Expectations mismatch

[Jan]

I have recently been very close to a successful seductions but I failed at a certain stage because she wasn't able to meet my expectations, or I wasn't able to meet hers.

I look for short term fun and they usually seek something more meaningul. I feel like there is almost inherent mismatch between my expectations and those of women.

I always try to be honest and upfront with her but it seems like this is counterproductive. It seems like when I mention my expectations she would ask for EVEN MORE.

How do you guys handle this situation? Do you compromise your standards/expectations regarding to what you want from her and more importantly what you can give her, or do you somehow try to influence her expectations to meet yours?

It has derailed so many good leads, it's unbelievable.

 

[Zoro]

I suggest you write up a field report so we have details.

Going out on a limb here since there’s not much to go on, but it seems like you’re assuming women think like men.

Communicating with men is straight forward for men, be direct and clear and your message will get across.

Communicating with women is different. Men who speak to women as if they are men, will wonder why women aren’t responding well to them.

Women are emotional creatures and for them to have real interest in a man, they must feel something. That means “speaking” to their heart.

In a way, communicating with women is not about the words you use. It’s about the actions you take and behaviors you have that create an experience, a vibe, a dance.

You don’t want to tell her what you want. You want to lead her into your world, give her an invitation to play and dance with you there, and let her know she can stay if she wishes.

and the less you do this words, and the more you do it with subcomunications through actions, the more you will be speaking to a woman’s heart/emotions.

 

[Jan]

I suggest you write up a field report so we have details.

I've written a report. https://www.skilledseducer.com/threads/expectations-mismatch-on-a-date-and-poor-sexual-vibe.27085/