Escalating Past Sticking Point

[Anonymous]

Hi all,
I'm having trouble escalating past a certain point with a rather conservative girl I've been seeing.
She's been coming over to my place once a week for about four weeks now, and we always end up doing a lot of kissing, caressing, and dry-humping, but anytime I try something explicitly sexual (feeling her breasts, undoing her bra or pants), I get stopped. I am making incremental progress with each new encounter, but it's just that, incremental (I grabbed her ass and one of her bra shoulder slips stayed off for the first time yesterday).
Any tips on how to move past this sticking point?
Also, how would I remove her shirt in a smooth way, and is there an optimal order for our clothes to come off? (Mine first, her's first? Pants or shirt?)
The one thing I haven't tried is kissing her midsection, but she loves making out, and breaking that feels like it would be awkward.

 

[Howell]

Hi all,
I'm having trouble escalating past a certain point with a rather conservative girl I've been seeing.
She's been coming over to my place once a week for about four weeks now, and we always end up doing a lot of kissing, caressing, and dry-humping, but anytime I try something explicitly sexual (feeling her breasts, undoing her bra or pants), I get stopped. I am making incremental progress with each new encounter, but it's just that, incremental (I grabbed her ass and one of her bra shoulder slips stayed off for the first time yesterday).
Any tips on how to move past this sticking point?
Also, how would I remove her shirt in a smooth way, and is there an optimal order for our clothes to come off? (Mine first, her's first? Pants or shirt?)
The one thing I haven't tried is kissing her midsection, but she loves making out, and breaking that feels like it would be awkward.

Wouldn't really call this a sticking point, as it's just a girl putting up long term defenses to get you highly invested. The best way to move past it though would be to bring new women into your life, as then you would not waste your time pursuing one girl over such a long period of time who is playing such games. Also: preselection.

If you do end up having sex, she'll probably want it to appear like she's doing you a favor -- and only grudgingly -- as that gives her a fair bit of power of you; it's a strong frame for her. It'll be bad for the relationship though. Just remember that women LOVE sex, and they love it way more than almost any guy can.

If you go get involved with other women, that would help you out (in many ways). Another thing would be to drop off her radar for a while and make her chase you, and if she doesn't, you can move on, as right now she is clearly not seeing you as a high value man with options, so even if things move forward, the power structure of the relationship will not be good.

So this is not a technique thing, most likely. The problem is that you are not conveying that you are a highly desirable (and desired) man whose time is valuable and who is not available as a boyfriend -- at least until after you've learned about your guys' sexual compatibility.

 

[Thedoctor]

aguy,

These articles should help you out:

https://www.girlschase.com/content/take- ... escalation

https://www.girlschase.com/content/secre ... objections

-John