at some bench to warm her up some more I just decided to start walking towards my place.
During that walk I asked her some more intimate things as well like what she likes in men, her whole vibe though kept being a bit sarcastic or let’s say not so much into connecting deeply, although she did ask me back, and I said women who can be feminine but know what they want and live their life without caring about what other people think of them.
Then I mentioned dancing, and asked her which dance she would like to try. She had no idea really, so I told her we can see both salsa and bachata and she can decide what she likes more.
i was a bit worried how it would work to literally walk with her all the way to my house never mentioning we are going there and just open the door and go up together. But there was 0 hesitation on her side, she only thought for a bit where to throw the cigarette to not smoke inside and came in right away.
Escalation and Sex
After getting in, I opened the window for some fresh air, we took off our shoes, I brought some water for both and put on a basic salsa song to show her the steps.
I started by showing her the back and forth without a partner and then I held her and started doing it together. She was telling me she was bad, so I told her to close her eyes, and just feel me. She did and during the next few steps our faces started coming closer, our noses touched, and at some point I just grabbed and kissed her with her reciprocating intensely.
The rest is basically history, after some making out standing, I pushed her on the bed and continued there. I had an orgasm in my pants, was one of these days after a while of not having sex I guess, so I took 1-2 minutes to go to the bathroom to clean up a bit, but even when I came back she was just there at the bed waiting.
Not any LMR really, I took it a bit step by step from mouth, to tits, to pussy, and eventually she just asked me to put it in, which I quite like when happens.
My erection was not the hardest after finishing once alreadt, but surprisingly there was almost no refractory period so I went into it right away, and we had sex for quite a bit in different positions.
Not the most exciting sex ever, couldn’t feel the best chemistry, maybe that’s on me as well I don’t know, her body was also not the best, thin but older so not very tight in general, but she had some passion even though without verbalising much.
I didn’t manage to orgasm inside her, couldn’t get excited enough during the penetration which doesn’t usually happen, so I wanted to see if I could orgasm anyway and I had her stroke me since she didn’t want to do oral. I did orgasm from the handjob, so I assume that apart from the condom blocking some sensations during sex, she probably really didn’t do it that much for me physically during sex to excite me enough for a second orgasm some minutes after the first one.
I also wanted to make her feel good because she was asking me to orgasm and she wanted to feel me inside her but well, she also had to leave at some point. I think it’s really nice to finish inside especially the first time, that said if it doesn’t happen I don’t see much point in finishing anyway, it just drains your energy, so I will be skipping it unless I really want to make the woman feel me.
After finishing she left pretty fast to go back home, I asked and she told me that they are basically not even having sex with her husband. I sent a text later telling her I enjoyed the dancing and hope she is resting well, and she reacted with a
. Didn’t want to be very explicit, because I wanted to keep it safe and not have much written indication of what happened.
Conclusions
All in all I believe it was a very interesting experience for a number of reasons.
Firstly, I moved through her question about age and mention of marriage smoothly as if they didn’t matter at all, and I am a lover guy who doesn’t pay attention to such details, which I liked.
Secondly, I took her all the way home without building any great intimate vibe, she was following, I trusted that from the beginning what she wanted from me was sex, and led her to that. Taking it at the same time not super fast, just to be sure, but moving constantly forward, like it was normal we would end up there.
I also liked some of the frames I set, I feel they can be useful in other scenarios as well, being discreet, adventurous, exploring etc I never really talked about sex before sex, but I felt that with everything the discussion was about sex was always there in the back. I was also horny almost for the whole date which she surely felt energetically and it’s something to pay attention to for creating a strong sexual vibe.
Last but not least, It was the first penetrative sex in few months now, so it’s always good to find a way to overcome a dry spell.
I was coming back home after a night out at a kink party. My first one, I loved the vibe, didn’t manage to pull a girl in the couples area for some fun, but I did get a kiss plus another number, so I was feeling pretty well and horny.
As I entered the train to get back home I noticed a woman standing with her back towards the window on my left. Feeling that she also noticed me I approached with a compliment about her energy.
I walked and stood next to her and although she felt receptive she walked towards the window of the other side. I stayed chill where I was, kept talking to her from this distance, and almost right away she came back and stood on my other side.
