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So after dating around for 3 years, my ex was the first girl I cared about deeply in a long time. She was the first to say love, etc. Then seemingly out of the blue she broke up with me because she was depressed, etc, I learned that as soon as the next day she was back w/ her ex. We were together 5 months and she ended it about a month ago
current situation
Due to mutual friends and same venues, I see her all the time, and she's always hanging out around me and our friends (she would just pretend I wasn't there until I called her out that it shouldn't be weird everytime we see each other).
I always get a twinge of sadness when she's there, and my state just drops. I find myself not able to hit on girls when she's around (in fear of looking dumb if I get rejected, her thinking "wow he downgraded", other bullshit reasons), and just generally being out of state knowing that what I thought was so special was nothing, and the confidence blow being left for someone else brings
I also have no idea how to act around her. I read the "how to get your gf back article" and I've been cool, calm, and level headed (although everything in me wants to tell her off for lying to meabout why we broke up). There's some small talk now, but it just feels so weird when she's dancing with all of our friends. I don't want to cut all my friends out, or not go to the same events because of it, but how should I act? I try to be disinterested, but when she talks to me my natural escalation skills kick in and I find my arm on her should as she leans in to talk, etc.
So after dating around for 3 years, my ex was the first girl I cared about deeply in a long time. She was the first to say love, etc. Then seemingly out of the blue she broke up with me because she was depressed, etc, I learned that as soon as the next day she was back w/ her ex. We were together 5 months and she ended it about a month ago
current situation
Due to mutual friends and same venues, I see her all the time, and she's always hanging out around me and our friends (she would just pretend I wasn't there until I called her out that it shouldn't be weird everytime we see each other).
I always get a twinge of sadness when she's there, and my state just drops. I find myself not able to hit on girls when she's around (in fear of looking dumb if I get rejected, her thinking "wow he downgraded", other bullshit reasons), and just generally being out of state knowing that what I thought was so special was nothing, and the confidence blow being left for someone else brings
I also have no idea how to act around her. I read the "how to get your gf back article" and I've been cool, calm, and level headed (although everything in me wants to tell her off for lying to meabout why we broke up). There's some small talk now, but it just feels so weird when she's dancing with all of our friends. I don't want to cut all my friends out, or not go to the same events because of it, but how should I act? I try to be disinterested, but when she talks to me my natural escalation skills kick in and I find my arm on her should as she leans in to talk, etc.
