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when you first get to know a girl, the power dynamics is always often in the shadows. Power shifts from left to right and you both teasing each other's balls (,hers is imaginary). 
Anyway,
I realize something. Expectation setting and Power shifts are very different, but they walk a fine line. Given an example where a guy and girl lives together, and you already did a list of things you do and don't do, what she expects and what you expect. When life progresses, there be newer responsibilites, example, bills will be higher, who throws out the trash, yada yada. Chase mention this awhile back, this is very true. As cliche as this is, Communication is very important in a relationship, and any human based communications. If you happen to read Ricardus "Stop playing games in your relationship", he noted that his girl was feeling insecure about him, because she seem distant, and he decided to communicate with her, in a rather dominant but accommodating way.
So how one tries to not play games in a relationship, maintain expectations and remain in control without power shift entirely onto her?
I believe the key to this is expect yourself doing social cunning, game playing, ball busting with your girl some of the time, while maintaining expectations. This is the law of the land. YOu guys need to know that each of you are strong for each other. But When you do social cunning, ball busting, always remember to build emotions back up. This is FUCKING IMPORTANT. This is where you Stop playing games in your relationship. I see so many guys who are successful but not that successful because they didn't bring the partner back up.
trust me, you don't want a multitude of resentment up your a$$.
Zac
Anyway,I realize something. Expectation setting and Power shifts are very different, but they walk a fine line. Given an example where a guy and girl lives together, and you already did a list of things you do and don't do, what she expects and what you expect. When life progresses, there be newer responsibilites, example, bills will be higher, who throws out the trash, yada yada. Chase mention this awhile back, this is very true. As cliche as this is, Communication is very important in a relationship, and any human based communications. If you happen to read Ricardus "Stop playing games in your relationship", he noted that his girl was feeling insecure about him, because she seem distant, and he decided to communicate with her, in a rather dominant but accommodating way.
So how one tries to not play games in a relationship, maintain expectations and remain in control without power shift entirely onto her?
I believe the key to this is expect yourself doing social cunning, game playing, ball busting with your girl some of the time, while maintaining expectations. This is the law of the land. YOu guys need to know that each of you are strong for each other. But When you do social cunning, ball busting, always remember to build emotions back up. This is FUCKING IMPORTANT. This is where you Stop playing games in your relationship. I see so many guys who are successful but not that successful because they didn't bring the partner back up.
trust me, you don't want a multitude of resentment up your a$$.
Zac