I could feel some interest, we did some basic small talk with playful undertones, aka I was horny so I knew she was into me too. She also seemed pretty open so as I had only few minutes to get to the next station I told her that I’d invite her for a drink now, but it’s a bit late, so let’s do it some other time. We exchanged numbers just before my station and I left.
Texting
I sent an icebreaker after about half an hour, it was almost 6 am, and she responded in a bit telling me she must sleep and it was nice to meet me.
The next day on Sunday, I woke up quite late and around 7pm I asked her how the rest was going for her and that I spent my time chilling by the sun. She told she would go out to a karaoke to get some air.
She asked me where I was last night, party or work, I told her I try not to work that late on Saturday and asked her back, telling her she really knows how to enjoy life with parties and karaokes.
Her next text was asking me how old I am. I answered: 29, you? She said 45, about 2 hours later. So I decided to treat it as unimportant information, and continued the conversation normally asking her how was the karaoke and saying I had a drink with a friend.
She said it is great, and that she plans to go home. I told her that if she in the mood for more fresh air, I’ve just returned to my area. She responded maybe some other time. It was around midnight at that moment.
I reacted with a wink kiss emoji, and then asked if she had a difficult week coming up. Also told her I am pretty full with some dance classes but at least it will be fun. She told me I can invite her to the dance classes with a blushing face emoji.
I told her that’s difficult because they are in the middle but I can take her out dancing. I asked her if she does any salsa or bachata.
She said no, you can teach me I like to. So I told her that if she is an enthusiastic student I’d love to. She said hey now, I can try to be
. I told her that’s the spirit and asked when she is during the week.She gave me Tuesday, Wednesday and Friday too. I told her I have a dance class on Tuesday at 20:30, and we can meet before that, and practice outside. She said we will see
. I told her have a sweet night my student, and she wished me one back.On Tuesday I texted her around 10 am how has this beautiful week started. She told me as Scarlett O’Hara would say: Every day is a new day, we’ll see
, and you? And every new day a new adventure I added, then told her I can’t help but smile when the sun is peeking from the clouds.She agreed, wrote sun sun sun and that she is also waiting for it. So I asked her how her time is for later today. She said she doesn’t work but has things to do until 15:00, so I proposed we meet at 16:30.
At that moment she texted: yeah for sure but you know nothing about me… like… I’m married, just to know. I don’t need to hide it but I think it’s good to know. Is that OK for you?
Yes that is ok
, we’ll grab a coffee to get to know each other anyway, was my answer. And to show me some dancing steps , she added. That’s my eager student , I told her.Then we planned exactly where to meet, she told me she hopes I can recognise her and she is not sure if she can remember my face. I told her we’ll find each other.
Date location
The time to meet arrived, she had texted that she would be half an hour later than planned, but that was the exact delay only. She was wearing a blue flowery dress, she did look older under the sunlight, but still cute.
I could feel that she was interested but also reserved. I gave her a compliment about how she looked in her dress and we walked towards an outside bar nearby, taking coffee and tea and sitting at a couch next to each other.
I had started asking her about what she enjoys doing, how is she in her life, mixing it with playful comments about her going out to party and do karaoke, framing her as enjoying the moment and that is something I love.
The vibe she generally gave me after we talked for a bit and I went for a deep dive, was that she is a bored woman, doing some jobs she doesn’t like, without much money, her husband not paying anything for her, with 2 kids from another guy, one back in her home country one here, trying to fill her time with parties and karaoke.
She was telling me how wild she is especially after midnight, so I was also telling her I love that, we should enjoy the moment since that is all we have. I also talked about how to not pay attention to what other people want, and focus on enjoying who you are and what you want since you are not harming anyone, because she mentioned she feels like people always try to tell her that this is right and this is wrong but she really doesn’t have bad intentions.
I also said not to focus on what others say because a lot of times they are just jealous and would like what we have, like for example a girl would see her with an attractive guy and call her easy just because she is not the one with him. And that I believe you don’t need to provoke people with different ideas about life, you do what you want, live life your way, and it’s noone’s business really.
Throughout these I was giving slight touches to her hand and leg, she was touching a tiny bit too, but generally there was a clear distance between us in the couch. I could still feel some interest, but also that she was still reserved.
She also mentioned that she wanted cigarettes to smoke with the coffee, I had her stay and finish the coffee with me and not go somewhere away to buy cigarettes in the middle of it. Afterwards we did go for her to buy them and we started walking.
