Ever set standards then raise them once they are finally attainable

[Start_ed_young]

Anyone else go through this cycle:

Alright so I am currently a virgin and when. I first started trying with girls, I was like “Okay if I could get a girl about the same as her actractiveness, I’d smash.” then a month roles around and I hear theough the grape vine that some bitch slightly better looking than her is crazy about me. The. I’m like”Uhhhhh, alright let’s consider this” then I think about for a while and I’m like “welllllll, I suppose if I can attract her then I will be able to attract girls even better looking.”

I’ve went through that again and again, and now I’ve got a small group of about6 or 7 girls I could fuck if I wanted. But the thing is I’m not always sure if they re good enough for me to lose it to. Like I’m really scared that I’ll think back about who I lost my virginity too And just have a feeling of regret.

Anyways do any of you have this issue of never ending increasing of standards, if so what do honk the reasoning for it is? And is it even a bad thing?

Cheers,
Young

 

[ThePhoenix]

Hey Young,

Personally, my advice would be, if there are 6 or 7 girls you could fuck, go for it!! Get at least 1 or 2 of them, if not all of them! I wish I had paid any real attention to getting laid when I was your age. The longer you leave it, the harder it gets.

Now, if you're totally not ready for it, I would never push someone into it. That's a judgement call you must make for yourself; I am just sharing my perspective as someone a lot older, based on how I conducted myself at your age vs. how I wish I had've conducted myself.

I think you may be ascribing too much importance to that one single act of "losing your virginity". From my own experience as well as that I hear from others, more often than not it's not nearly as big a deal as you make it out to be in your head. In the big picture, who you lose it to doesn't end up mattering all that much. What matters is getting rid of it!

"Virgins cognitively segregate sex from everyday experience."

Obviously, use protection! (Do NOT trust anything she says about being a virgin, being on birth control, etc.)

Now, since you're in a high school setting (if I'm correct), there are some social dynamics you may need to pay attention to. I can't speak much to that because in high school, I was braindead when it came to girls. Just don't do what I did! (Which was: absolutely nothing.)

If high school is anything like life in general, it's mostly the females that stand to potentially lose reputation from fucking the wrong person. Males are generally revered simply for being promiscuous. And there's a distinction between fucking a girl and making her your girlfriend. The former is a "you win" and the latter is a "she wins". You don't want to let her win, at least unless she's high quality AND you won (fucked) with her first. So, you probably won't damage your rep much simply by smashing a girl that's only half-decent; girlfriending her would be a different story. Buckugly could be a different story, too. But again, I was braindead in high school so you may want to get advice from someone who knew what he was doing in that environment.

Phoenix

 

[Hector Papi Castillo]

For every level, there's another devil Once you reach stage 10, you want stage 11. This is completely normal. Super hot girls will start to become..well, normal.

Hector