Dear All,
I am following the articles on girlschase since last 1 year. Hence I felt it might be useful to share my experience with other users specially those new to the forum and the website. I must admit in the beginning it was difficult to accept and follow everything written and advised. I have always remained what many would describe here to be a chaser, and can probably define my past as "A guy who chased a girl with an idea of how love should be without considering any relationship dynamics". Honestly speaking, publically humiliated by the girl I proposed brought me here, since I just could not figure out what went wrong. The icing on the cake was the same girl slept with a friend of mine. If I may break down my experience with girlschase into two significant points it would be
- Fundamentals
- Approaches
I am a researcher by profession (molecular biology) and it always impresses me when Chase cites specific research articles as arguments. I took the article on fundamentals damn seriously, since in total the whole website was proving to be a bit too much of an information to process fast. At least for the first three months I did not see any difference, and it was the period I also started making a lot to approaches on girls. Well almost no one responded, a few did but declined politely and almost no one noticed any changes in myself. I must admit I was dissappointed, but the habit of excelling at a task taken, motivated me forward. Hence I worked really hard (am still working) on how I must walk, dress up, move, make eye contact...and its not easy. Its a constant challenge I kept putting in front of me to be smooth, slow and sure of myself and avoid being a klutz.
The first thing I noticed was the fact that even though I had not met and slept with a girl for 6 months, friends at my workplace, specially females gave me compliments, the most common was "you are quite elegant". If I look back, I would estimate that I have approached close to 60-70 girls. At first it was random as I often forgot the importance of pre-opening. However in the last three months I felt more sure of myself and rather than asking for the number first I try to first set up a date. If she disagrees I move on without bothering for facebook, email, mobile etc etc. Most of the times I have faced rejections, but mostly polite ones. I realized that approaching girls does not turn them into man guzzling demons (as I previously thought). I managed to sleep with three girls in the last 2 months, two of them were average looking and one I would say is cute. This fact is coming from a person who had not slept with a girl in the last 2 years of his life and was once contemplating to go to a prostitute.
Looking back I feel a difference after one year, I wont say I am good, often I break a sweat, sometimes while talking to a really beautiful girl I get self doubts, but I would continue working on it. I found day approaches specially at train and bus stops to work best for me while pubs and night clubs were always super dissappointing. A problem area I noticed is the fact that I am a kind of person who finds it really hard to say no to people. The issue snowballed when a girl I slept with wanted to take things to the next level, I refused and she created a lot of drama, accusing me of being *****. I had never promised her anything and I wonder why would she accuse me of not fulfilling something I never promised. Maybe it might be a good idea for Chase to write an article about "how to say no" in general in life and specially to girls who want a relationship.
Thats my status at the moment, see you next time, hopefully with new experiences.
I am following the articles on girlschase since last 1 year. Hence I felt it might be useful to share my experience with other users specially those new to the forum and the website. I must admit in the beginning it was difficult to accept and follow everything written and advised. I have always remained what many would describe here to be a chaser, and can probably define my past as "A guy who chased a girl with an idea of how love should be without considering any relationship dynamics". Honestly speaking, publically humiliated by the girl I proposed brought me here, since I just could not figure out what went wrong. The icing on the cake was the same girl slept with a friend of mine. If I may break down my experience with girlschase into two significant points it would be
- Fundamentals
- Approaches
I am a researcher by profession (molecular biology) and it always impresses me when Chase cites specific research articles as arguments. I took the article on fundamentals damn seriously, since in total the whole website was proving to be a bit too much of an information to process fast. At least for the first three months I did not see any difference, and it was the period I also started making a lot to approaches on girls. Well almost no one responded, a few did but declined politely and almost no one noticed any changes in myself. I must admit I was dissappointed, but the habit of excelling at a task taken, motivated me forward. Hence I worked really hard (am still working) on how I must walk, dress up, move, make eye contact...and its not easy. Its a constant challenge I kept putting in front of me to be smooth, slow and sure of myself and avoid being a klutz.
The first thing I noticed was the fact that even though I had not met and slept with a girl for 6 months, friends at my workplace, specially females gave me compliments, the most common was "you are quite elegant". If I look back, I would estimate that I have approached close to 60-70 girls. At first it was random as I often forgot the importance of pre-opening. However in the last three months I felt more sure of myself and rather than asking for the number first I try to first set up a date. If she disagrees I move on without bothering for facebook, email, mobile etc etc. Most of the times I have faced rejections, but mostly polite ones. I realized that approaching girls does not turn them into man guzzling demons (as I previously thought). I managed to sleep with three girls in the last 2 months, two of them were average looking and one I would say is cute. This fact is coming from a person who had not slept with a girl in the last 2 years of his life and was once contemplating to go to a prostitute.
Looking back I feel a difference after one year, I wont say I am good, often I break a sweat, sometimes while talking to a really beautiful girl I get self doubts, but I would continue working on it. I found day approaches specially at train and bus stops to work best for me while pubs and night clubs were always super dissappointing. A problem area I noticed is the fact that I am a kind of person who finds it really hard to say no to people. The issue snowballed when a girl I slept with wanted to take things to the next level, I refused and she created a lot of drama, accusing me of being *****. I had never promised her anything and I wonder why would she accuse me of not fulfilling something I never promised. Maybe it might be a good idea for Chase to write an article about "how to say no" in general in life and specially to girls who want a relationship.
Thats my status at the moment, see you next time, hopefully with new experiences.