Walking and pull
I proposed to show her a place, classic cool place with nice view in my area. I wanted to take her a bit more around, see how her vibe was, if she needed to come a bit closer before the pull, and use this smoking time to build some more intimate moments.
As we were going up the place with the nice view, she mentioned if I am wild, I asked her what she thinks, she told me she doesn’t feel I am, I told her her that well, she doesn’t really know me yet, so don’t be quick to judge. Took her up at the view, she really liked it, but didn’t want to stay there to smoke, there were a bunch of people anyway.
Going down I was feeling that she wasn’t really the type to come closer and more intimate first, so instead of my initial plan of sitting at some bench to warm her up some more I just decided to start walking towards my place.
During that walk I asked her some more intimate things as well like what she likes in men, her whole vibe though kept being a bit sarcastic or let’s say not so much into connecting deeply, although she did ask me back, and I said women who can be feminine but know what they want and live their life without caring about what other people think of them.
Then I mentioned dancing, and asked her which dance she would like to try. She had no idea really, so I told her we can see both salsa and bachata and she can decide what she likes more.
i was a bit worried how it would work to literally walk with her all the way to my house never mentioning we are going there and just open the door and go up together. But there was 0 hesitation on her side, she only thought for a bit where to throw the cigarette to not smoke inside and came in right away.
Escalation and Sex
After getting in, I opened the window for some fresh air, we took off our shoes, I brought some water for both and put on a basic salsa song to show her the steps.
I started by showing her the back and forth without a partner and then I held her and started doing it together. She was telling me she was bad, so I told her to close her eyes, and just feel me. She did and during the next few steps our faces started coming closer, our noses touched, and at some point I just grabbed and kissed her with her reciprocating intensely.
The rest is basically history, after some making out standing, I pushed her on the bed and continued there. I had an orgasm in my pants, was one of these days after a while of not having sex I guess, so I took 1-2 minutes to go to the bathroom to clean up a bit, but even when I came back she was just there at the bed waiting.
Not any LMR really, I took it a bit step by step from mouth, to tits, to pussy, and eventually she just asked me to put it in, which I quite like when happens.
My erection was not the hardest after finishing once alreadt, but surprisingly there was almost no refractory period so I went into it right away, and we had sex for quite a bit in different positions.
Not the most exciting sex ever, couldn’t feel the best chemistry, maybe that’s on me as well I don’t know, her body was also not the best, thin but older so not very tight in general, but she had some passion even though without verbalising much.
I didn’t manage to orgasm inside her, couldn’t get excited enough during the penetration which doesn’t usually happen, so I wanted to see if I could orgasm anyway and I had her stroke me since she didn’t want to do oral. I did orgasm from the handjob, so I assume that apart from the condom blocking some sensations during sex, she probably really didn’t do it that much for me physically during sex to excite me enough for a second orgasm some minutes after the first one.
I also wanted to make her feel good because she was asking me to orgasm and she wanted to feel me inside her but well, she also had to leave at some point. I think it’s really nice to finish inside especially the first time, that said if it doesn’t happen I don’t see much point in finishing anyway, it just drains your energy, so I will be skipping it unless I really want to make the woman feel me.
After finishing she left pretty fast to go back home, I asked and she told me that they are basically not even having sex with her husband. I sent a text later telling her I enjoyed the dancing and hope she is resting well, and she reacted with a
. Didn’t want to be very explicit, because I wanted to keep it safe and not have much written indication of what happened. Conclusions
All in all I believe it was a very interesting experience for a number of reasons.
Firstly, I moved through her question about age and mention of marriage smoothly as if they didn’t matter at all, and I am a lover guy who doesn’t pay attention to such details, which I liked.
Secondly, I took her all the way home without building any great intimate vibe, she was following, I trusted that from the beginning what she wanted from me was sex, and led her to that. Taking it at the same time not super fast, just to be sure, but moving constantly forward, like it was normal we would end up there.
I also liked some of the frames I set, I feel they can be useful in other scenarios as well, being discreet, adventurous, exploring etc I never really talked about sex before sex, but I felt that with everything the discussion was about sex was always there in the back. I was also horny almost for the whole date which she surely felt energetically and it’s something to pay attention to for creating a strong sexual vibe.
Last but not least, It was the first penetrative sex in few months now, so it’s always good to find a way to overcome a dry spell.
