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Met an Australian girl on a bike the other night and got her number. We decided to meet up last night.
We meet at a coffee shop and have a great conversation and I learn a lot about her. Great connection. Then I pull her back to my place by saying there was a poem (she is an aspiring writer) I wanted to show her, and tell her the place we are going has cheap drinks and great music. We leave and I use a steady stream of light banter to get her home (riding bikes). It works and I make some hot chocolate and share the poem. She drinks water instead. I have her take off her shoes and we chat then eventually I put on the most boring movie imaginable, about a book we'd both read. We are in my bed and I want to try making a move after the movie, liking the honesty of saying "Hey, let's watch a movie", and actually doing that w/o pretenses. I also wanted to see if I could have sex with her before even kissing her, as I read that that can be quite exciting for girls. I start getting tired though so decide it is best to do something, so I lay down in bed and have her come up against me. Get her top off and we make out etc. but she won't take her pants off since she says she just met me. We are laying, fooling around and chatting and I sleepily reveal too much about my opinions on marriage and dating, in particular I tell her (immediate regret) that I had been challenging myself to get with her without kissing her. Not surprisingly she doesn't like that and starts feeling self-conscious and easy. However we just start teasing one another and fooling around anyway. She says boredom and loneliness is why she is here and calls me a cad half-jokingly, basically feeling like I didn't like her for her and just saw her as a conquest. She only half-believed that though and we both still seem to like one another. It's playful and we're still both apparently enjoying ourselves.
It is snowing now and she decides to call a cab because she says that if she were to stay the night she doesn't think she could not have sex when we woke up (throughout the scenario we were rather candid). Failed to convince her to stay. She's been trying to insult me because I think I insulted her and I am able to only sooth her a little. However, she leaves amiably and basically says that next time we hang out she wants to sleep with me. I give a noncommittal response on whether we should meet again.
I looked up this morning what a cad is and there's definitely some truth in that -- I am aware of the codes of conduct which separates a gentleman from a ruffian but sometimes find myself unable to live up to those standards.
I need to work on:
1) Being more passionate.
2) Being less contentious and free with the opinions I share (in particular when it comes to dating and relationships, especially before a relationship has been consumated.)
3) Focusing primarily on sharing things that are relational and that help form a connection and thread-cutting unproductive topics.
Looking forward to your criticism,
Oskar
We meet at a coffee shop and have a great conversation and I learn a lot about her. Great connection. Then I pull her back to my place by saying there was a poem (she is an aspiring writer) I wanted to show her, and tell her the place we are going has cheap drinks and great music. We leave and I use a steady stream of light banter to get her home (riding bikes). It works and I make some hot chocolate and share the poem. She drinks water instead. I have her take off her shoes and we chat then eventually I put on the most boring movie imaginable, about a book we'd both read. We are in my bed and I want to try making a move after the movie, liking the honesty of saying "Hey, let's watch a movie", and actually doing that w/o pretenses. I also wanted to see if I could have sex with her before even kissing her, as I read that that can be quite exciting for girls. I start getting tired though so decide it is best to do something, so I lay down in bed and have her come up against me. Get her top off and we make out etc. but she won't take her pants off since she says she just met me. We are laying, fooling around and chatting and I sleepily reveal too much about my opinions on marriage and dating, in particular I tell her (immediate regret) that I had been challenging myself to get with her without kissing her. Not surprisingly she doesn't like that and starts feeling self-conscious and easy. However we just start teasing one another and fooling around anyway. She says boredom and loneliness is why she is here and calls me a cad half-jokingly, basically feeling like I didn't like her for her and just saw her as a conquest. She only half-believed that though and we both still seem to like one another. It's playful and we're still both apparently enjoying ourselves.
It is snowing now and she decides to call a cab because she says that if she were to stay the night she doesn't think she could not have sex when we woke up (throughout the scenario we were rather candid). Failed to convince her to stay. She's been trying to insult me because I think I insulted her and I am able to only sooth her a little. However, she leaves amiably and basically says that next time we hang out she wants to sleep with me. I give a noncommittal response on whether we should meet again.
I looked up this morning what a cad is and there's definitely some truth in that -- I am aware of the codes of conduct which separates a gentleman from a ruffian but sometimes find myself unable to live up to those standards.
I need to work on:
1) Being more passionate.
2) Being less contentious and free with the opinions I share (in particular when it comes to dating and relationships, especially before a relationship has been consumated.)
3) Focusing primarily on sharing things that are relational and that help form a connection and thread-cutting unproductive topics.
Looking forward to your criticism,
Oskar
Good job either way, u got a blow job from her.
