Ex-Coworkers and Asking them out

[Theozil10]

Hey Guys,

Hoping you could shed some light on a certain situation.

I finished working at a shop a little over a week ago. The shop was fun, everyone was friendly and fun to work with... and there were loads of girls that worked there. I got on well there, I was fun, chatty and sometimes a little flirtatious with most of the girls. I could tell that they all responded well to me and most of them seemed to like me.

One girl in particular started the same day as me and we were both assigned as supervisors. So we spent a lot of time working together and helping each other out. She seemed to like me, she would show interest in what I did outside of work and even asking me what I had for lunch on most days. The odd occasion she would throw a compliment my way and did a few light kino touches.

Anyways, I didn't see her my last week and have to go back in at some point to collect some paperwork. I'm wondering whats the best way to get her out on a date. I'm not sure if being direct in this situation might be a bit much. Is it better to ask for her number or get her to add me on Facebook? Should I be indirect and ask her if she'd like to give me tips on going to Australia (she told me she did a bit of traveling over there)?

Thanks in advance

 

[fsc_old]

I'm pretty much in the same situation, but the place of work I'm quitting after this week is an on-campus store at my university, so she may present some social reputation issues.

I actually haven't worked with her for the entire quarter in fall, so I'm going to start off a little slow by asking how she has been. Then once we're isolated, I'll be going direct. I'll probably say something like:
(Look around to confirm isolation or get us isolated) Alright, look. I've actually been attracted to you since we first started, but I didn't want to do anything because I wanted to avoid any potential awkwardness. I am still very much attracted to you, and I want to take you out to go hunt and eat some gazelles.

The last time I talked to her she was going to some Ethiopian restaurant with her family, and I kinda teased her about her eating gazelles and stuff although she protested she won't be eating them. I'd say do whatever you feel is comfortable. You want to come across as confident, and doing something outside of your comfort zone for the first time may make you appear unsure and awkward. If you feel more comfortable going indirect/slow by saying something like "Hey, I really enjoyed working with you. You're just a really amazing girl. We should keep in touch", then go for it. Keep in mind that you will have to express your interest/intentions (preferably sooner than later) so she doesn't think you're just a friend she's hanging out with. Also, make her feel special. Try not to be another one of her "oh, he just asked for my number" guy or whatever. That's why I'm asking her out with the gazelle shit.

I'll be doing this within the next 7 days, and I'll let you know what happens. If you ask your girl out before I ask mine, update us on how you did it and whatnot so our fellow newbies can get a real-life example and learn.

 

[fsc_old]

Waited until she was free.
Went up to her and asked how she has been.
Complimented her headband.
Asked her to unlock a shelf for me so I can take advantage of my employee discount while I still had it.
We were isolated.
Me: I'm just kidding, I actually don't want anything. I just thought you were really pretty since we first started, and I had a thing against dating coworkers, and now that I no longer work here, I was wondering if you're single.
She was speechless and laughing
Her: Well, yes, but...(smiling and blushing)
Me: Buuut....? (smiling)
Some more laughing
Her: I'm not really okay with dating
Me: Huh? You want to skip straight to marriage then? (Laughed as I said it)
She laughed then tried to explain herself
She is basically not emotionally open to dating because she's just getting over someone or something like that.
She told me she was flattered and think I'm cool, but now isn't the time.
We agreed we'd keep in contact and stuff.
I will ping her in a few days, persist a little bit, then call it quits or escalate depending on her response.

 

[Theozil10]

Waited until she was free.
Went up to her and asked how she has been.
Complimented her headband.
Asked her to unlock a shelf for me so I can take advantage of my employee discount while I still had it.
We were isolated.
Me: I'm just kidding, I actually don't want anything. I just thought you were really pretty since we first started, and I had a thing against dating coworkers, and now that I no longer work here, I was wondering if you're single.
She was speechless and laughing
Her: Well, yes, but...(smiling and blushing)
Me: Buuut....? (smiling)
Some more laughing
Her: I'm not really okay with dating
Me: Huh? You want to skip straight to marriage then? (Laughed as I said it)
She laughed then tried to explain herself
She is basically not emotionally open to dating because she's just getting over someone or something like that.
She told me she was flattered and think I'm cool, but now isn't the time.
We agreed we'd keep in contact and stuff.
I will ping her in a few days, persist a little bit, then call it quits or escalate depending on her response.

Sounds like you did everything right! Enjoyed the marriage line. ha

I think your right about following through and persisting. Even if she is feeling down about a previous relationship, theres no reason why she can't forget about it and have a good time with you. Keep persisting, you've done well so far.

I might be heading in this weekend to sort out a few things. I'll use your template and let you know how it goes. Thanks for the tips. Keep me posted about what happens with your girl.