Growing up I had a friend who always dressed well, I mean he dressed to impress and girls were always giving him compliments regulary. I always felt that he was better/cooler than me but when I got to know him better turns out he was just a looser like most guys. I'v noticed that in the past I always thought/perceived that friends or other people who dressed better than me were or must be better/cooler than me but as I have grown up and have learned more about fashion I realized how you look can influence how people perceive you. Recently i have been upgrading my fashion/looks and am getting good compliments everywhere, this has boosted my ego a lot and I feel like am way better/cooler than most guys. I Want to research more about this psychology... Have you guys ever felt that someone who dressed better than you was/is better/cooler than you? Share your story
Ever felt people who dressed better must be cooler than you?
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I've had a similar experience - but I personally never see anyone as a "loser". There was a guy I knew in high school who had solid fundamentals - very good walk and posture he was very social and I though he was really cool. I learned how to have a sexy walk from him - as I got to know him better I realised he has weaknesses too like everyone else : I was much smarter than him academically and therefore understood social interactions better than he did - everything he knew was in his subconscious.
After I learned these things I didn't see him as a loser but as human like everyone else everyone has natural strengths and weaknesses. when you don't know someone very well you only see the surface their fundamentals and base social skills it seems as though they have no imperfections. This is what helped me feel more comfortable talking to girls I found extremely attractive yeah she looks close to perfect walking on the street with her butt switching but when you sit her down and talk to her she has weaknesses like everyone else she's human. Maybe she had to go on this crazy diet to get her amazing figure - maybe she was lucky and her parents made her do tons of sports which resulted in her current feminine body.
Everyone wants to put their best face to show the public. Don't be fooled by it - everyone is born equal its the ones that work hardest that rise above others.
Skid
After I learned these things I didn't see him as a loser but as human like everyone else everyone has natural strengths and weaknesses. when you don't know someone very well you only see the surface their fundamentals and base social skills it seems as though they have no imperfections. This is what helped me feel more comfortable talking to girls I found extremely attractive yeah she looks close to perfect walking on the street with her butt switching but when you sit her down and talk to her she has weaknesses like everyone else she's human. Maybe she had to go on this crazy diet to get her amazing figure - maybe she was lucky and her parents made her do tons of sports which resulted in her current feminine body.
Everyone wants to put their best face to show the public. Don't be fooled by it - everyone is born equal its the ones that work hardest that rise above others.
Skid
Being dressed well is one of the quickest ways of standing out and grabbing attention. It actually gets you noticed quicker than your face, along with your hair.
Having good hair + good style helps enhance your face. Unless you have a face that matches with a lot of different hairstyles, you want to optimize your hair and clothing.
I think the most important thing about dress is that it exhibits certain qualities about you without having to say anything. It can communicate massive passive value. It's not necessarily about the cost or the brand you're wearing but the story that your style is telling.
So yes, dressing well is a very important aspect. It communicates a certain level of social intelligence and awareness. But it doesn't always translate to sexual prowess or social skills. In concert with those things, dressing well is a synergistic component of meeting women.
Also, dressing too flashy or wearing clothes that draw attention away from your face is detrimental. The outfit should be framing you, not the other way around. That's why the saying is, it's man who makes the clothes, not the clothes that make the man. You have to wear clothing intentionally and in a way that accentuates who you are, your character and not simply to attract attention.
Your style should be an extension of who you are, so that when people see you, they can get a glimpse of the kind of person you are. It's very nonchalant, and part of "sprezzatura".
Having good hair + good style helps enhance your face. Unless you have a face that matches with a lot of different hairstyles, you want to optimize your hair and clothing.
I think the most important thing about dress is that it exhibits certain qualities about you without having to say anything. It can communicate massive passive value. It's not necessarily about the cost or the brand you're wearing but the story that your style is telling.
So yes, dressing well is a very important aspect. It communicates a certain level of social intelligence and awareness. But it doesn't always translate to sexual prowess or social skills. In concert with those things, dressing well is a synergistic component of meeting women.
Also, dressing too flashy or wearing clothes that draw attention away from your face is detrimental. The outfit should be framing you, not the other way around. That's why the saying is, it's man who makes the clothes, not the clothes that make the man. You have to wear clothing intentionally and in a way that accentuates who you are, your character and not simply to attract attention.
Your style should be an extension of who you are, so that when people see you, they can get a glimpse of the kind of person you are. It's very nonchalant, and part of "sprezzatura".