Eye Contact

[Novacane]

I've been recently practising holding my eye contact with people as they hold conversations with me, but I have started to notice it may make people feel un easy I may hold eye contact through out a persons reply and look away only at the end for a brief moment then resume to hold eye contact. I noticed that when I do hold eye contact with whom ever I may be speaking to I tend to keep a neutral semi bored faced and only really seem to light up if the topic interests me. Is it wrong to hold eye contact for to long when speaking to people as in not breaking it all to much through out the conversation? I want to strike the right balance due to the fact I can see it in the other person that it makes them un easy aha any help would be appreciated! (My apologies if this question comes across vague)

 

[Franco]

Hey Novacane,

Yeah, this one can be a real bugger when you're first starting out. It's something that you learn to feel out as you begin to converse with a lot of different people, but Chase has some good advice to get you started in this article:

Eye Contact Flirting

Make sure to keep practicing, though! Eventually you'll find what feels comfortable for you and also still keeps the other party intrigued and interested as well.

- Franco

 

[Novacane]

My eye contact is great when it comes to moving interactions and getting things moving but outside of seduction my eye contact isn't really strong I tend to drop it or not look at the person all together I've been working on it but feel like im pushing it to an extreme, seeing as how when I do speak to someone outside of seduction and hold eye contact whether it be a guy or girl if it is not a friend they tend to give off this vibe of being uncomfortable.

 

[Franco]

but feel like im pushing it to an extreme, seeing as how when I do speak to someone outside of seduction and hold eye contact whether it be a guy or girl if it is not a friend they tend to give off this vibe of being uncomfortable.

One way to avoid this is to use head gestures when people are speaking -- this helps lessen the "intensity" of your gaze. For example, if someone is speaking about something you agree with, you can still maintain eye contact, but nod your head and say, "right, right."

Also, you should make sure to smile once in awhile if someone says something that is pleasing or that you agree with. Sometimes a warm smile can make that person feel like you are just really enjoying what he or she is saying and that he or she has your undivided attention.

Little tricks like these can really take the edge off of your gaze and put people at ease.

- Franco

 

[Novacane]

Thank you Franco! I'll attempt to implement these new ideas when holding eye contact.

 

[Anonymous]

eye contact is biggest problem for me since my childhood , still have ...i do many things to improve but did not work

 

[Flames]

eye contact is biggest problem for me since my childhood , still have ...i do many things to improve but did not work

Read up on non-verbal and micro expressions, although its not about EC while brushing up those skills you pretty much understand EC by default, you'll still have to work at it but it really does help IMO.

I actually went completely non-verbal as an experiment for about 6 months with a few of the girls round work and while it was great practice it lead to some really odd behaviour.

 

[Chicothat]

I've been recently practising holding my eye contact with people as they hold conversations with me, but I have started to notice it may make people feel un easy I may hold eye contact through out a persons reply and look away only at the end for a brief moment then resume to hold eye contact. I noticed that when I do hold eye contact with whom ever I may be speaking to I tend to keep a neutral semi bored faced and only really seem to light up if the topic interests me. Is it wrong to hold eye contact for to long when speaking to people as in not breaking it all to much through out the conversation? I want to strike the right balance due to the fact I can see it in the other person that it makes them un easy aha any help would be appreciated! (My apologies if this question comes across vague)

Novacane my dude,

The best thing you can do for yourself is not to fear when you are asking a questioning as your only expanding your your awareness. This applies when you are observing your thoughts as you speak to some one or your self. Its really about how you imagine yourself to be and fully believing it for it to be conceived.

TRY THIS.

- Imagine yourself having strong eye contact.

- Go to a mirror and look at yourself in between your to eyes.

-Practice this, and always push yourself to not break eye contact with yourself exclusively and imagine yourself like you want to look like, SEXY, BOLD, PRESENCE, POWERFUL, EXOTIC< YOU ARE THE CREATOR IN THE WORLD YOU BLINK IN

- How you do one thing you do everything so maintain you focus how you would always want it to have it.

-LOOK INTO YOUR LEFT EYE PERIODICALLY AS YOU DO THIS AND INVISION YOURSELF LIKE YOU WANT YOUR REALITY TO BE SEEN AS.

-Looking into your left eye, you talk to the creative part of your brain that talks to the part of the brain that your personality made and emotions.

- Its powerful shit. So Get EXCITED TO LEVEL UP IN YOUR PERSONA.

-The eye tequnique is "mirro meditation" and more info on the left is found in the book Science of Soulmates

-Eventually you can transfer your state into another person.


Truly,

Leonidas Chase

 

[lux7]

Sometimes if I go direct and/or we're not facing each other I like to let my gaze drift ahead of us or to the side and not looking at the girls too often.

Or at least, much less than the 70-80% Chase recommends in the article: https://www.girlschase.com/content/eye-contact-flirting

Why so:

DIRECT
If direct is a bit at danger of putting you as the pursuer, letting your eyes drift away a bit more often than you otherwise would feels a bit like rebalancing the relationship as you show that you're that absorbed by her.


NOT FACING EACH OTHER
I think this is also one of those cases where you shouldn't look at her too frequently because if you're walking or sitting side by side it could feel like you're putting a lot of effort at looking into her eyes for a long time (an example I have in mind is when I go to the park and the view is in front of us, moving my head to the side is a lot of effort and is like openly telling she's the main show around ).

In these two cases, it also feels powerful and more in control not looking at her too often, you're the one that has to be won over and your gaze (+possible smile) can serve as a reward.